Have you ever cheated? Have you ever been cheated on?
The reasons women cheat are complex and vary from woman to woman. Cheating is unique to each relationship and depends on the relationship. Past experiences and trauma such as being raped or molested, upbringing, promiscuity, personality trait and mindset can all increase the chances of women cheating.
Deep desire to cheat
I have heard many people say that they do not know why someone cheated on them. Truth is, people do not decide to cheat overnight. It is a gradual process. Sometimes people say, “it just happened!” Okay…so, how did it just happen? You had to be thinking about it at some point for it to have happened!?.
Having the desire to cheat might linger on one’s mind and might not dwindle until it actually happens. Just like someone does not wake up one day and decide to walk out on their family, it was a plan in the thought process.
Constantly having needs unmet or issues solved can be problematic over time and cause some questionable actions such as cheating but there were early warning signs that someone ignored.
Gains or no gains cheating
Unless it is for sex, lust, curiosity, bargain, weak moment, being drank or feeling hurt and confused, some women cheat with someone better and someone they can build a future with. Some women mentally leave their partner long before they actually cheat so they use sex to transition into another relationship.
Some women cheat because they want to and do not want any affiliation with the person after.
Women can cheat and not feel guilty, act like nothing happened and can become even more in love and act more lovey-dovey. Interestingly, women are good at hiding cheating and might never tell their partner.
Sometimes women cheat and have no intention of living their partner. They are just being thrill seekers at the time. Doing the same routine at work and home every day can get tedious. Sometimes women want the excitement of meeting someone else for a quickie and being worried that they might get caught.
It is a whole lot of sneaky business! The different emotions make them come alive, feel like a child and have them feeling excited.
Hostility
Sometimes there is a window where couples argue and do not speak to each other so women use it as an opportunity to cheat. During the vexation period, women feel better about cheating because they do not feel too guilty as it becomes easier for them to fulfil their sexual desire and infatuation.
Independent women
Women are now more empowered, educated and work to sustain themselves so may not compromise as much and decide to cheat. These women tend to leave relationships easily.
With many men after them, it is easy for them to leave A to be with B, C, D and even Z. It is a competitive market with many men to choose from, the catch is that most of these men are already in a committed relationship or married.
So why do women cheat?
Sexual variety, curiosity, experimentation
Sometimes women cheat for sexual variety, curiosity, experimentation, out of being drunk, not thinking clearly or because they are a “jamet or wah wat.”
Some women may cheat to get back at their partner, if they had the right opportunity and person or when they find someone who turns them on and gets them “wet and cum” just by seeing them.
Some women may wonder whether someone is good in bed or has a huge package. Some women might become inquisitive as to the shape and size of a man’s penis after watching his crotch. As a result, they might want to test the men’s penis.
Built in curiosity could lead to wild imaginations. There are different penis types, structure, size, colour, length and thickness. Some penises are straight, crooked, circumcised and uncircumcised. Plus some stay flaccid and others stay erect! The other thing is, no two people have the same penis. I can tell you because I am a Registered Nurse!
So, do not be quick to say your penis is the sweetest, biggest or longest! The women were just being polite and might have tricked you! Hehe!
Unhappiness and lack of romance
Sometimes women are unhappy in a relationship so cheat emotionally. Some might argue that happiness comes from within, but how can women be happy if they are constantly exposed to the contributor or source of their unhappiness. Sometimes picking up and walking away is not as easy as people make it seem. When a woman is emotionally invested in a relationship it can be challenging to move on.
A relationship may lack romance so women might cheat for physical or intimate romance. Sometimes women want to be “loved up, squeezed up and touched up” in all the right places and in all the right ways.
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If a woman is emotionally wrecked and a prince charming comes along, sweeps her off her feet, so much that she falls, bruises her head and never gets back up, what do you think will happen? She will fall in love with him, cheat and forget about her partner.
She will quickly develop an emotional connection with him. A woman detaching from her relationship emotionally might be one of the worst things to happen because she will lose all interest in the relationship. Being emotionally disengaged can make her walk away quicker and without looking back or feel guilty.
Relationship dissatisfaction and high expectation
Some women cheat because of relationship dissatisfaction. They had hoped for certain outcomes and had certain expectations and requests that went unmet. These women may feel like their desires were not fulfilled because their partner did not deliver so seek fulfilment from someone else and begin to see their partner as a failure.
Sometimes women enter into a relationship with the ideation that their partner will act as they want. When the partner does not meet the expectations and does not deliver their every need and want, they feel like something is missing. This stirs problems, division, resentment and bitterness which can all cause these women to cheat as retaliation.
Distraction and spice
Sometimes women need a little distraction and cheating helps keep them entertained. Sometimes women grow out of love with their partner and find them to be boring especially if they have gotten laid-back and allowed themselves to go.
The relationship, the person, the sex and everything become familiar and predictable. Sometimes even trying something new is not a turn on because it is with the same person so it may seem as a routine and a chore.
Sometimes the man does not want to please the woman sexually or has forgotten how to. It is always the same old boring sex. The woman in an effort to save the relationship might try to spice things up but overtime, she will get fed up, stop and then cheat if no effort is shown by her partner.
Unappreciation
Sometimes women do so much at home-cooking, cleaning, taking care of the family, working plus having to take care of themselves. Their hard work and efforts go unappreciated and unrecognized. These women hardly get any, “I appreciate you, thank you or I love you.”
Women may feel like maids, nannies and more of a worker than a partner. These women might cheat when someone else sees them for who they are and not the services they provide. They might also cheat to feel powerful because of their submissive or subordinate roles at home.
Different and unique feeling
That is when people say, “I have never felt this way before.” Sometimes someone might make a woman feel different, better, special and give them a feeling they never felt or knew existed. That attention might be hard to ignore and might need some exploring.
Basic things such as a man constantly complimenting a woman on her looks, outfit, perfume, make up and paying attention to her every detail could make her desire him especially if her partner stopped paying attention to her and complimenting her. Outside men sometimes pay more attention to women’s new outfit, hairdo and see everything they do differently. That can be a major turn on!
A void and the missing piece
Sometimes women may feel like something is missing. Women may voice their concerns to their partners and they do not listen or take hid. That can cause women to cheat as they seek someone they can talk to and someone who listens.
A partner can give a woman everything she needs- from a new car, an expensive vacation, lots of money and stability and the woman can still feel trapped. If one need is not met and that woman has vulnerabilities such as low self-esteem and confidence and a great need for outside validation then she might be prone to cheating.
Ever heard the saying, “when women have men with money, they want time, when the men give them time, they want money.” Women need a balance!
Cheating is the final straw
Sometimes cheating seems like a wakeup call that there really is a problem in a relationship. Cheating can serve as a way to finalize or solidify the end of a relationship. It is almost as though the women cheat just so the men can leave.
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Reems Sonson
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