Chester Zoo

Chester Zoo in Chester, England is one of the largest zoos in the United Kingdom.

Chester Zoo is massive enough to spend a full day.

We bought our tickets online to save time from the long queues and that was the best decision.

Island memories

It felt like I was back home in the tropics.

A nature girl like me hates seeing animals in an enclosed space and away from their natural habitat.

Chester zoo was created in a way to look like the animals’ natural habitat, so I was at ease the whole time.

I felt like a child as I was excited to see the animals, especially the peacock when it opened its wings.

There are many animals and plants to see.

I thought, “wow, so much I don’t know. There is a whole world out there, with so much to see, learn, do and experience.”

Diverse

There are designated areas to chill and have a picnic.

Food cravings? Picky eater?

Dine at the various cafes and restaurants or get a snack along the way. Many food options to satisfy your taste buds.

We spent about four hours walking around and watching the animals. Boy were my feet sore when we were done.

Thankfully, there were maps throughout so we did not go in circles.

Fun

The good company made the journey fun, worth it and shorter than it really was.

Chester Zoo is a good place to enjoy a family or friends’ day.

I loved seeing people relax and wave from the boat whilst doing the Lazy River Boat Trip.

If you love plants, animals and botanical gardens, you will enjoy touring Chester Zoo.

Bravery

I am easily frightened but felt safe in what seemed like being in the wilderness.

There are proper enclosures to protect you from the animals so you can relax and have fun.

Reems Sonson

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How to lose a man

Some say men stay if they want to and others say men stay if they are treated right. What are your thoughts?

Different men

Some men get women to do everything for them.

These women go above and beyond. They keep themselves behind and choose these men over everything and everyone.

How to lose a man

The best way to lose a man is to be clean, cook the best meals and care most about them.

Love them unconditionally and give them money occasionally to look good and take care of their needs.

Stay faithful and be drama free and caring.

Consider them in all that you do.

Cater to their needs and give them sex regularly and ensure that it is the best.

Give them their “me time” and always try your best to see things from their point of view.

Nurse them back to good health when they are sick and even help their relatives when the need arises.

Put your time and effort into them. Make plans and include them.

Show no interest in other men.

Ah ha

Sadly, some women do all these things in hopes of keeping a man and it chases him faster.

The man might say, “what do you do for me, you do nothing for me or I didn’t ask you to do all that.”

No shame

Women can be their best selves for men and these same men will move on with no remembrance of the goodness of that woman.

Some men do not know what love is. They take advantage of good women and think they will never leave.

The women must beg them for everything.

These same men, with ease and without being coerced, will do with someone else what the woman begged them for.

Practice patience but also practice when to let go…

Reems Sonson

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Closed doors

You wait years for doors to open and no matter what you do, they remain closed.

You follow the right channels, obey the law, be a good person and do everything in your power but nothing you do is good enough nor works.

Wondering how you will get further when you have no connections but are talented and capable.

Your time is coming…

Earthly no can turn to God’s yes

Sometimes you do not get the promotion, the relationship fails, you lose your loved ones, job and home and you encounter daily challenges.

You do not get a break from delays, disappointments and discouragement.

There seems to be no way forward.

You are at the end of a cliff and there are no detours.

If you jump or turn back, you will get hurt.

You do not know what to do or where to go and there is no one to turn to.

What are you going to do?

Nothing is going right but there are multiple setbacks.

Closed doors

Sometimes, closed doors help you get closer to your destination.

The open doors would distract you and keep you from your destiny and purpose.

Suddenly everything falls in place and the doors that were closed for a long time open.

You have no explanation.

You got the promotion, met the right person, reconnected with your loved ones and no longer have a disease.

You did not see it coming and you had already given up and completely forgotten about it happening to you.

A set up

God was setting you up to where you need to be so what you waited years for happens suddenly.

The missed opportunities are for a reason.

Nobody can stop the work God is doing in your life.

Humanly favor

God’s favor is on your life and He will make humans have favor on you too.

Thankfulness

Thank God even when you have not seen a way.

Thank God for the closed doors. Ask Him for strength, redirection and the right attitude as you wait.

God comes through at the right time and when you least expect.

It is happening to everyone else except you and that is okay.

Genuinely celebrate others’ success and achievements and be non-envious.

Your turn will come.

Your blessings are already there and soon, everyone will celebrate with you too. Hang in there!

Reems Sonson

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People pleaser

I love you but do not owe you anymore… ever thought this?

Sometimes you try to make everyone happy and end up being unhappy.

You live to please others and go the extra mile for everyone.

You feel like you owe people you love and worry about what they say and think.

You spend time, energy and money on them and even end up in debt as you do everything for them.

These same people deposit nothing into you.

You are always there for them but they are never around for you.

Owing love

Learn when it is time to walk away.

You owe people love but sometimes nothing else especially if they do not add value to your life.

You convince people to stay, love you and see your value.

Truth is, some people will not accept nor understand you no matter what you do and no matter how good you are.

People pleaser

You want validation so force friendships and relationships with people who are determined to put in no effort.

You sense when people do not value you but you try to show them why they should.

Sometimes you need to let your loved ones fight their own battles.

You need to ignore certain things, be passive and let them find their own way.

Break loose

The people you help are the same ones to turn their back on you and get jealous.

They sometimes hate you for no reason despite all you do for them.

No matter what you do, some people will always have a problem with you.

Life is too short for you to have a problem with them.

Some people go through emotional turmoil so have a problem with you because they do not get along with themselves.

Learn to let go of some people and some behaviors.

Break loose of trying to please everyone.

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Complimenting men

We tend to take what we have for granted until we no longer have it.

We do not have to lose things to recognize their true value.

We minimize compliments because we feel like others know already.

Let us start complimenting the men and make them feel good about themselves just like we feel good when we receive a compliment.

Basic compliments

You are handsome.

Your haircut fits you well.

I love your trim.

I love your beard.

I appreciate how persistent you are.

You are a good kisser.

I love your manhood.

I am proud of you.

I see the effort you make.

You look attractive and sexy.

Your outfit complements you.

I value you.

I am impressed with how you care for yourself.

Keep up the good work.

Thank you for all that you do for me.

You are the best.

I believe in you.

I love how you live in the moment and pay attention to me.

You are good in bed.

I got you.

I’ll always be there for you.

Do not just pay lovely compliments but mean them too.

Society makes it seem bizarre for men to compliment men especially in public if they are not gay.

It is okay for men to compliment men even though they are straight!

Reems Sonson

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Purpose or pleasure driven- picking a partner

Have you ever picked a partner based on purpose or based on pleasure?

We can be compatible and have a connection with many people and not be on the same page as them nor be moving in the same direction as them.

Purpose or pleasure focused

Pleasure wears off overtime especially during challenging times such as through financial difficulties, sickness and disabilities and other major life changes.

Sometimes we date without thinking of the purpose of dating, what we are going to do, our goals and what we want to accomplish with the person we are dating.

We do not date someone who complements our lifestyle and life goals.

We do not date for a purpose but date for a pleasure partner to go out, have sex and travel.

What happens when we want more or get tired of the same thing and the person is not or wants nothing more.

We can have someone who is purpose driven plus pleasure driven.

Pull or push

Imagine if we paddle in the same direction. We would maintain balance and move forward to get to our destination.

What do you think happens when you paddle in different directions? Apply this to dating…

If we have no purpose in life, we will be dragged along with someone else’s purpose.

Know it

Know what we want out of a relationship!

Life is too short to settle for mediocre and live with regret.

Build an intentional partnership.

Sometimes we outgrow people who are stuck, play it safe and continuously move in the same path and lack direction. 

We stay far too long in relationships that drain us.

We tolerate the “not so good behavior” of others and remain silent to keep the outer peace but our inner peace remains in turmoil.

We then spend the rest of our days being bitter, unhappy, casting blame on others and being jealous of other’s relationships.

What will happen if you live day by day for the next 70 years with no purpose or vision or a plan as to your next move?

Reems Sonson

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Me everyday

Life can be cruel as we face the daily struggles and try to remain law abiding citizens.

Instead of beating myself up and being bitter all day, I trick myself into having a decent reality.

Nothing is perfect and in my darkest days, even when frustrated, I try to speak positivity into my life.

I have spent many sleepless nights crying over situations I have no control over especially following the death of my mom.

Life is not what we expect it to be, but we can remain positive and hopeful.

My thoughts are usually all over the place but here are some of my daily thoughts.

I deserve this. The world works in my favor. It will work out. Everything will be alright. I work in a healthy and nurturing environment with the possibility of reaching my highest potential.

I only spend money on necessities. I make wise investments. My future is bright. I make a positive difference in the world. Everybody loves me and even when they do not, they do not try to harm me.

I am safe. I marry well. Only good things happen to me. My family and friends are genuine, supportive, truly love me and want what is best for me.

I am strong. The Lord is my shepherd. I treat everyone well. I feel good. I can do this. I got this. I only have great encounters. I accomplish my goals long before I die.

I use my potential to my advantage. I am not afraid. I love myself. There is nothing to be afraid of even though my heart is racing. Fear exists only in my mind. I have discovered all my God given talents and I use it to my benefit.

I show my best self and I always show up for myself. My children are kind, beautiful, loving, healthy, protected and make me proud. I aspire to achieve great things. I am a cultural icon.

I do well. I assist those in need even though I am in need myself. God lives in me. I am a good person. I receive earthly and heavenly favor. My coworkers are honest, nice and we have unity and are like a close-knit family.  

Try speaking positively to yourself!

Reems Sonson

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Market dominance and taking advantage of the public

Word on the block is that there are many companies exploiting customers in Saint Lucia.

Customers receive poor customer service and little to no availability of products with no difference in charges.

Do you think there are inadequacies in some sectors in Saint Lucia? Do you feel like some companies are abusing their power to oppress the less fortunate?

Exploitation, monopoly, injustice?

Massy Stores

Groceries are expensive across the border, but Massy Stores has been accused of overpricing. Basic commodities needed for daily consumption are at an all-time high. Customers feel like they do not get value for their money. Even when the items are of poor quality, they are sold for the same price. Could it be that customers are paying an exorbitant amount for the brands of the products?

WASCO

Over the years, WASCO has tremendously improved the quality, supply and availability of water. The tap water used to be muddy and unfit for consumption after heavy rainfall. There are times where the water would have a foul odor and taste of “chlorine.” As of late, the water supply is sometimes shut off for too long. Overcharges and errors are made to customers’ accounts due to leaks that they are unaware of.

LUCELUC

LUCELUC too has improved its electrical rates over the years. Could it be that we have gotten more mindful of ways to conserve energy?

Flow and Digicel

Different companies, same effect? Sometimes the wireless broadband connection functions at its best. Poor internet connection and static during calls both on mobile and landline are common. Customers receive poor service at the same rates- no data connection, calls drop or do not go through, no audio during calls and blurred video calls. No compensation is given when the flaws are reported.

Invest Saint Lucia

Invest Saint Lucia makes lawfully owning Crown land more challenging than acquiring Crown land to squat. Property is leased with ease but problematic with intention to own. If you know someone working there, then things will run smoothly. “If you’re a “marlayway” then you’re stuck.” One set can successfully own Crown land with ease whilst the other may not even when they try to do things the right way.

Bus drivers

Some bus drivers are known for reckless driving. Passengers complain that some buses are messy and smelly. Buses are not serviced as they should and it sounds like they are falling apart. Some bus drivers act like they are on their leisure time, driving themselves and not at work and providing a service. I recently boarded a bus and saw the driver watching comedy on his phone. He kept watching his screen and glancing at the road. I cautioned him and his response was, “you can’t prevent me from doing what I’m doing.” It seemed like the driver was on his couch at home watching TV.

Customs and Excise

It is no secret that we sometimes pay double the amount to clear our imported items.

Let us hear from the companies, are you exploiting us?

Reems Sonson

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I am that I say I am

Positive affirmations can redirect our negative thoughts and improve our mental health and well-being.

Practice telling yourself positive affirmations daily.

I am prosperous.

I am confident.

I am blessed.

I am creative.

I am resilient.

I am redeemed.

I am focused.

I am forgiving.

I am qualified.

I am worthy of good things.

I am motivated.

I am determined.

I am surrounded by the right group of people.

I am accepted.

I am debt free.

I am fruitful.

I am humble.

I am proud of myself.

I am hopeful.

I am able.

I am a work of art.

I am making a positive impact.

I am at peace with myself.

I am successful.         

I am in the right place at the right time.

I am excited about myself.

I am a miracle.

I am grateful.

Use positive affirmations daily and see how much your life improves.

Reems Sonson

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A day eying London… eye love London

What better to do than explore the city of London when you have a free day.

Walk around, enjoy the weather, scenery and local cuisine.

London is the capital of England and largest city in England and the United Kingdom.

London is full of history, architecture and iconic landmarks.

Walking the streets made me feel like I was in a movie, so many picture-perfect moments.

I love how the bright, beautiful flowers on the sidewalks brought back memories of my hometown.

London is costly compared to the other areas I visited.

Places to visit in London

River Thames
Beautiful

River Thames

River Thames flows through central London and is said to be the longest river in England.

Being on The River Thames is perfect to see some of London’s famous attractions such as London Bridge, Tower Bridge, Big Ben and The London Eye. 

Dine at a restaurant along the riverside, watch the speed boats, take a boat tour or an Uber and sightsee.

London
Standing on London Bridge with The Shard watching from behind me

London Bridge

London Bridge overlooks River Thames and offers exquisite views of the surrounding area.

London Bridge was crowded with lots of diverse cultures, people enjoying the view, taking pictures and speaking their different languages.

Tower Bridge

Tower Bridge

Tower Bridge

London Bridge and Tower Bridge are next to each other and are both easily accessible.

Tower Bridge has high level walkways, so you get a better view of the city.

Tower Bridge is more stunning than London Bridge plus it opens and closes to let tall boats pass through.

Moving into Tower of London

Tower of London

Explore beyond the ancient walls of this castle.

London Eye
View of London Eye from London Bridge
Wow
Lovely
Eye love London
Perfect
Stunning
Loving
Oh yes

London Eye

You capture a 360-degree view of London as you look through the glass pods whilst on The London Eye.

Talk about a spectacular view of London from the top as you circle over River Thames.

Take a seat or stand and enjoy the slow 30-minute rotation.

Snap billion dollars’ worth photos as you capture the unobstructed, mesmerizing background at every angle.

I was bickering about the height and how scary entering the pod looked whilst in queue.

My relative pushed me in the pod since I was afraid of entering. I was flabbergasted.

Talk about needing a little push in life to get things done.

We would have missed our rotation and had to wait another 30 minutes along with everyone else on the line had it not been for that push.

Yea… I’m a scaredy cat!

Palace of Westminster (Houses of Parliament)

Houses of Parliament serves as a meeting place for the two houses of Parliament in the United Kingdom- House of Common and House of Lords.

I said “wow” when I saw the building because of the fancy structure. I thought it was made of gold.

Meet Big Ben

Big Ben (Elizabeth Tower)

Big Ben is a giant clock that rises above the Houses of Parliament.

It is hard to miss even from a distance.

Big Ben rings hourly.

Dining with a view
The Shard

The Shard

The Shard is the tallest building in the United Kingdom.

The view from the top of this skyscraper must be magnificent.

Muhammed Ali
New buddy
Sharing a joke
Space friends
Bob Marley loved it

Madame Tussauds

Get up close and personal with your favorite celebrities.

Be face to face with the most famous people. Hug them, confess your love or simply take a picture.

Sea Life

I felt like a child because I was thrilled to see so many sea creatures.

It felt like being in a glass submarine deep in the ocean.

London tip!

Don’t know where to go or what to do! Stick to Westminster, Central London next to River Thames and enjoy the famous sites.

This review is based on my subjective opinion.

Reems Sonson

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Past struggles

People see you and judge and label you.

They think you have “style” although they do not know your story nor your current or past struggles.

They see you well dressed and well put together and think you have it all figured out.

They think you have money and the perfect life.

Back then

Growing up, I always believed things would get better.

I felt like I was living the wrong life and was born in the wrong era.

I saw my mom struggle alone in a house with three children since my dad was away.

She had to be both mommy and daddy.

I thought my mom had a perfect life because all she did was work whilst I had to go to school to learn.

Back then, I thought being an adult and working were better than going to school, silly me.

It is only as my mom died; I really internalized the struggles she faced.

I understood why she acted out and quarreled sometimes.

Deplorable

We were poor.

I was raised in an old house which looked like an abandoned structure.

We lived in deplorable conditions.

Our roof leaked when it rained. It was customary to use pans and containers to collect the dripping water.

The bed rocked and squeaked with every movement.

The cupboards were rundown and infested with roaches.

Poverty

I desperately wanted to join Girl Scout at primary school but my mom could not afford.

I watched Girl Scout gatherings so much that I knew all the road trip songs.

My mom gave me $1.50 daily for my break whilst at secondary school. My mouth used to be “long” because it was not enough.

It troubled me that the cake at the school was $2.00 but hey, I could not afford and had to be thankful.

My mom instilled the importance of going to school with home cooked meals instead of spending money on outside food.

I used to be upset I could not buy fried chicken and macaroni and cheese for lunch although I had my food.

Thank God Christine from my class brought me Dixie occasionally because her mom had a shop. I was thankful for the gesture.

We got by without a lot but we were a happy close knit family.

Encouragement

My mom encouraged her children to do well at school.

I woke up at 6 a.m. every Saturday to review my weekly notes whilst at secondary school.

My sister would always be surprised that I woke up early to study on a non-school day.

I would be studying with a tower of books on the table in our makeshift balcony.

Being raised in poverty and seeing the hardship my mom faced made me determined to excel in school.

My mom was my driving force and I did everything with her in mind- to make her proud and give her a better life so she could not work as hard.

I always told myself, “education was the way out for me because I had to remove my mom from that situation.”

Sophia Sonson

My mom was an independent, hardworking and trying mom.

I appreciate how much she did her best for her children.

She kept herself behind and did not depend on people to give her things for her children.

She did not leave us hungry. She made the most of the little food we had and always thanked God.

My mom refused to leave her children with her mother to go overseas to work when she got the opportunity.

She stated that life was hard everywhere but you have to make yourself wherever you are.

She constantly said that her children were her strength and she would not leave her trouble for anyone.

Regret

I undervalued my mom when she was alive.

There was so much I could have done to make her life better but I thought I had time.

Strive

I am proud of my upbringing.

I am not ashamed of where I come from. I proudly carry the teachings from my mom and use them in my daily life.

I know hardship and seeing people with things I could not have. I was not envious because I told myself my situation would improve.

All my life, I have made big sacrifices.

Education-wise: I went from losing sleep and weight, being stressed, taking loans, losing friends, missing out on family time and social activities and prolonging starting a family.

I have not seen the fruit of my academic achievements and hard work, but I am hopeful.

Eye opener

When you see people pushing themselves for better, it is because they know where they have been and where they come from.

Sometimes people are chasing themselves and their personal goals.

Do not think people are out to get you or catch what you have because sometimes, they do not have you in mind or see you as a threat.

You can turn your life around if you want. Stop blaming people for how your life turned out and where you are right now.

Catch up

Some of us made bad choices in our teenage years and it caught up with us.

Now, we hate the universe and blame everyone except ourselves.

Remember, when some of us were taking school for a joke, others were taking it seriously.

Some of us missed classes, partied, chilled with friends, formed relationships and had children.

Others did the same but also studied and burned the midnight oil.

Thinking cap

When you start achieving your goals and getting a paycheck, do not follow the crowd or listen to bad advice.

Be mindful about investing in a vehicle as soon as you start working.

A vehicle depreciates and is expensive to maintain. If you do not need but want a vehicle, stay without it.

Do not live it up and have a party life or constantly spoil yourself. Yes, you work hard but be wise.

Purchase property, join real estate, buy stocks, invest or save.

We are not perfect so we will do unwise things but catch yourself. Do not waste your hard-earned money.

Remember, you have come too far to go back to where you were.

Reems Sonson

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Preparing for a tropical storm

Have essentials on standby and be prepared to survive a storm.

Stormy times

The water supply might be closed before and during a storm. Water might be contaminated and unavailable for days after a storm.

Store drinking water in clean storage containers. Ensure an adequate supply of water for cooking and personal hygiene.

Flashlights or lanterns come in handy when there is no power. Make sure you have extra batteries!

Candles can be unsafe and increase the risk of fires but can be used during a storm.

Securely keep candles in a suitable candle holder.

Do not leave candles unattended and keep them out of reach of children.

Remember to have matches or lighters.

It is a plus to know what to do in case of a fire.

Necessities

Invest in a first aid kit.

Ensure electronic devices, especially cell phones, are fully charged.

House nonperishable items.

It might be difficult to obtain food during and after a storm so keep crackers, canned foods, juice, bottled water, energy bars and nuts close by.

Stock up on sanitary items such as pads, soap, toilet paper and hand sanitizer.

Place all important documents in a waterproof, sealed bag so they will not get damaged.

Grab and go

Have a light, ready to grab and go waterproof bag with an emergency kit and essential supplies.

Keep snacks, toiletries, water, properly stored knife, insect repellent, medication and medical documents, cash and important documents such as your will, passport and personal identification in the bag.

Extras

Outside and even inside can get wet and muddy. Put on rain boots.

Listen for weather updates on a battery powered radio if there is no power supply.

Clear yard of everything that could be a hazard and be projectile with the wind.

Trim low-lying trees and secure loose wood and galvanize.

Keep animals inside or loose from a cord and free from a kennel.

Protect your home and yourself

Reinforce doors and windows.

Stay indoors unless advised to do otherwise by the public health advisory.

Discuss an emergency plan with your family.

Also discuss a possible meeting area if outdoors and get separated.

Know the nearest shelter and routes you can take.

In case of an evacuation, assist the vulnerable such as the elderly, children, pregnant women and the sick, disabled and injured.

Vehicle safety

Place vehicles in a safe area.

Keep an emergency kit in the vehicle.

Keep a waterproof bag in the vehicle with your personal items and hygienic products.

Roads may be impassable during and after the storm or you might have damage to your vehicle. Yet, ensure your vehicle has gas.

Remember

Inform relatives of where you will be if you are not home so they can be less worried.

Have emergency contact numbers such as the hospital near you, police station, fire service, shelter and public health departments.

Switch off the power supply if you see flooding in the house, damaged power lines or you must leave home. Also, turn off the gas.

Ensure medication refills for many days.

Need to evacuate?

Inform your family. Grab your emergency supply kit and bag and ensure you have your cell phone and cell phone charger.

Do not drive through flooded areas. Vehicles can be swept away or may stall.

If you are in no direct harm, it is safer to stay indoors and away from the windows and wait till the storm passes.

The destruction from a storm is unknown. It is better to evacuate from low lying areas before the storm approaches.

Be safe! Be vigilant!

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The courage to be a teacher- unsung heroes

Good teachers make an impactful difference and are valuable.

They give students purpose, inspiration and desire.

Teachers prepare students for the real world, teach them key values to be functioning members of society and nurture them to excel in life.

Unsung heroes

Teachers work tirelessly. They make lesson plans, follow the curriculum and meet targets.

Some teachers purchase all their teaching materials to ensure students are adequately prepared for assignments and exams.

They even purchase personal items for students to ensure they learn and are equipped for school.

Some teachers make learning easy and fun. Of course, there are some exceptions where teachers put students to sleep, are confusing or teach nothing.

Passion

Some teachers engage with students and act as role models.

Teachers are patient. They are creative and devise ways to keep students focused given their different attention spans.  

Teachers guide students so they can find their passion.

They believe in students even when they are reluctant to be in class and feel like school is not for them.

Teachers know the strengths and weaknesses of their students. They encourage students to be the best and see something in them that no one else sees.

Teachers feel it too

Teachers feel unmotivated at times and get stressed out from the pressures placed on them.

They are sometimes not supplied with the materials needed to get the job done and are expected to work miracles.

Teachers deal with unique students with differing private circumstances and different learning abilities, styles and preferences.

They deal with heavy workloads.

Teachers also deal with difficult students and their irate parents who feel entitled and as though they directly pay teachers to do their jobs.  

Exceptional

My favorite teacher has been my homeroom teacher from secondary school- Ms. Gervais.

She has a warmth about her. She is very caring and loving and constantly provides words of encouragement. She loves speaking of the goodness of God.

I can still remember when she told my mom she wanted to have a daughter like me when I was leaving form 5. I smiled and felt special.

Appreciated

Thank you, teachers, for a job well done. You know your students even more than their parents.

You have nurtured and molded many of us to be great and reach our highest potential.

We would not have made it this far without you.

Thank you: Ms. Gervais, Ms. Deterville, Ms. Nickson, Mr. Ignace, Mr. Edward, Mr. Smith, Ms. Toussaint, Ms. Antoine and Mr. Sarvay! Your support, guidance, encouragement and teachings helped a lot!

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Trust God’s Timing

I have always been in a hurry for the next best thing.

First, to graduate then to start working, get married and have kids, build my own home, start a business and get a vehicle.

I have not attained half of the things I have been in a hurry for.

Now, I am learning that I cannot achieve everything on my own and I need to wait on the Lord.

I used to argue with God on the progress I have made and how disappointed I was.

In life, we do not get everything we wish for.

Nonetheless, I remain hopeful and trust the wait.

Trust the wait

It is easy to compare our situation to that of others.

Sometimes, we may ask God why He is taking so long to do in our lives what He does for others.

Perhaps, God is holding us back for a reason. God is making us wait.

Enjoy the journey and be patient whilst we wait.

We should not give up nor get discouraged. Let God continue working on us for we are a testimony.

Answered prayers

Sometimes, we pray for years and get no results or answers from God.

Answered prayers come at the right time.

Would we want everything we asked God for?

What if we changed our minds after we got what we wanted?

We tend to what more after we have gotten what we asked for.

Believe

Believe in God and have faith in His abilities.

God has not given up on us. Practice patience to limit bitterness, frustration, disappointment, anxiety and stress.

Stop trying to make things happen faster. Pray, believe, have faith and trust in God.

God gives peace, trust in His timing.

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Oistins Friday Night Fish Fry

I visited Oistins on a Friday afternoon to experience the Oistins Friday Night Fish Fry.

As I got off the bus, I heard people singing along to the loud music.

The smell of the grilled fish got me excited to eat.

Oistins Fish Fry is like a street jam. Lots of people, bars, rum shops and arcades with local crafts.

Oistins is situated in the south of Barbados in the Christ Church Parish.

It reminded me of the fishing village- Dennery, Saint Lucia.

Pat’s Place

We visited Pat’s Place since it was recommended.

I was served the biggest fried chicken I had ever seen on a plate.

My mouth watered as I watched as the mahi mahi was grilled and placed on our plate.

The queue for Pat’s Place quickly got longer as people flocked the area.

The majority said that Pat’s Place had been recommended so they came to try the food.

I was not disappointed with the good Bajan food from Pat’s Place.

Everything was flavorful and well-seasoned and prepared.    

Ready to try some Bajan food
Pat’s Place

Coastal

Oistins is a coastal area so expect to see the colorful fishing boats decorate the water as they sit on the sea.

We took a walk on the pier and watched the sunset. I was surprised to see turtles close by.

We even saw women gutting and scaling fish at the fish market.

Tourist attraction

I had a fun time in Oistins.  

Oistins Friday Night Fish Fry was a great way to experience the Bajan culture and heritage.

Chill spot

If you are not up for getting something to eat, you could grab a seat from the large seating area and enjoy the entertainment.

Have a chat with the locals or tourists or go for a stroll on the beach or pier.

Oistins is close to Grantley Adams International Airport so it is an aircraft spotting area.

The planes seemed like they were touchable as they passed directly over.

No need to worry about your safety! There were police officers patrolling the area.

Fish cakes
A walk on the pier
Electric bus

Been to Barbados? What did you enjoy most?

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Animal Flower Cave

My cousin- Anniscia and I took a 30-minute bus ride from Speightstown to Saint Lucy, Barbados to visit Animal Flower Cave.

The bus dropped us off on the main road and we followed the signs to Animal Flower Cave.

We could have seen the sea from the distance. It was a sunny day so the rays from the sun blazed the ocean.

Generations of sheep

Animal Flower Cave

The big rocks at the top of the cliff caught my attention. It reminded me of back home.

I was awestruck when I saw the large opening quickly expelled water as the waves crashed the rocks.

I felt the cool water hit my skin. What an experience!

Blow hole
Freedom
Capture this
Pretty
Follow fashion

Above ground

Animal Flower Cave is a tourist attraction located in the northern part of the island.

If you do not want to visit the cave, then you can remain above ground and enjoy the view.

Dine at the restaurant and bar or purchase crafts from the shop or vendors.

You can have a picnic in the park and take some million-dollar photos.

Animal Flower Cave
Being Reems
Smile
Peace
Follow the arrows

Want a cave excursion? Pay $40 BBD per person, join the group and follow the tour guide.

Beauty
Smooth rocks

Below ground

I was excited to go through the hole as I went down the stairs leading to the cave.

Light radiated the cave through the opening looking out to the sea.

It seemed like I was watching the sea and sky through a window.

As I walked on the floral floor, I marveled at the beauty of the cave and the sea creatures in the transparent water.

The colorful sea anemone would retract their tentacles on contact with a foreign object.

The flower would then slowly come out of the stalk.

The tour guide explained that the cave got its name from the sea anemones found in the pools of the cave.

Inside the cave
Wow
Magnificent
Surrounded
Shabz

Natural rock pools

Walk with your swim wear, go in the natural pool and watch the sea and the sky through the window.

I did not walk with my bathing suit, so I sat on the rocks and played with the smooth stones.

Crystal clear

Be careful!

The tour guide advised those in the pool to refrain from going too close to the edge of the cliff because of the waves.

A huge wave did crash on the rocks and went directly in the pool.

The wave covered those close to the cliff and took everything in its path as it forcefully went out of the cave.

It was exciting for them because they shouted and laughed as they held on to the rocks.

As I watched, I prayed for safety yet wondered whether I would have had to put my nursing skills into action.

Accessibility

The stairs leading to the cave are steep. It is not ideal for people with mobility issues.

Some rocks are loose and unstable.

Great balance and grip are needed to walk on the floral floor as it can be wet and slippery.

The cave becomes inaccessible at times, depending on the waves.

The tour guide explained that the cave remains closed during high tide because the water level gets as high as the stairway and the entrance leading to the cave.

Downward
Upward

Definitely worth a visit!

Overall, it was an exciting but scary experience.

Call me “scaredy cat” but I wondered if I would fall over the cliff whilst above ground or get sucked in by a big wave whilst in the cave.

We did it!

Thank you cousin Nissy for such a spectacular day!

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K.Duff Fashion

Gone are the days when rocking a braided hairstyle was taboo.

Braids are no longer a thing of the past.

Diversity and acceptance of traditional hairstyles have changed the outlook on braids and hair on the whole.

In fact, braids are now a fashion statement. Braiding can be done with both natural and artificial hair.

Braiding is a great option and serves as an alternative to wearing one’s natural hair.

Braiding helps uplift the look of an outfit, makes the face look fresh and different and offers diversity.

Now, braids are complex with complicated and unique designs all done within minutes to hours.  

The hair industry has evolved with various types, colors, texture and lengths of braids, weaves and wigs.

Founder of K.Duff Fashion

K.Duff Fashion…unveiling your beauty

Ketrah Duff has been braiding for over 24 years.

She established and registered her business- K.Duff Fashion in 2008.

Ketrah started braiding her own hair to ease the pressure off her sensitive scalp.

She managed to grasp braiding and grew in love with unveiling the beauty of not only herself but for others.

She specializes in the application of all types of braids and anything pertaining to hair.

K.Duff Fashion also manufactures its own Afro straw twist braids.

Made by K.Duff Fashion
Hairdos
Variety

Let your passion follow you

It takes conversing with Ketrah for a second to recognize her strong faith in God.

She is a God-loving woman. She believes one of her God given gifts were her hands.

She always believed the scripture- Proverbs 18:16 as she believed her gift would make room for her and it did.

Artwork in hair styling

Ketrah’s desire was and continues to be unveiling one’s beauty with any desired style.

She loves showing a sense of style as she places a unique touch to all her client’s hair updos.

K.Duff Fashion loves the finishing and client satisfaction that accompanies the invention and creativity of each hair style.

Talent
Artwork
Soft locs
Rocking it

Driven

Ketrah appreciates the flexibility with being an entrepreneur because she can choose her off days and opening and closing hours.

However, the downside to owning a business is, no work, no pay.

Afro straw twist

Encouragement

Ketrah’s advice to all is to ensure passion in whatever you do. If it is your gift or passion, pursue it.

Though it can be a long and tedious task, the outcome of it and the love for it will outweigh the duration process.

She explained that there are people with different personalities, satisfied customers with positive feedback and those who will criticize regardless of all the efforts made.

She believes that the criticisms should be used to build oneself to become better.

She encourages all to be optimistic, persistent and continue putting all their efforts to unveil their beauty and the beauty of others.

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Eats and Treats

Eats and Treats

Eats and Treats is nested in the beautiful community of Richfond, Dennery.

It is easy to find as it is located on the same road leading to the Richfond Combined School.

If you are in the Richfond basin and have a sweet tooth, desire to indulge in a meal or enjoy a cool drink, then this is the place to stop.

2022

Founder

Verlette Hamilton was born and raised in Richfond.

After spending five years working in the cruise industry, she returned to her homeland- Saint Lucia.

She began working as a chef for an establishment but was forced to open her own business faster after facing bad experiences whilst on the job.

She always thought she could have her own business; hence, she started Eats and Treats.

Verlette Hamilton

Versatile

Eats and Treats is opened daily.  

The menu is versatile!

Call or message (758) 7146751 for menu options and to place an order.

Yum
Chicken and fries
Delicious
Wrap
Burger
Pizza

The chef in her

Verlette’s favorite snack is chocolate cake but she loves fried chicken and chow mein.

She loves to infuse ingredients that are not normally available to make food taste better.

Her favorite

Aiming high

Deciding to become a sole proprietor can be exciting yet terrifying.

Great risks are involved with opening a business but that did not deter Verlette.

Verlette loves being her own boss and thinks that there is a boss in everyone and that everyone got their own style.

Words from the wise

Verlette explained that “it is a great thing to learn to build yourself but you must be focused and disciplined.”

I love the oreo choc ice!

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Saying goodbye to my mom

Describe the last difficult “goodbye” you said.

My last difficult goodbye was on May 18th, 2020, when my mom died suddenly. I literally felt a hole in my heart when I saw my mom’s eyes roll back as her body gave way on the hospital bed. I shook her so she could wake up, I called out to her and stared at her in disbelief. I could not believe that I had lost my mom, bestfriend, companion, motivator and my everything. I got a tattoo in memory of her and had “my hardest goodbye” written. I can never forget that traumatizing ordeal. Memories of her death still haunt me. Life can never be the same…

My pet dog Brave

When Cenia posted she needed a home for a puppy, I found myself drawn to the idea of raising a puppy.

I headed to the city to get the puppy and he was friendly upon first contact. He looked so innocent. Cenia placed him in a box for our 30-minute journey home.

He made some funny sounds along the way. We stopped along the roadside and placed him out the box thinking he wanted to poop.

He sniffed around and seemed to have no problem. We placed him back in the box and headed home.

Teeny-weeny

New environment

I was excited to be a “dog’s mom.” I named him Brave when we got home but called him Bravy Gravy and Brave cockolock.

Brave did not want to stay on his bed in the balcony on night one. He howled the entire night.

In the wee hours of the morning, I let him in and within five minutes, he pooped on the floor.

I thought, “you will stay outside from now on!”

Innocent Bravy

New member of the family

Relatives called for an introduction. They were all eager to see Brave.

He felt like my little human and he really was the newest addition to the family.

My relatives and friends constantly asked about him and even video called to see him.

My cousin- Luvisker gave him two big teddy bears to play with and my friend- Hyginette got him plenty of toys.

Brave and cousin Luvisker

Adorable

Brave was perfect in my eyes. He was so adorable.

I loved his fur and brown eyes. Sometimes, he stared me in the eyes.

I gazed at him all day and carried him around like a baby.

My relatives could not believe that I got him a toothbrush to brush his teeth.

I got the vet to give him all his shots and I was thrilled that he had a health card.

Mr. Adorable

Attachment

I felt sad leaving him home and thought about him throughout the day when I was not around.

I could not wait to get home to him. Brave would race to meet me when he saw me approaching in the distance.

He would jump on me, bite my clothes and show me love.

Brave grew nicely. He remained short and fat. The vet called him a sausage dog.

Fatty boom boom

Playful

Brave was gentle as a puppy. He did not play with any of his toys except for when I touched them.

However, he loved destroying my things instead. Brave would dig the dirt in the yard and dig the flowerpots and bite the flowers.

He chewed on the tablecloth in the balcony, threw and broke the ornaments on the table and then slept on the table.

He enjoyed damaging all my outdoor plants and chewing on my shoes.

Telling Brave no was telling him yes. He did not listen.

He made a cute face when he did something naughty and would watch me in the corner of his eyes.

He would pee himself whenever I shouted his name. Talk about feeling guilty!

Hmm…that face

No more pets please

I got a kitten and Brave made its life miserable.

The kitten left within three days and never returned because of Brave’s torture.

Bravy would watch television and bark when he heard a baby cry.

He howled at the sound of gunshots and watched the television oddly with any loud sound especially when he heard another dog bark.

Visitors

When my nieces or godson came over, Bravy wanted to stay on the couch with them.

You could see that my mom was not alive because Brave would not go on her couch or stay in her house had she been here.

Brave would chase the kids until they left. Brave was always excited to have visitors over.

He would bark at the visitors and playfully bite their feet until they left.

After a while, Brave was so troublesome that I had to keep him on the leash whenever someone came over.

He went from being a gentle to rough player.

He did not know how to act nor control himself. Too much excitement I would say!

My big boy

I watched Brave go through doghood and I was proud of him and how much he had turned into a cute, loving and friendly dog.

Brave and I developed a unique bond.

I loved him as my own so much so I would say, “if I love an animal like this far less for when I finally have my own child.”

My big boy
Model

Animals and humans

Humans do build inseparable bonds with animals. Animals are loving and caring and make good companions.

I am learning that pets are more like members of the family and should be treated as such.

Chill day with Brave

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Things to do in Liverpool

I made it! Ok…it’s colder than I expected!

Royal Albert Dock

Royal Albert Dock is a tourist attraction in Liverpool with lots of beautiful scenery, culture and history.

The dock was crowded and people filled the restaurants, gift shops, pubs and dance clubs.

Read the love locks on the rails, attach your love lock on the rail and throw your key in the river or take a seat and enjoy the view overlooking the Mersey River.

“Docking it”
Feeling festive

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Liverpool Mountain

I stared at the artwork and wondered what it meant.

Liverpool Mountain is a high and colorful sculpture on the Liverpool waterfront.

Radio City Tower

I felt tiny as I looked at Radio City Tower.

This radio station and observation tower is hard to miss because it is a free-standing building. It can be seen from miles away.

The view from the top must be fantastic.

Giant above

The Wheel of Liverpool

The Wheel of Liverpool is a Ferris wheel which overlooks the city and Mersey River.

Pay a fee, wait in line and you are all set!

Adrenaline rush kicked in! My heart palpitated when the Wheel stopped at the very top for a few seconds.

I felt like I was on top of the world and despite the fear, marveled at the city’s night lights.

It was raining and windy so the capsule shook. I was terrified and said this might be my last time on earth, but I would die doing something fun.

Descending was just as scary until I saw the ground close by. Overall, it was a frightening but thrilling experience.

Should I or shouldn’t I?
Yay!
View from the top

Liverpool One

Liverpool One is an open-air complex with a variety of shopping malls, restaurants, apartments and other amenities.

It is also home to two hotels. There is so much to do!

Cheese
Earthly angel
Outdoor dining
The Lucian in me

Nando’s

Dine at Nando’s and enjoy the lemon and herb chicken burger. It was tasty till the last bite.

I enjoyed the upbeat music, cozy environment and friendly staff.

Nando’s is ideal for a date night, afterwork lime or chill time with family and friends.

Oh yea!
Dinner it is

Anfield Stadium

Liverpool is central to football and is home to the Liverpool Football Club and Everton Football Club.

Not visiting the stadiums whilst in Liverpool would be an incomplete trip.

Both stadiums are close to each other! Unfortunately, I was too cold to take a tour of both stadiums.

I started shivering and stammering as soon as I got out of the car because of the weather. Blame my outfit!

When you’re from the Caribbean but visit a cold country and want to dress like you’re back home!

Seeing the bright sunshine in Liverpool is deceiving!

Windy, cold day!

Sainsbury

Sainsbury is a supermarket that offers an extensive range of products.

The cold section was my favorite because I always got magnum and snickers ice cream bar!

Ready!

St John’s Gardens

St John’s Gardens was fully decorated for the Christmas market.

The place was crowded with visitors going to the different stalls being showcased.

The different attractions made me feel like I was in Coney Island.

Steble Fountain
Let’s get that puppy
Delish

Costco

Costco is a membership warehouse club selling basically anything you need in bulk.

The friendly and helpful staff had no problem directing me to the macaroons. I loved the freshly baked cookies!

You can lose track of time whenever you visit Costco because it is an all-in-one shopping area with variety.

There is also an indoor restaurant. Eat then shop or vice versa!

At last, macaroons!

Chill downtown

City stroll
Aim high
“Eye” shopping
Downtown
Primark experience!
KFC

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Instant connection with someone you barely know

Magnetic attraction

Ever met someone for the first time and you were so drawn to them that you felt sparks?

Ever had “electrical impulses” lure you to someone you barely know and felt a shock with the first touch?

It seemed like your body pulled you towards the person without your permission.

You felt drawn to the person like a magnet no matter how much you tried to pull away from them.

There is just something about the person. “You cannot put your finger on it.” You want to know more about them.

Out of everyone, they are the most intriguing.

Thoughts of them plague your mind. No matter how hard you try, you cannot forget them.

Why do we feel a connection with someone we barely know?

We can connect with people over shared interests, location, animals, friends and even careers.

Some connections happen instantly and unintentionally.

The connection is something you feel inside. Something feels comfortable about the person and it feels like you have found home.

It just feels right. It is almost like your spirit recognizes its match.

Sincere emotional bond

It amazes you the deeply rooted connection you have with this person.

You do not know the person yet that is the only person you want to be with.

You share an instantaneous and unexplainable emotional bond and attraction.

You click with the person. It feels like you have known the person for a long time.

You cannot explain the connection, it is just there. You can be yourself and you are fully comfortable around them.

You love being around them and do not force any conversation.

It is not about sex. Sex is not even on your mind. It was not even a physical attraction that drew you both to each other.

Denial and rejection

You know that there is something between you two but you deny it.

Feelings and connection take time to form with other people but not with this person.

The feelings are deeper than with anyone you have ever felt.

Even when you get to know them, you try to forget them, stop speaking to them and stay away but to no avail. Nothing you do works.

No matter how hard you try to get rid of the feelings for them, you cannot. You cannot deny the way you feel about them.

Forget a fall out and no communication for months! You converse like you never had a fall out or stopped talking to each other when you suddenly meet.

You try to run from them and reject them but the genuine connection gets you back together.

Lifelong soulmate

Sometimes a connection makes it feel like you have known the person all your life.

You feel a connection with the person more than you do with your partner.

Your energies are in sync with each other. The person understands you like no one else.

The person knows when something is wrong even when you do not tell them.

You can tell them anything and share details with them that you would not share with other people.

You can have deep, truthful and meaningful conversations with them without feeling judged.

You can have a full conversation with your eyes.

Deep from the heart

The person feels special to you and you do not know why. The fact that they are present feels good.

Things flow effortlessly with them. It feels like the universe conspires to bring you two together.

You know that there is something between you two but you cannot define what it is. It cannot be stopped or ignored because it keeps lingering.

People around you sense that there is something between you two because they sense your connection.

The connection gets deeper as you spend time together. You fall in love with them as you spend time with them.

Intimacy solidifies the connection and makes it seem unbreakable.

Dedicated to bubbies, my sweet ponks…

Reems Sonson

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Flying high with British Airways…a trip to England

This was my long-awaited trip to England.

I was so excited that my heart skipped multiple beats when I heard the British Airways (BA) boarding announcement at the Hewanorra International Airport.

It was time for my “Our Tropical Living” adventure in a new country. I smiled when I saw the plane and thought, “oh my gosh, I am doing this!”

I could not believe that this island girl was going to a big city she had dreamt of visiting many years ago.  

Ready for take off
BA2158

Seat 37 E

It was a packed flight to England. All I can say is, the setup of BA is “spectacularly beautiful!”

The plane had been to Trinidad prior to arriving in Saint Lucia so the overhead compartments close to my seat were packed.

It was difficult for me to get an ideal overhead bin to put my hand luggage in.

During check in, an announcement was made to check hand luggage at no extra cost due to possible limited spacing.

Had I known better, I would have done just that!

Bye-bye

Up in the air

The plane left Saint Lucia at minutes to 10 p.m. It was an overnight flight so there was nothing to see outside except darkness.

Since I was not hungry, I refused all meals offered.

I had a long night ahead, so I tried to sleep.

A comfy blanket and pillow were provided!

I wondered how I would be able to stay on the plane for 8 hours and 20 minutes.

Economy

I flew economy and it was an uneasy experience. I was in the middle seat and felt like a filling in a sandwich.

I had no access to the armrest and felt like I was being squeezed due to the passenger’s body mass.

The poor legroom made it even more uncomfortable.

I kept telling myself that I was okay and I would arrive shortly.

I constantly checked my watch. I was desperate to get to my destination.

The plane got really cold but the seat warmers came on at intervals.

Professional flight attendants

As I watched the flight attendants do the safety briefing, I wondered why they chose that career.

I cannot imagine being in the air for so many hours at a time.

I used to think that being a flight attendant entailed traveling expeditions, wearing red lipstick, putting your hair in a bun and rocking a nice, neat uniform.

Really, it is a job in the sky. The flight attendants worked throughout the flight.

They pushed the food carts, served passengers, collected garbage, ensured everyone was okay, had their seatbelts on at the required times and attended to passengers with questions.

Gatwick Airport

Gatwick Airport is massive with many terminals. This is a first-class shopping area. The floor is filled with glitter!

I was mesmerized by the beauty of the World Duty Free shopping area.

The gate to catch my flight closed at 9:15 a.m. and it was 9:12 a.m. when I hurriedly passed through the shopping area.

I wanted to “eye shop” but I knew I would miss my flight if I did.

I had no idea where I was going but I kept following the signs.

I was pleased that I could read and write because I would have been lost. Many signs, many gates, many flights and lots of people!

I was worried that I would go to the wrong gate. I wanted to run like some people but after almost 10 minutes of walking quickly, I was already out of breath.

I was happy to see the queue when I arrived at the gate.

33 J

The plane was packed by the time I got to my seat. I looked at the overhead bin to see if my bag would fit, I knew it would not and I did not want to hunt for a compartment.

Thank God for a good Samaritan named Sherwin- “Frosty!”

He assisted me as soon as he saw me looking for a spot. He took my bag and searched for a place.  

I was so thankful for the assistance because searching for space and trying to fit a heavy bag when there are others can be tiring.

Take off

The plane was scheduled to leave Gatwick Airport at 10 a.m. so it was a daytime experience.

Headphones were provided but I did not feel like watching a movie.

I felt cramped as the person in front me reclined their seat and the person behind pushed their bag closer towards the back of my feet.

My bag between my legs did not make the small space any better. I wish to travel first class the next time I travel on BA.  

I understand why people travel first class. Why not pay for comfort, especially for a long flight.

I got leg cramps so took bathroom breaks to stretch my legs. Some people stood for parts of the flight to ease off on the cramps.

I appreciated that there were multiple washrooms to use.

All the way up

Despite the mild turbulence which made me feel like I would die, I was ready to enjoy the complimentary meal and complimentary beverages and wines this time around.

Eats and treats

You do not go hungry on BA. There was an open bar. I felt like I was at a hotel in the air.

Dettol antibacterial hygiene wipe
Starter pack: water, apple juice and baked pretzels
Chicken and basmati rice. Chickpeas. Chocolate and salted caramel. Butter. Cheese. Bread. Semi skimmed milk. Nairns original oatcakes
Delicious breakfast!
Chicken wrap for lunch

Travel tips

Check in online to save you time once you get to the airport.

Book your seat early, at least 24 hours in advance to get a seat of your choice.

Travel with a book to read or hold a puzzle book for entertainment.

Travel light!

Reems Sonson

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Losing my mom in May 2020 changed my outlook on life. I now make an active effort to remain present in every discussion instead of drifting and getting into my own world. I make myself more available for others and I appreciate others more.

How does death change your perspective?

Failed management…the ugly truth

Management expects you to be like a dead fish in a river and go along with the flow.

Globally, nurses face discrimination and victimization in the workplace.

In Saint Lucia, nurses encounter injustice daily and are called “insubordinate” if they do not comply with management. These “insubordinate nurses” are targeted and blacklisted.

There are many issues plaguing nurses in Saint Lucia.

Nurses remain silent and nothing is being done to alleviate the issues due to poor representation and lack of respect from the relevant bodies.

Nurse managers

A manager is supposed to be someone you could report issues to without fear or backlash and with hopes of anonymity and confidentiality.

Imagine being unable to openly speak to your manager because you know the outcome.

The manager will go back to report the exact thing you said to the exact person you made the complaint against.

Backward mentality

Managers make way for their friends with or without the qualifications, experience and years of service.

Basically, the nurses who support management become managers or positions are created to place them.

Nursing has not evolved in Saint Lucia because of the same culture and mindset.

One set of nurses run the show and are stuck in the same “long time ago mentality and era.”

Management feels like whatever happened to them in the past should continue and happen to the oncoming nurses.

No one tries to be different. Surprisingly, the one who is different or at least attempts to be, is not liked.

Rivals and division

Managers are against managers, managers are against nurses, nurses are against managers and nurses are against nurses.

Nurses carry tales on each other and there is a “never-ending reporting.”

No disciplinary action is taken if a nurse report one of the manager’s favorite nurses.

If the manager likes you then you might be defended.

However, if the manager does not like you then you might be “pulled up” and taken to higher authority.

Unfairness or heartlessness

Gifts and tokens of appreciation received from high-end establishments are not evenly distributed.

The deserving nurses who take the brunt of the manual labor receive nothing whereas management keep the perks to themselves.

Many times, nurses “drown” as they work alone or with skeleton staff.

Nurses battle to provide quality care given the high nurse to patient ratio, workload and the patient’s acuity and category.

Management would not lift a finger or raise a leg to assist.

Yes, the nurse suffers but the patient suffers more.

A therapeutic nurse to patient relationship is not developed. A thorough physical assessment is not done and quality care is not rendered to the best of the nurse’s ability.

Favoritism

Managers give their favorite nurses preferential treatment and do not care how visible it is.  

Managers openly say all nurses are free to leave the establishment and seek employment elsewhere.

Yet, they try everything to prevent nurses from leaving when the opportunity presents itself.

Management and “liked and unliked nurses”

The “liked” nurses are pampered and thoroughly trained for certain positions even without knowledge, qualifications and experience. These nurses bypass everyone who started working before them.

The “liked” nurses get a day owning when they do not report to work. Whereas the “disliked” nurses get NOD- not on duty and are scolded.

The “liked” nurses get whatever request they want. The “disliked” nurses must beg for their request and sometimes do not get it.

The “liked” nurses get weekends and holidays off even without requesting whereas the “disliked” nurses would not.

The “liked” nurses know every detail about scholarships whereas the “disliked” nurses are told close to the deadline.

The “liked” nurses get opportunities to learn new skills, go to workshops and get available sessions. The “disliked” nurses do not share the same fate.

Overtime, the “liked” nurses are promoted and the “disliked” nurses are transferred to another ward as a form of punishment.

Frustrated nurses

Minus their nurse peers and family, nurses have nobody to express their concerns to.

When nurses air their views to management, they are said to be complainers and get bad appraisals.

There are multiple managers and everybody wants to be in charge so there lacks structure and unity.

Rules are bent for some nurses and not all.

Management plays a significant role in the reasons nurses migrate. There is no one to manage management.

Then again. Who cares, right?

Reems Sonson

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Basic things to do in Martinique in one day

Ever been to Martinique? What did you do? Where did you visit?

Ever been to Martinique? What did you do? Where did you visit?

French is the official language spoken in Martinique and the Euro is the standard currency.

Some locals speak English and Creole so getting around the island is not that difficult if you do not speak French.

I always feel like I am far away from Saint Lucia whenever I visit Martinique. Being in Martinique feels like being in a large metropolitan country.

I love the unique structure of the buildings, the multiple lanes and almost perfect roads and road markings.

There are a vast number of vehicles, traffic signs and traffic lights.

Even the housing project- “The Cité” is unique as it looks like small apartments fit to be a hotel.

It is amazing how a small island in the Caribbean is so developed. Martinique gives a different kind of overseas vibe.

Approaching the city
Cité above
Cité

Downtown Fort-de-France

Fort-de-France is the capital of Martinique. You can shop till you drop because there are lots of stores to choose from.

If you love bags, jewelry, shoes and clothes then you will love Fort-de-France. Everything is at your disposable and within proximity.

Better yet, the items are inexpensive and there is always a sale!

Of course, you could visit the high-end stores and spend on the top brands!

You could taste French cuisine, purchase souvenirs from the local vendors, take photos, window shop, sightsee or go to the waterfront if you do not feel to shop.

Granny saying hi

Common places to visit

Rue Victor Hugo

Rue Victor Hugo is the main shopping route in Fort-de-France filled with stores on either side.

You could get the latest trends, indulge in French treats or enjoy the fine dining.

Nut brittle

St. Louis Cathedral

The St. Louis Cathedral is a Catholic cathedral church located in downtown Fort-de-France.

Walk in, pray, sing along during mass or enjoy the beautiful architecture.

St. Louis Cathedral

Carrefour

All I can say is you must visit for yourself! Carrefour offers variety so you can get practically everything you need at a reasonable price.

Carrefour used to be my mom’s favorite shopping mall before her passing.

She would not leave Carrefour without soap powder, yop, magnum, oil, saltfish and cashew nuts.

Carrefour
Chocolate, caramel
Chocolate lovers

Grand Marche Market

I could smell the spices, herbs and fresh produce coming from Grand Marche Market from across the street.

Lots of stalls with a variety of fresh and colorful produce.

As with most markets, the loud noises echoed as vendors spoke together to lure buyers to their stall.

Grand Marche Market

La Galleria

La Galleria is beautiful both inside and out. The first thing you notice is the large outdoor car park.

La Galleria is a huge shopping mall where you could spend the entire day going from store to store.

There are many restaurants, fast food joints and high-end stores. There is also a large grocery store.

Family

Jardin de Balata

If you are up for a long ride and a cool hike then you could visit Jardin de Balata. Jardin de Balata is a botanical garden about 20 minutes from Fort-de-France.

The garden is evergreen with tall palm trees, beautiful flowers and plants and fishponds.

Listen to the birds, inhale fresh air, feel the cool breeze gently touch your skin and enjoy the scenery.

You could purchase souvenirs at the store and dine at the restaurant. An entry fee is charged!

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Doctor Nola Rene

Today, we recognize Doctor Rene as a pioneer in health care for her dedication, hard work and contribution to the health care sector in Saint Lucia.

Doctor Rene grew up in La Croix Maingot, Saint Lucia and became a doctor because her background motivated her to do something different.

She always felt like being of service to others and giving of herself to others were her calling.

She engages in humanitarian work and is the co-founder of Healthy Escape.

She partakes in community work, health fairs, health drives, home visits, school visits and gives back to Saint Lucia at large.

A hero is formed

Doctor Rene returned from Taiwan in 2018 following her medical studies. She did her internship at St Jude Hospital then went to Victoria Hospital to work.

From the onset of Covid-19 in Saint Lucia, Doctor Rene worked at the Owen King European Union Hospital.

She later got transferred to the Respiratory Hospital during the peak of Covid-19 where she continues to work.  

Doctor Rene has a strong work ethic. She goes the extra mile for all her patients.

She ensures that her patients and their relatives understand the diagnosis, plan of care and are satisfied with the level of care provided.

She is very passionate about her job and continuously displays her compassion. Even when she is at home and not on call, she calls the unit to inquire about the status of her patients.

Child of God

Doctor Rene loves to listen to gospel and sing along especially when she is documenting on her patients.

I once complimented her on her lovely voice and asked if she sings part-time.

We discussed her involvement in church and it was of no surprise that she is a believer, church goer and child of God.

Worshipping God is her ministry, she would not be anywhere without God.

Child of God

Patients first

I have seen Doctor Rene independently work under stressful situations on numerous occasions.

She remains dedicated to providing care even when the patients are in great distress, angry, aggressive or misbehaving.

Her calls generally are hectic, but Doctor Rene conquers them. Nurses know she orders “a lot of things” and says, “people it’s not my fault, the patient needs it!”

It is guaranteed that her documentation will be detailed when she is done with a patient. She would then say, “people you need to cover yourself!”

Zeal

Even when patients have reached the end of their journey on earth, Doctor Rene tries her best to keep them comfortable.

She is friendly, a good team player and respects all the staff.

She remains professional and polite even when irate patients and relatives are disrespectful and question her judgement.

She has excellent people skills. She knows how to converse with the vase set of people she meets even with their unique expectations and personalities. She can diffuse problems and keep the patients and their relatives at bay.

A good doctor

Humble

Most times Doctor Rene stays back to ensure that her patients are settled and everything is done for them before she leaves.

She puts in the long hours and maintains the drive to get the job done.

Her aim is to provide quality care and high customer service to the best of her abilities.

She cares about the good practice of medicine. She is genuinely interested in her job, so it positively impacts on the level of care she provides.

She is resilient and able to defeat whatever happens on her shift. That is very commendable!

Doctor Rene is a good doctor and has made a positive impact on health care in Saint Lucia. Doctor Rene is well respected, admired and appreciated by many of her colleagues.

A friendly doctors affair
Bright smiles with the nursing supervisors
Team Respiratory Hospital

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Senseless murder of a nurse

Senseless act

Imagine working as a dedicated nurse where you nurse patients back to optimum health and save lives but to only have yours taken in execution style.

Nurses selflessly go above and beyond their call of duty, work long hours and sacrifice themselves to provide quality care to their patients.

No matter what, health care workers wipe their tears, get themselves back to a good mental state and continue to work.

How are we supposed to function when our own was gunned down and killed in board day light and there was nothing that we could do to save her? 

The nursing community got the distressing news that Nurse Keziah Wilson had been gunned down and killed shortly before 9 a.m. on 22nd November, 2022.

Disbelief

I shivered, got cold and got goosebumps when I heard the gruesome news. I got weak, my heart raced and my eyes were filled with tears as I called my coworkers to ask what had happened.

I heard the screams over the phone and I knew that something bad had indeed happened. I did not know what to say, I was in disbelief.

“How, why did that happen, who could do such a thing,” I asked. It was puzzling for us all.

I could not focus for the balance of the day. I spent five straight hours in a conference call with my coworkers. We tried to console each other because we could not absorb the horrific news.

Nurse Wilson

You would hear Nurse Wilson’s voice from miles away whenever she approached a unit. She was vocal and said what she had to no matter what.

She would give you a piece of her mind and move on from there with no hard feelings.

She was a hardworking, loving and jovial nurse. Even when her shift had ended, she was constantly willing to stay back to assist. She was passionate about working with babies.

Why

Saint Lucia is already facing a shortage of nurses. This is a big blow to the health care sector. One less senior, skilled and specialized nurse to report to duty and provide care to the patients.

Why kill and disrespect the same people who continuously try to save your life?

How can we not look at our patients suspiciously and wonder if they had something to do with the murder?

Our hearts and heads are heavy, we are numb, we are not okay and this is not okay. We cannot help but wonder who is next and how serious we should take threats from the public.

Condolences

Prayers go out to her daughter, family, friends and coworkers during this difficult time. It is not easy dealing with death of a loved one, may you find strength and comfort during this time. Her memories and contribution to the health care system will live forever. 

Leave a comment below and tell us about your most memorable moment with Nurse Wilson.

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Abortion and lifelong effects

Getting pregnant when you are not trying and deciding what to do with an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy can be scary.

Abortion

Abortion is the termination of an ongoing pregnancy. Deciding to terminate a pregnancy can be challenging. The advantages and disadvantages of having an abortion and the long-term implications of an abortion are to be considered when deciding to have an abortion.

Seeking guidance from a professional counselor could ensure that an informed decision is made as it relates to having an abortion. The final decision as to whether to have an abortion should be yours.

Some people act on their present emotions and do not think about the consequences associated with having an abortion but it could be traumatizing later on.  

An abortion can be done because the pregnancy was unplanned and unwanted. Due to rape, relationship problems, financial difficulties, no desire to have children or more children and personal reasons could be factors that warrant an abortion. Pressure from a partner, family or friends could also increase the chances of people getting an abortion.

Sometimes women keep the pregnancy a secret, have an abortion and do not tell their partner. Overtime, some partners find out or the woman feels guilty and come clean about the pregnancy and abortion.

Long term effects of having an abortion

Some people feel relieved after an abortion whereas some suffer from psychological problems. A sense of grief and loss can be felt after having an abortion. The loss may be experienced immediately after or surface over time.

Having an abortion could cause post-traumatic stress disorder as people have difficulty recovering from having the abortion. These people go into distress as they relive the date of the abortion, the time of pregnancy or around the time of their due date had they carried the pregnancy to term.

An abortion could destroy a relationship as women may no longer desire to be with their partner especially if they were forced into doing the abortion.

Shame and guilt

Shame and sadness can be felt as people question their initial decision and live with regret. Over the years, some wonder what their child would be like if they were alive.

The guilt could encourage some couples to become pregnant again to make it up to the child they aborted. As some try to deal with the guilt, they may become suicidal. They become self-destructive as they inflict harm on themselves to serve as a way of punishment.

Resentment

Abortion is seen as a violent killing of an unborn child so some people see themselves as a murderer. Resentment is common especially if years go by and a couple remain childless or want a child but have difficulty with getting pregnant.

Dealing with having an abortion

People can heal from the emotional effects of an abortion although it may take time. Seeking professional help from a counselor and journaling are common coping strategies.

Many people do not want to be judged and see the need to keep an abortion a secret due to the stigma attached. Feel free to speak about the abortion when you are ready.

Do not think that you are being punished and that hardship later in life is as a direct result of the abortion.

To those who have had an abortion, know that the abortion is part of your story. You could help other women overcome the mental challenges that follow having an abortion by starting a support group.

To those who are considering having an abortion, think this through properly. Organize your thoughts, think about the future and how an abortion will affect you and your family. Think about what you want and ensure you receive professional counseling before.

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Why is nursing a noble profession

Direct contact

Nurses play a pivotal role in the health care sector. With the rise in communicable diseases and change in time and shape of the world, nurses remain integral to health care.

Nurses are the backbone of health care. The nurse is the link between the doctor and the patient.

We are the glue that keep everything together. We are the ones at your bedside even when you chase us.

We are the ones holding your hands, praying with you, begging you to fight to stay alive and sometimes provide comfort and watch as you transition.

We are your surrogate family. We establish rapport on first contact and try to break the ice by saying a dry joke just to put you at ease and make you feel comfortable.

Nursing is hard manual labor

Nurses are skillful and practice mental strength daily. We experience emotional turmoil on every shift. The things we see are traumatizing and indescribable.

Nurses are committed to taking care of the sick. We take responsibility even when more demands are placed on us.

We have high tolerance for you even more than we have for our families. Nurses practice lots of patience to deal with the patients.

Nursing is a selfless act. Nurses risk their lives to care for the sick and dying. We are present no matter the infectious or non-infectious disease.

It is almost like we nurses do not care for our own lives as we provide direct care and service to mankind. Even though we may be afraid, we put on a brave face as we attend to contagious patients.

It is like saying “okay disease, here I am. Come and get me, catch me if you can.” We worry that we will contract a disease at work and carry it home to our families, but we still do our duties diligently.

Nursing is a rewarding career that offers things money cannot buy.

We try to make you feel better emotionally, physically, psychologically and spiritually as we nurse you back to good health.  

We are there to be a shoulder to lean on and a hand to hold in times of need. We spend the most time with you.

Yet, we are turned into punching bags when you are angry, feel better or when we do not meet your every demand.

Resilience

Nurses have love and compassion for their patients. Sometimes with little to no staff, heightened workload and many critically ill patients, we become task oriented.

Since we are constantly on the go and move from one patient to the next, we have little attachment.

Sometimes we build a deep bond with our patients. Nurses generously and whole heartedly give themselves away.

Sometimes we say we will not do certain tasks because it is beyond our job description but we do it just because we care about the wellbeing of our patients.

Even when we are heartbroken for you. We remain strong willed, calm, present, focused, observant and sympathetic.

I am a nurse

Writing this blog post brought tears to my eyes as I remembered the amount of lives I have touched and the lives which I could not save especially my mom’s no matter how much I tried.

I am proud to be a nurse!

To all the great nurses I have known or worked with, continue doing a great job. I thank you for your sacrifice and service. I recognize your tireless contribution and dedication. You are resilient!

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Aanansi ATV Tours

ATV Tour practice session

Aanansi ATV Tours is situated in the northeast part of Saint Lucia in Fond Assau, Babonneau.

Aanansi ATV Tours are available daily from 9 a.m., 11 a.m., 1 p.m. and 3 p.m.

My friend chose the 9 a.m. tour and we were asked to arrive 15 minutes before for orientation.

The tour guide read and explained the contract which included medical conditions that might prevent someone from using the ATV.

After signing the contract, we got instructions on ATV safety measures and what to expect during the tour.

Our safety gears- helmet and googles were placed and we headed to the ATV site.

Return demonstration

Whilst at base, a safety course was done on ATV use. That was easy! All you need to know is brake, gas and how to use your strength to turn the stirring wheel!

The tour guide asked if everyone drove or rode before. I told him I do not drive nor ride and since I am not a strong driver, it is best I remain at the back.

He was amazed that I did not drive nor ride. He instructed that I remain at the front to be monitored.

I felt awkward that I would be at the front because I did not want to cause traffic nor slow down the other riders.

We did a practice session to assess how we handled the ATV and we were off to a fun filled adventure!

ATV experience

I started off by feeling extremely scared and excited as we rode off. I could not believe that I had been doing an ATV adventure! Finally, I can cross that off my bucket list!

Babonneau is a very large district filled with lush vegetation. It was a cool and cloudy day which made it ideal for riding.

As we passed through the different communities in Babonneau, we saw the locals enjoying their everyday lives. You see the best of nature in Babonneau, everywhere looks green.

Experiencing passers-by waving us along the way made me feel like a tourist!

We rode through farms and plantations on both rough and smooth road. Some of the trails were rocky and muddy with lots of water puddles. The ride on the main road with also full of potholes.

The first stop was at the old water wheel on the Marquis Estate. The tour guide explained that the water wheel was originally for the sugar industry but later used to generate electricity.

The final stop was at Grande Anse. There is a breath-taking view of the Atlantic Ocean.

Marquis Estate
Grande Anse

Perks of the tour

The tour guide had a cooler with drinks. We did have a water break! An in-depth history was given of the places we stopped.

Adrenalin rush

I felt like a “bad gal and a daredevil!” I sped up at times and felt the thrill of the ride.

I understand why people love riding and own motorbikes. The ATV tour made me feel like I was born to ride. I need to consider getting a motorbike!

I felt liberated whilst on the ATV. My mind was clear except for ensuring safety on the road. I felt like a whole new person. As the cool air embraced my body, I felt at peace.

Due to the curvy and mountainous structure of Babonneau, I felt like I would skid off the road and go down a precipice. Some parts of the ride were terrifying especially riding through the bends and small road.

Travel light

Wear comfortable shoes and clothing. Apply sunscreen and have a waterproof backpack or bag to store your phone and personal items in case it rains.

Unforgettable

My hands began hurting from tapping gas and having my fingers over brake but I had too much fun. Aanansi ATV Tours experience was worth it!

I wished we stopped by the river to take pictures, “I do not know where we were at the time nor the name of the river” but the water looked green and turquoise.

I think we most likely did not stop because our two-hour tour was almost up!

Due caution! An ATV tour is not ideal if you are pregnant, have back problems, seizures or other underlying issues that make you prone to cause accidents.

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10 reasons most Saint Lucians live paycheck to paycheck

Are you struggling to make ends meet? Do your monthly expenses exceed your monthly income? Do you save monthly? Are you financially prepared for future emergencies?

With the economic hardship, it is challenging to save and have money put away for unanticipated life events such as illness, accident, job loss or death.

For some of us, money comes in and goes right back out by the end of the month. It leaves just as it comes. Our monthly expenses are much more than our monthly income.

Save it or spend it

It seems like we have no savings and are only living to pay bills. We work hard and die as soon as we retire. We do not get to do the things we love nor enjoy our hard-earned money.

Life can be challenging and unpredictable. Sudden unemployment or illness can take all our savings and leave us to beg for food.

No doubt that food, utility, shelter and transportation are expensive. Now, meeting our basic needs can cause financial turmoil especially if our salary has not increased in proportion to the cost of living.

Basic or luxurious lifestyle

Some of us can afford a luxurious lifestyle and enjoy all the finer things in life. For others, luxurious lifestyle choices cause financial vulnerability which warrants living paycheck to paycheck.

Living paycheck to paycheck is stressful. It affects our mental health, causes depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. It impacts our relationships and undermines our sense of self-worth.

Reasons most Saint Lucians live paycheck to paycheck


1) High cost of living with little to no increase in salary

Inflation has caused economic struggles for many of us as the cost of living keeps increasing. Paychecks cannot stretch far enough to meet our basic needs.

Increases in bus fare, gasoline, groceries, utilities, childcare and school supplies cause us to struggle to afford our day-to-day lifestyle.

As a result, our disposable income finishes long before we get it. The price of everything goes up but our salaries remain the same.


2) Too much fete

Many Saint Lucians go out on a weekly basis. Saint Lucia’s laid back and festive environment allows for constant events. There is always a place or fete to go to.

It is easy to spend money on the weekly boat rides and fetes. We love entertainment and recently went to every cricket match- Caribbean Premier League (CPL).  

Gender spending
Women inject money into purchasing a new outfit, getting hair and nails done and transportation to attend events. Money is also needed to purchase food and drinks.

Men on the other hand, most times are the ones giving women money to attend the fetes. Men, likewise, spend tons of money on getting drinks whilst on outings.  

3) Too many women

Some men have two to three women and have to provide for all of them. Most times, the jabals are more demanding than the main woman. This equally affects men’s ability to save and have money readily available for emergencies.

Some women are expensive and request that men give them money or make some form of contribution all the time. There is a high price to pay with having multiple and demanding women.


4) Fine dining

Many of us Lucians love to treat ourselves to fine dining. We love take outs and going to restaurants to enjoy the food and ambience.

There is no problem with dining outdoors but it should be done in moderation to limit the hole we already have in our pocket.


5) Not preparing home cooked meals

A lot of us prefer to buy food instead of cooking a home-based nutritious meal. Homecooked meals are more cost effective plus we know exactly what we put in our system.

Fast food increases the risk of acquiring high blood pressure and cholesterol. This will be costly in the long run as we seek medical attention to manage those conditions.

6) Spending to please others

Some of us love to compete with our neighbors, family, friends and coworkers. We spend money we need to do other things just to keep up with our rivals.

We do impulsive buying to show off, look flashy and in style and to make others think we can afford.

We are envious and have a boastful mentality. We watch others luxurious lifestyle and crave it.

7) Gambling

Gambling by playing Brags for money, purchasing lotto or playing on the CAGE machines can lessen the amount of money available to do other things. Some of us gamble all our monies and struggle to reach our next paycheck.

8) Alcohol and drug abuse

Know someone who claims to have no money but frequents the rum shop, is a heavy drinker and is constantly drunk?

Sometimes, we randomly spend money on alcohol after a hard day’s work or spend on lots of cigarettes and illicit drugs.

9) Not budgeting for other expenses

We do not budget for birthday gifts, special occasions and house or car maintenance.

We should plan! Plan for the need to travel suddenly in case our relative die overseas, someone gets married or has a baby and requires our presence.

We need to plan for irregular expenses and things that may happen suddenly because things can happen and be beyond our control.

10) Failure to budget at all

We should make it a habit to have a monthly budget with the possible amount that will be spent on bills, groceries and other expenses.

Create a budget that is realistic. Let us avoid unnecessary spending.

Keep track of your every dollar so you can save a few more dollars.

Reems Sonson

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How to prevent your car from being stolen in Saint Lucia

Remove all valuables from site and do not leave in car.


Keep doors locked both when in and out of vehicle.


Keep windows closed when away from vehicle.


At nights, park in well lit areas. Do not park near bushes!


Keep your driveway and yard well lit at nights.


Clear your yard to prevent thieves from hiding.


Do not keep a spare key inside the car or close by.


Remove the key from the ignition if you go on an errand.


Do not leave the vehicle running or unattended if you are not close by.


Install an audible alarm system or anti-theft device such as a steering wheel lock.


Install a tracking system to know the location of your vehicle.

Be careful and be on the lookout!

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Doctor Haden Alcindor…pioneer in healthcare

We all know someone young and “old” suffering with knee pain, back pain, arthritis, joint pain and other musculoskeletal problems.

Pain although subjective, most times causes emotional and mental unrest. It affects mobility, activities of daily living and quality of life.  

Sometimes pain becomes chronic and affects every aspect of one’s life.

A sudden traumatic injury or unexplainable medical condition could occur at any point in time and prevent someone from enjoying their life.

Who could help alleviate the pain and pressure which accompany such injuries…Doctor Haden Alcindor.

Orthopedic specialist

Doctor Alcindor takes pride in the prevention, diagnosis, treatment and rehabilitation of bone, joint, ligament, tendon and muscle conditions.

He is passionate about his job and engages in both surgical and non-surgical procedures to ease patients’ pain, improve their quality of life and make them feel better.

He provides long term strategies to treat conditions and issues relating to the bones, joints, ligaments, tendons and muscles. He treats holistically and in the least intrusive way.

Professionally

Doctor Alcindor is extremely humble and down-to-earth for someone with many titles and of high ranking. He is welcoming and does not make others feel intimidated.

Doctor Alcindor is fully devoted to his job. He applies critical thinking, technical excellence and innovative abilities to solve simple and complex orthopedic problems.

He creates a safe and comfortable space for effective communication for all members of the multidisciplinary team.

Doctor Alcindor welcomes nurses’ feedback and suggestions and creates a doctor to patient relationship where patients can air their views and concerns.

Who is Doctor Haden Alcindor?

Doctor Alcindor hails from the beautiful community of Aux Lyons, Mabouya Valley, Dennery. He grew up tying cows, carrying bananas and working the land.

Sciences were his strengths whilst attending Clendon Mason Memorial Secondary School and he excelled academically in his science subjects.

Practicing medicine came naturally to Doctor Alcindor. He reared livestock as a child. He made natural remedies for his sick animals by feeding them lime, sour orange, salt and sugar water.

He would use a stick and rope to mobilize his animals’ fractures. The sick animals would do well and eventually recover fully so it further developed his passion to care for the sick.

As a child, Doctor Alcindor would dissect animals, look at their organs and loved their anatomy and physiology.

He attributes his desire to pursue medicine from his farming culture.

Why orthopedics?

Initially, Doctor Alcindor wanted to pursue pediatrics or internal medicine because of his love for it. He went into orthopedics after sustaining injuries after he ran into a wall whilst on his 2nd year at medical school.

He fractured his left hand and suffered multiple injuries to his left side. He spent about four months with a cast on his hand and had to go to orthopedic clinic daily.

He volunteered to work with the orthopedics team, do on calls and surgeries and then developed a profound love for the specialty.

Doctor Alcindor recognized that choosing orthopedics would be rewarding. He would be fixing things and be innovative and creative in his ideas. He saw orthopedics far beyond he saw pediatrics and internal medicine.

He saw orthopedics as being beyond giving people medication. He believes that God creates but orthopedics fixes or redesigns. He saw a lot of potential and results in the work that the orthopedics team did and in all the deformities and corrections.

Doctor Alcindor explained that orthopedics is one of the most diverse, innovative and complex specialties. It requires lots of knowledge, surgical skills and discipline.

Recognition

Together, let us celebrate Doctor Alcindor on being dedicated to completing almost fourteen years of medical school to provide a needed service in Saint Lucia. Continue to fix and correct to the best of your ability, experience and talent. Your hard work sacrifices and sleepless nights did pay off!

Ever worked with Doctor Alcindor? Ever been diagnosed or treated by him? Let us know by leaving a comment.

Working with Doctor Alcindor was always a breath of fresh air for me. I enjoyed his round wards because they were fun yet educational. I never felt like my input was not valued and he always gave a listening ear. I appreciated that he involved the nurses in decision making especially as it pertained to the time of a patient’s discharge.

Need an orthopedic specialist? Book an appointment to see Doctor Alcindor? (758) 450-4411 or (758) 720-2288

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Men abused by women…women as aggressors

Have you ever been abused or attacked by a woman?

Women are constantly depicted as the gender most affected by violence. What about men? Are men being abused by women?

What is abuse?

Abuse is any action done to intentionally harm or injure another person. Abuse comes in many forms and can be physical, emotional, economic, verbal, sexual and psychological.

Men are victims too

Men too are victims of abuse.

Many may not know that men are victims of abuse because men do not like to verbalize their emotions nor how exactly people affect or treat them.

Men commonly go through domestic violence which is also known as domestic abuse.

Domestic abuse is not only physical violence. Having a controlling or manipulative partner affects men both psychologically, economically and emotionally.

Men suffer significant psychological and emotional abuse behind closed doors.

Men go through verbal abuse daily which makes them feel less of a person and reduces their self-worth and dignity.

Ever experienced these?

Abused men are afraid of their partners, walk on eggshells and are eager to please their partners. These men go along with everything their partner says and does and constantly defend their partners.

Some men check in with their partners frequently to report where they are when they go out, who they are with and what they are doing.

Their partner becomes aggressive if they do not call or message frequently or send pictures of their location.  

Women as aggressors

Some women yell and scream at their partners or always throw a tantrum. These women exaggerate events, make threats and insult and demean men.

They socially isolate men, lie, cheat and withhold information from the men.

A common characteristic is to treat men like a child or a servant. Some women thrive on controlling all of men’s finances.

Some women act like men are not sensitive and say whatever they want to the men especially if the men do not cry, complain or show emotions.

Other women threaten to kill themselves or take the children and leave to make men feel bad.  

Sometimes women play mind games, blame men, make them feel guilty and withhold affection and sex.

Not so innocent women

Women can punish men in non-physical ways and stalk them.

Some women intentionally abuse men because they know the men would not report the abuse and may feel embarrassed to discuss it.

Some women hide men’s personal belongings, hit, kick, bite, spit and throw things at them or destroy their possessions.

They use hurtful words to control men. These women strike men with objects or attack them when they sleep at nights especially if they believe that the men would not fight back.

Some women constantly monitor their partner’s social media, calls and texts and get angry and jealous when their partner speaks to women.

Women tend to make false allegations and tarnish men’s reputation. The common saying is, “I have him wrapped around my fingers.”

Gender stereotype

Gender stereotypes exist, people think men are more aggressive and physically dominant so cannot be abused.

Abused men do not see themselves as victims. There is stigma attached to men who report abuse.

The abuse on men can go unnoticed, can be severe and create long lasting psychological problems.

The abuse may make men become abusers in their next relationship, get numb and have no desire to commit.

Abuse sustained for a prolonged period may also cause trauma and health problems for men.

Men may feel alone, isolated and like they have no one to turn to. They may feel like no one will believe them so they rather remain silent about the abuse.

Some men want to leave the relationship but rather stay to work things out and do anything their partner wants because they love their partner.

Do you know a man in an abusive relationship? How will you help them get out?

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Your jabal, a side piece

Call them the side chick or side man. They love their role, they do not care and they are ready to steal your partner and replace you.

Are you the other woman or other man? Is being with a side piece being in a real relationship?

A jabal as well as a side piece occurs when two consenting adults engage in a sexual relation without commitment whilst one or both are committed to other people.

Basically, it is someone that you are with other than your partner.

Having a side piece could be merely for sex, to have someone to converse with or someone to support you or you them in ways that you both desire.

If you are single, can you be a side piece to a partner who is already committed to someone else?

Excitement

Some people get a thrill of secretly seeing their side piece. They have someone to do anything they want to with no attachments. It serves as someone of convenience.

They enjoy that there are no strings attached, no expectations and no desire to continue the relationship in the long run.

They do not mingle in each other’s daily lives and both go their separate ways after getting together.

Guilt free

Some people are fine with being the side piece and feel no guilt or remorse. They do whatever benefits them if they get what they want.

They prefer the excitement of being the side piece instead of being in a serious and committed relationship. They do not want to be a full-time partner.

They do not want the responsibility of cooking, cleaning, caring for a partner and being present all the time nor the hassle of living together.

They see each other at intervals, have hot sex and make the most of the time spent together.

The side piece accepts themselves as being second best.

Selfishness, self-centered or infatuation

Some people have a need for sexual gratification with no restraints so desire a side piece.

Some people are obsessed with being secretive with someone else and get a sense of adventure from looking over their shoulder and sneaking around.

They prefer leaving family activities to answer calls or have quick sex. Secret meetings, steamy texts and experiencing passion with someone else become a turn on.  

What happens when emotional intimacy occurs? Do you become attached to the side piece?

Competitor or partner snatcher

Sometimes the partner in the committed relationship does not want the side piece to see other people nor have sex with them. They do not want to have any competitor.

The side piece even when single must remain faithful to the partner although the partner is with someone else. They ultimately become jealous when the side piece goes on dates with other people.

Some people enjoy stealing someone else’s partner for a fling or long-term fulfillment. Many times, a side piece is with their partner for years and no one knows.

Some people prefer to compete with someone else to get a partner.

To some, people are more desirable when they are already in a relationship.

Common knowledge

Some side pieces explained that they both define what the relationship is and where it is headed.

They explain expectations, desires and set clear boundaries so no one could be misled or sidetracked.

They ensure they know they are the side piece and that one or both parties are in a relationship with someone else.

They expressed that they sometimes secretly date a side piece for years. Now, it is common practice for a side piece to be introduced to immediate loved ones and go on public outings.

Sometimes the main partner is aware of the side piece and is fine with the entanglement.

Let us discuss

What happens when the side piece wants you to leave your partner to be with them?

What if the side piece calls and texts you constantly or shows up to your house and workplace?

Will the side piece blackmail you or threaten to expose the relationship to your partner?

What do you do when the side piece sleeps around, leaves you abruptly or acts like they are your main partner?

What if the side piece leaves their partner to be with you and expects you to do the same?

What happens when either one of you fall in love with each other?

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Sharing Lucian men

The battle for decent Lucian men, let the competition begin

Do you think that “ghetto women” will now be pushed to date decent Lucian men due to a shortage of their kind?

Many young men are being killed in Saint Lucia and leaving young women with less men of “their kind” to choose from.

Statistics show that most of the recent killings are gang related and of certain demographics.

The heightened gang violence affects the number of men available for the women who prefer men who engage in criminal activity and live in the ghetto.

Some of these men are “bad boys” with a rough and daredevil manner which some women are attracted to.

They see no problem with the bad behavior portrayed and embrace these men for who they are.

What happens when these women no longer have these men to provide for them?

Competition

Less men in the ghetto might mean that the remaining men there will have multiple women to themselves. Women might also leave their neighborhood and seek the “bad boys” from the other ghetto communities.

Some women might no longer be interested in continuing to be with someone who participates in illegal activity hence might seek a decent man.

This will cause a competition between the ghetto women and the ordinary women as they seek men. Now, women will be on the guard because they have to compete to remain in a stable relationship with a good Lucian man.

Ripple effect

The ghetto women most likely will have no problem with fitting themselves in a family or between a couple. They merely seek someone to provide, feel a void and care for them.

They come ready to wreck homes and do not care because their needs which were once being met is no longer being fulfilled since their partner died.

They are fine with being the “side piece.” They have no problem with having sex with the men, infrequently spending time with them and getting money when necessary. They see what they do as a suiting arrangement.

The ghetto women promise lustier sex and sometimes offer sex for free with no strings attached. They may seduce the men and wear revealing clothing where nothing is left for the imagination.

The sexual advances they make at the men cause arousal and lust. Some men will be curious and interfere with these women to meet their sexual variety needs and satisfy their sexual appetite.

Decent wife or hoodrat

Sexual frustration and an unhappy marriage or relationship might make men be quick to get involved with these women and engage in extra relationships.

When the wife or main woman says, “I worked all day, I’m too tired” the jabal’s say, “come over when you are ready.” They are hardly ever too tired to please the man and meet his every sexual need.

The sexual acts the wife or main woman would not perform or would be coaxed into doing is done with ease and without persuasion by the ghetto women.

Win or lose

The ghetto women will be glad to share the men if they get what they want out of the relationship. However, the decent women might be problematic.

The women will fight over the men and get upset at each other. The men on the other hand, remain happy being with multiple women and having excitement from sneaking around.

Who will win the competition?

Please stop the violence!

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Bare minimum loving someone who does not love you equally

High standards, high maintenance or high expectations? Low standards, low maintenance or low expectations? Where do you fall and what do you expect from a relationship or friendship?

Our society encourages us to be independent that being reliant on someone seems to be a blur. You question whether you are asking too much or expecting too little.

Bare minimum

Ever went all out for people without them asking but they could not do the bare minimum for you?

You go all out for someone, treat them special, go above and beyond, exceed their expectations yet they treat you crappy and show no gratitude. You put the utmost amount of energy in whatever you do for them yet they barely recognize what you do.

They do the bare minimum for you and you see little to no effort in what they do. They treat you like an ordinary person.

You get the bare minimum of their time, commitment, emotions and effort. They offer the least amount of themselves but just enough to keep you interested.

Sometimes they do something nice and although it was required of them to do, you loved it and were overjoyed because you felt like it was a grand gesture.

You applaud a gesture that was standard and mandatory.

Interestingly, they do things with the smallest effort but do not display any bad behavior which warrants a breakup.

50-50 rule?

Do you believe in the 50-50 rule where both parties try equally in a relationship or friendship? Or do you believe that both parties need to put in more effort than each other?

Half love

Should you compromise? Should you know each other’s needs and attempt to meet some? Should you continuously try together to make things work?  

Sometimes the bare minimum is acceptable and serves its purpose depending on the relationship and connection. Other times, it is not enough and should not be tolerated.

Sometimes you settle for less than what you want and you accept the bare minimum out of fear of being alone and not knowing your worth.

You get used to the bare minimum that you make excuses.

Should you wait on someone and hope that they will eventually get there, be ready and stop giving the bare minimum?

Giving maximum  

You deserve someone who is all in and puts in as much effort as you do. If you give up on putting in all the effort then what is going to happen to the friendship or relationship.

Sometimes you feel undervalued and underappreciated because you know what you want, know your worth and crave more.

You resent people for how they treat you because you feel you deserve better and people’s maximum effort but you say nothing.

Truth is, you deserve growth. Someone who gives the bare minimum may not change. You will spend your entire time begging them for the basics and eventually you will get tired.

Imagine

If you go all out for people and they treat you like mediocre, imagine the lengths you will go for the people who value, appreciate and truly love you.  

Some people string you along to use you and you allow your emotions to get tangled in their web. Be on the lookout!

Someone with no plan lacks direction and might end up living someone else’s life because they set no standards by which they should live. Do not let them drag you along!

Some people just show up and do nothing else, they make no plans for you and initiate nothing. They are not as invested in you as you are in them.

Sometimes you have to offer the least part of yourself to people who do not try. Rather, invest your energy into people who show effort without you even having to ask.

Fact is that there are people who do the bare minimum and give you the leftovers of what they have.

There are also people who surprise you and go above and beyond. Which are you and which do you prefer?

Call it high maintenance but it is just that you expect more than what some people are used to giving. Do not lower your standards but let them up their game!

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Seven things to know about Saint Lucia

Did you know that Saint Lucia is known as a perfect honeymoon destination and romantic getaway?

Well, this picturesque 238 square miles island is well known for its mountainous structure, natural springs, tropical rainforest and beautiful golden sandy beaches.

Things to know about Saint Lucia

Named after a woman

Saint Lucia is the only sovereign state named after a woman. French settlers named Saint Lucia after Saint Lucy of Syracuse; she was a Christian Martyr who died during the Diocletianic Prosecution. 

Sulphur Springs and only drive in volcano in the Caribbean

Saint Lucia is home to a dormant volcano. It is typically referred to as the “world’s only drive in volcano.” Yes, you could literally drive to the edges of the volcano.

The Sulphur Springs is a major tourist destination located on the volcano!

Imagine that the volcanic springs continue to emit sulphur and water making it possible to dip into a mud bath and soak in the mineral springs.

The water believed to have healing powers could get very hot so be careful!

Sulphur Springs, Soufriere
Volcanic mineral pools

Read about my experience at the world’s only drive in volcano

Rivers and waterfalls

Saint Lucia is home to many beautiful rivers and waterfalls. The rivers and waterfalls are throughout the island so there are many options to choose from!

Troumassee River, Micoud
Latille Falls, Micoud

Watch waterfall videos

The Pitons

The Pitons are a UNESCO World Heritage Site. These famous landmarks are a big tourist attraction.

View of the Pitons from The Beacon Restaurant, Soufriere

British and French

Saint Lucia is seven times British and seven times French as these nations fought to earn ownership of the land.

British gained control over the island and ruled from 1814 until Saint Lucia achieved independence on 22nd February, 1979.

Saint Lucia is commonly called “Helen of the West.” If you have heard about Helen of Troy, then you understand why Saint Lucia got the name. Well of course, because of her beauty and countries fighting over her!

Home to two Nobel laureates

Sir Arthur Lewis won the Nobel Prize in Economics in 1979. The Sir Arthur Lewis Community College was named after him to show appreciation for his work.

The poetic Dereck Walcott received the Nobel Prize in Literature in 1992. To commemorate his contribution, the Dereck Walcott square was named after him.  

Neighbors

Saint Lucia is located northwest of Barbados, north/northeast of Saint Vincent and south of Martinique.

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In good times or bad…some people disappear when a crisis turns chronic

It is never easy when someone you love dies, falls ill, receives a scary health diagnosis or experiences a traumatic event.

Being there for that person might be one of the hardest things you have to do. However, at some point, one way or the other, that is something we all must face.

Food for thought

If you lost all your limbs today, who would be at your bedside showing you love and comfort? Who would take care of you when you get home? Who would cook for you and feed you? Who would clean you?

If you became paralyzed today after being involved in an accident, who would be holding your hand whilst at the hospital?

No matter who you are, tough times will come. Health issues, unanticipated life events and major crisis at some point get the best of us.

No matter how prepared or underprepared you are, you will have no control over the crisis.

Unpredictable

I have seen many people have a sudden frightening change in their lives. From being healthy to suddenly getting sick then taking their last breath.

The way we think things should be is not always what it ought to be.

Ever got news about someone and you were shocked, scared, uncertain, concerned or heartbroken? So many emotions at once. You worried about the person’s abrupt transformation and how it would affect them and their immediate family.

Now or forever

Some people will be with you only in good times. They are present for every party and celebration they are invited to.

Some people will show up for you during the bad times when you are at your lowest and will be there every single time. Most times, it is the people you least expect to show up who show up.

Some people check out days following your crisis despite knowing that you need assistance and continue to deal with the crisis.

Sadly, when someone dies, many people visit the relatives to express their sympathy and offer gifts. When that person was alive, they showed no support and acted like they did not exist.

People owe you nothing but out of courtesy and humanity you could show how much you care for someone and appreciate them.

Togetherness

Your world could crumble again and again and you may feel like you are drowning and wonder who will support you.

We all need someone to rely on. You can only get so far on your own. Being independent is important but at some point, we all will become dependent on someone for something.

The darkest times

Everybody has their own issues dealing with. As you deal with yours, you sometimes do not reach out to friends as much so they may disappear.

The affected family might be stressed, overwhelmed and preoccupied so might feel out of reach as they try to cope and make sense of what happened. Do not take it personal!

Do not feel rejected or like you are not included in decision making.

Sometimes people grow apart instead of growing closer during a crisis.

The longer your crisis, the less friends and family you have.

Sticking around in the long run

Be there for people when they need you. Be the listening ears or the shoulder to cry on.

Sending a few words of encouragement to someone going through a challenging time can make a difference.

Call if you are unable to visit regularly.

Do not say, “let me know if you need anything.” Not everyone is comfortable with asking for help if they need it or reaching out when help is offered.

Perform a lovely gesture. The simple things count and go a long way. Try to bring back some sense of normalcy. Bring the person something to eat, take them for a walk or drive, watch a movie or play a game with them or even do their chores.

It is a balance! Do not be overshadowing and overbearing. The person would need support but would eventually get tired of being a patient.

People do need people especially in times of need

When going through a crisis, you have to be a team and not focus solely on yourself nor see yourself as an individual unit trying to come to terms with the challenge. Everyone is affected!

In reality, no one knows if things will be okay but remain hopeful.

Do not be discouraged if the people you help push you away.

Whatever good you do for someone is done unto you. Do good and good will follow you.

Bad times can teach us about the people who are in our lives. Remember to invest in a few good friends!

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Five places to visit whilst on the west coast of Saint Lucia

Canaries River

The Canaries River is beautifully situated in a forested area in Canaries. It is about a 5-minute drive from the highway.

Do not wonder! The Canaries River is easily accessible plus the road is in good condition!

I heard the water forcefully hitting the rocks as we approached the river. As I inhaled the clean air, I felt the fresh cool breeze hug me. What a feeling!

I had a great time on the riverbanks at Tony’s Place. It made for a perfect relaxation day.

The neat setting served as a great place to have a picnic, chill with loved ones and site see to enjoy the lush vegetation.

There were tables, chairs and a grill to turn the river lime into a cookout.

You could catch fish and crayfish, take a bath in the river or eat the fruits fresh from the trees.

Optional but ideal out of courtesy! Tip Tony after using his place even though it is free. Help him maintain it so it could be as lovely upon your next visit.

There is also a water treatment plant close by.

Lush vegetation
Canaries River
Tony’s Place

Bouton

I have heard many stories about poverty and the “backwardness” in the Bouton community so I was curious to visit the place for the first time.

Bouton used to be the talk of the town, so much so, that individuals would jokingly ask if one was from Bouton to indicate that they were harebrained.  

There is a small, single paved road from the Soufriere Highway that leads to the Bouton Combined School which is the only public building in the community.

The drive to the community was long. I was worried that we would go down the precipice so I was not at ease.

At last, we made it! The trip to Bouton was breathtaking and had me in awe. Bouton screams everything tropical.

I enjoyed the view of the peak of the Pitons, the cruise ships coming in and how the sea and sky formed one as I tried to look beyond the horizon.

Bouton is extremely peaceful! I did not hear any music nor people talking. I did not see a shop nor vendors along the road. It was almost like an empty town.

I enjoyed taking pictures, picking mangoes and tamarind and conversing with the few community members I saw.

Picking tamarind and enjoying the view
One with nature
Capture the moment
Hand washing is important

Piton’s Waterfall

One of the first things you see as you enter the Piton’s Waterfall vicinity is a large parking. My relatives made it a picnic area!

Pay a fee before entry and hike for about 3 minutes then voila! For a moment, it seemed like I was out in the wilderness because I saw no sign of life.

The adventurous walk was filled with trees, birds, stairs and rocks!

The falls echoed in my ears as I got closer.

True beauty! Piton’s Waterfall is a beautiful place to escape, have a family outing and comfortably enjoy nature.

You could sit next to one of the three pools or soak in the water. The pools range from cool to warm and are shallow and great for kids.

There is a pool with warm water set in a manner to receive a back massage. I did enjoy!  

The rocks directly beneath the waterfall were slippery. I nearly fell!

The walk to Piton’s Waterfall could be tasking for people with mobility issues. It might be tiring for children.

Changing rooms are available.

Piton’s Waterfall
Slippery rocks

Sulphur Springs

The Sulphur Springs is a must visit just to have a unique experience. I did not get to enjoy the mud bath this time around because the place was overcrowded.

Click on link to see more about my last Sulphur Springs experience

Ready for the mud bath

Anse L’ivrogne Beach

Right there in Choiseul! Anse L’ivrogne Beach is also known as Sevoigne Beach.

Picturesque! Anse L’ivrogne Beach lays at the base of Gros Piton. It has very soft white to golden brown sand, beautiful palm trees, clear water and lots of pebbles.

The long beach is secluded so getting to it is that of exploration. We drove until we got to the ruins of the 18th century sugar plantation then walked until we got to the beach.

I viewed what was left of the old sugar plantation with fascination as the wheel turned. What was that I kept thinking.  

There are lots of trees and rocks along the way to the beach. I was surprised at the number of fish I saw in the stream as I crossed the bridge.

Anse L’ivrogne Beach was peaceful and made for the perfect place for leisure time and fun.

There were people on the other side of the beach grilling, playing music and having a good time.

You could hike the Gros Piton trail through Anse L’ivrogne Beach.

What to do whilst at Anse L’ivrogne Beach? Watch the pelicans search for their meal. Build sandcastles, fish or have a fun filled family racing game. Cover yourself with the white sand, enjoy the sea breeze and watch the wave as it approaches the shore or splashes on the rocks.

Enjoy the simple pleasures that are worth millions! Enjoy the gift of life and living in paradise!

Anse L’ivrogne Beach
Reaching for the top
View from the top
For the love of a picture
Old sugar plantation
Say cheese
Up close and personal with Mr. Pelican
Searching for sea creatures
Thank you to whoever did the rock design
Beautiful
The person who did this is very creative
Pelican on the water

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My everyday people
Fond Gens Libre, Soufriere
Site seeing
Sandy Beach, Vieux Fort

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Top things people regret before they die

As a registered nurse, I have had many encounters with patients who expressed their life’s regrets just before dying.

For some, it takes being on a hospital bed to realize how much time they wasted or how much of a good life they lived.

Some patients regretted living the life others planned for them instead of living on their own individual terms. Most patients felt like they had placed other’s happiness before theirs and were keen on pleasing people at their own expense.

Remaining stagnant because of their partner, staying in bad relationships, staying in a job they hated and living too much for their family were also common regrets.

Another alarming thing patients regretted was choosing to stay in the career set out by their parents or loved ones.

The patients with regrets typically said, “if I could go back in time, in my next life I would have or if the world could talk.” 

Sadly, many patients die unhappy and with many regrets and unresolved issues.

Everything is risky

Some patients reported having lots of regrets from not making life changing decisions because of uncertainty and fear of the unknown.

They stated that they played it safe and remained in their comfort zones instead of taking risks.

They wished they had taken risks because later they realized that all decisions come with their own risk.

Most regrets

I wish I had worked less

Some patients admit that they hardly took vacation or a sick day. Some began working at a tender age until their last breath. They wished they had kept their work life in balance with the rest of their life especially their social life.

Some patients maintained that they invested most of their time into work that they lost their families and good friendships. Now, they wished they had taken a day to pause, chill and enjoy their life.

I wish I had traveled more

Some patients wished to have been more adventurous but lacked the desire when they could have. They felt like they would have ample time to travel.

Many patients expressed that they were waiting until retirement to begin their travels especially to go on a cruise.

Others grew their savings to reduce future financial burden and to care for themselves and their families in the event of illness or life changing event instead of traveling.

I wish I had enjoyed my money

It made some patients sad the funds they were leaving their families. Many were disappointed that they had spent a lifetime saving instead of enjoying their monies.  

I wish I had created a family

Some career focused patients regretted not settling down and having children. Some explained that they tried to have children but very late in life and the result was unsatisfactory.  

Some did not make time for their social life because they were too busy trying to climb the corporate ladder or expand on their business.

I wish I had not procrastinated

Some patients believed that they could have had a better life if they had not procrastinated for extended periods. They placed things for a later date and never got around to doing it.

Transition

It is peculiar how people die suddenly. In their sleep, whilst they eat or talk, on the toilet or just collapse and die.

Some people suffer for days before they die, some beg to die and others die peacefully.

When patients are transitioning into the afterlife, they reflect on the life they have lived. Some patients proudly await death and feel content with the decisions they have made, how they lived and where they are currently.

Some patients ask others for forgiveness, make amends with God, call a priest to pray with them and ask that their relatives are next to them as they transition.

Many people wish to have had more time but some accept the fact that death is inevitable so they share their stories and give advice.

What do you regret most about your life? If you were to die today, what fun thing would you do? What will you miss on earth?

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Full Brazilian wax- 2nd round

I got my first Brazilian wax on 4th March, 2022 and went for the second wax on 12th April, 2022.

Although it had been five weeks since I waxed, my hair growth was insignificant and bearable.

My Mons pubis was very patchy with more hair towards the center. The sides had strands of hair and the top barely any hair. What an uneven hair distribution!

My hair strands were smooth and not as thick as before waxing. Hard to believe but down there was not itchy at all and I only got two ingrown hairs.

Waxing versus shaving

Waxing is more uncomfortable and costly than shaving. Plus, you should stick to waxing when you start.

You most probably will have sex with your “bushy” privates on some days. Such a downfall of waxing!

I used to shave my private region weekly due to the constant hair growth so of course the area got hyperpigmented. I also got ingrown hairs and cuts and a little bleeding at times.

Shaving can be done independently at any time with no need to book an appointment.

Shaving saves you time and comes in handy when you want to get rid of pubic hairs quickly especially when you want to do a “quickie!”

TMI

When I shaved, my Mons pubis would be extremely itchy with each new hair growth. The feeling made me want to “gratter!”

Call it too much information (TMI) but down there would sometimes have a musty smell if I allowed the hair to grow pass two weeks. Do not ask for the days I perspired profusely.

See why I had to resort to waxing!

Touch Tranquility Luxury Spa

Tessa- my esthetician asked if I had shaved and was in such disbelief that she asked if I was sure that I had not.

She could not believe that my new hairs were only beginning to form in some places.

She mentioned that I should wait 2-3 months in between my wax. Most of my new hairs had not grown back yet so waxing so soon was unnecessary.

That I had figured out but I wanted to wear a two-piece on all my outings!

Reason behind the wax

Full Brazilian wax experience number 2

I had mentally prepared myself the night before for the “ouch and I” following each pull.

To my surprise, the experience was much better. It was completely different from the first.

I was still a bit uncomfortable with being fully naked in front Tessa but the feeling was not as horrible as before.

The wax lasted for about 15 minutes. This time I waxed my belly, Mons pubis, anus, armpits and lower legs.

My palms were as sweaty as the previous time but my entire body did not perspire nor did I feel any peculiar sensation. My eyes were not watery this time around!  

I did not bleed at all, had no irritation, bruising, redness nor tenderness and I felt no discomfort whatsoever.

Done so soon? I rubbed the cucumber oil on my Mons pubis to soothe the area and was ready to head to the swimming pool!

I did not feel any irritation when I got dressed compared to the slight irritation I felt the first time.

Words cannot describe

My Mons pubis looked much lighter the second time I waxed. It was smooth and did not look like a hairless chicken.

There is a freshness associated with waxing. Down there always feels nice, light and like air is always passing through. Looks as good as a newborn’s.

I feel like underneath my clothes is sexy. It is an odd way to describe how it feels!

This time was not as scary as the first time. No torture or discomfort. It was just worth it!

Smoothness overload

Desperation

I was desperate to get waxed because I had to engage in multiple water activities that same week.

I could have spent another two weeks before getting waxed but I did not want to have hair strands poking from my bikini.

Imagine, I was able to go to the swimming pool with ease that same day. I felt no irritation when I got out of the pool.

Ever waxed and did water activities or had sex after? How was it? Leave a comment below!

No discomfort down there
Waxed and ready!

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Surviving at the hospital- what to pack for your hospital stay

Admission to the hospital is sometimes unpredictable and unanticipated. Other times it can be planned for surgery, childbirth and elective procedures.

It is good to be prepared when an illness comes unexpectedly. Keep a grab and go bag packed with items for when the time comes and you are to be rushed to the hospital.

Call it your “hospital bag!” Do not keep your hospital bag a secret! If you live alone, tell someone where you keep it.

Hospital stay can be terrifying, tedious and frustrating. Pack items to ease your mind, keep you comfortable and well entertained, maintain your daily hygiene and help with privacy.

The personal items you require depends on your illness and present state.

Ensure to check your hospital bag at intervals for expired items and replenish as you take from your stock.

Pack the things you would take on a weekend trip minus your bathing suit and shorts! Sometimes a hospital stay serves as a vacation and sweet escape for some patients!

At the hospital

Hospital stays can be traumatic for both patients and relatives. Care at the hospital is not easy nor straightforward.

Remember, if you did not need to be monitored, you would not be admitted.

The hospital is a busy place so your sleep might be affected by staff as they monitor you. Crying patients, call bells and the sounds of beeping machines can also keep you awake.   

You might be attached to a lot of machines and have lots of tubes and wires on you, do not be alarmed! Be prepared for the needles and countless blood works and intravenous medication! Ultrasounds and x-rays might be done!

Do not be agitated if you call and help does not come one time.

Different roles

You will encounter different staff all with different roles. Everyone you meet is trying to help you and wants you to recover speedily so you can be discharged.

Be polite and not aggressive towards staff. Often, the person attending to you got an order from someone else so do not try to beat them up for doing their job.

They are just trying to help you. Ask who ordered the procedure and monitoring and the purpose and take up your concern with the person who ordered it.

Hospital admission key notes

All hospitals are different and have different protocols so items allowed in one hospital might not be allowed in another.

The bedside table and space assigned to you might be small. Ensure you pack your items accordingly in a proper bag.

Use permanent marker and place your name on all your items so it can be returned to you if it gets lost, misplaced or stolen.

Needed items whilst at the hospital

Medical records

Hold your medication, prescriptions, past medical records and reports. This would thoroughly provide the health care team with more information about you.

Remember to indicate all the things you are allergic too.

Hygiene

Ensure to pack these necessities: toiletries, toilet paper, towel, bath soap or shower gel, skin care products, deodorant, razor, comb, hair care products, adult diapers, sanitary pads, wash rags and bathtub.

Disinfectant wipes make a big difference! They are useful to wipe surfaces to limit the spread of infections and can be used for perineal care.

Comfort

Carry mints to keep your mouth fresh. Keep juice, water and healthy snacks on standby so you can have something to munch on.

Loose fitting pajamas and comfortable cotton underwear are a must.

Pack a plastic bedroom slipper with rubber soles instead of a cloth slipper to prevent slipping and breeding of bacteria. Pack your socks too!

Bring your own pillow and bed sheets. The hospital is usually a cold place so hold your extra warmth.

The cooling system can be torturing and drying to the skin so walk with your lip balm and skin moisturizer.

Have your hand sanitizer at your bedside in case you are unable to wash your hands as frequently as you like.

The hospital can seem like daytime even at nights. An eye mask could make sleeping much better! 

Light robe to maintain your privacy and especially if you are in a shared room.

Clothes to wear upon discharge.

Stay entertained

Hold a puzzle book, novel and magazine to keep your mind occupied.

NO!

Avoid carrying lots of money with you, expensive jewelry, alcohol, illicit drugs or pets!

There will be no one to monitor your personal items and the hospital will not be liable if they go missing.

Having a baby? Breasts pads, maxi pads, fully equipped diaper bags, blankets and all the baby extras would be required.

If you are conscious, remember your walking stick, wheelchair, hearing aid, phone, tablet, chargers, an adapter and your dentures on the day you are being taken to the hospital.

It is your right

Being admitted to the hospital is not a jail sentence. You still have a say and you have the right to refuse treatment.

No need to argue, simply say you refuse. You will be advised accordingly but you will not be forced.

Every hospital has their own protocols. Respect the hospital’s routines and protocols.

There are set times at which things are done unless an emergency arises and the time frame within which you are to receive care is compromised.

Therefore, do not yell at the nurse when you are awoken to get your vital signs checked or medication administered at odd hours.

Remember that the hospital is a building but the people working there are human just like you.

Ever been to the hospital? How was the time spent?  

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Are women dependent on men or are women dependent on relationships?

Is it a man’s duty to support a woman financially, emotionally and sexually?

Women’s independence

Some women seek relationships for comfort, attention and the presence of someone else that they can trust, make love to and who is there for them in times of need.

Women sometimes seek relationships for support, to create a family, have someone they can grow with, share their life experiences and overcome challenges. Yes, that too! There are times women seek relationships to avoid loneliness.

Saint Lucian women

In Saint Lucia, you hear tones of women express their independence. They explain that they have no need for a man and are better off by themselves.

Yet, they call a man for a ride, credit, groceries, to take them out, for money, materials to build their house and for each of their wants and needs.

Internal or external factors

Is it that some women depend on men because they were wired to do so or is it due to their upbringing? Perhaps nature versus nurture play a role.

Meeting sexual needs

Some women are fully dependent on themselves to satisfy all their needs. What about sex you might ask!

If a woman is a lesbian, she does not need a man to satisfy her sexual needs.

A woman can use her sex objects to fulfil her sexual desires although, it would not provide the same feelings or do the same job as a man.

What about children? We need that sperm! Luckily, women now undergo IVF treatment to have children.

New era

Women are no longer being stay at home moms but are now seeking careers. Women are making more money than men, going out to work and being the bread winner.

The glass ceiling although it exists, has been broken.

Women as bread winners

Do women act differently when they become the bread winner?

Common traditions and established gender roles might explain why it is a problem for women to be the bread winner.

Some women may become bossier as they feel more power since they earn more. These women may think of themselves as holding the pants in the family, being the sole decision maker and disregard everything the man says.

The man may feel like he is worthless and that his input is unwanted. Some women may not admit it, but they secretly wished the man earned more money.

Women may lose interest in their partner as they expect more and the financial tension would continue and lead to a breakup if not solved.

Sometimes these women would try to dictate how the money is spent and what the man does with the money. It is almost like they want to control the man and treat him as a child.

Some women want men well established and with higher earnings and social rankings.

Whilst it is true that these women do not rely on men, they want to feel like they can be taken care of too.

Women developing their own independence

Women should learn to support themselves financially, emotionally and sexually.

Some men do not randomly give women money as we all know. Some men have women beg for money whilst others give automatically and willingly.  

Money is power. Women do not need to ask men money every time they need sanitary napkins or personal items. Gain your freedom!

Masturbation?

Do you believe in masturbation?

Some of my friends explained that women should masturbate to know what they like, how they like it and to climax.

Women should not expect a man to meet all their sexual needs but should do it on their own.

Women should be confident in exploring themselves and telling their partners what turns them on to have a quicker and better orgasm.

Remember, a man should enable a woman but not be there to assist her every need. Women should care for themselves.

Thank you Hyginette for giving me the idea to write a blog post about, “women learning to find ways to satisfy themselves, so they don’t depend on men.”

Question remains, are women truly independent or are they dependent on men?

Reems Sonson

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A granny like you

My sweet granny. We call her Naze, Nazile 

I am blessed to still have my grandmother in my life and doing all the things that she does for me.

My granny is not only strong, independent and self-reliant but she has been a hustler her entire adult life.

Sexiness

Backbone of the family

Naze is extremely helpful and has more energy than her grandkids. She is the support in the family and one of the most reliable people I know.

She is someone to count on whenever we need assistance and is always a call away. She continuously offers her support and tells us to call her anytime we need something. 

She is very concerned and wants to know that everything and everyone is okay. “What a good granny” like my dad typically says.

Naze is very kind-hearted and shares anything that she has. She is very generous with her time and presence.

Workaholic

She does not know how to sit and relax because she keeps active and constantly finds something to do.

She goes above and beyond to assist in whatever way she can. She willingly tries to find a way to help the best that she can.   

Pay her a visit and you will know! She ensures that she fixes visitors something to eat if she has not cooked. She will even give you something to go with as a token of appreciation for your visit.

Even at that age, she still babysits her grandkids. When she comes over to visit me, she washes the dishes, cleans the house and yard, cooks and even makes jam.

I do not have to ask her to do anything because she sees everything that needs to be done.

Sometimes she calls me to ask if I need help with anything. Imagine that my granny has more energy than me!

The only time Naze gets tired is whenever she sits, is at rest and watches television. Be sure to hear her snore or see her head bob in the middle of a conversation around these times.

My right hand

Where it all began

I have had a relatively close bond with Naze especially since she is the only granny I have known and given that she lives close to me.

From secondary school up until nursing school, she would give me $5.00 every Sunday and say, “that is for you to buy a burger when you go to school.”

When I began working, my granny and my mom would hand wash my uniforms and scrub my work shoes. They only stopped because I was adamant that I should take over and give them a break after many years.

My grandma is the best

She does not say “I love you” but it is seen in the things that she does. She has a lot of unconditional love that she does not know how to express.  

She loves almost instantly. Naze is quick to make friends and develops a liking for whoever we bring to her house.

Some of us might think that a granny is someone who should be at home relaxing and enjoying the time they have left but not this active granny of mine.  

Granny’s perfections  

Nothing compares to my granny’s cooking. She makes the best coconut cake, one pot “mapa” with coconut milk, bakes and cocoa tea and steamed vegetables.

Her vegetable rice, almost cheese less macaroni and cheese, paime, turnover, stew backs, guava jam and stew lamb neck are all classic delights.  

Blame the age

She says anything and does not care how it comes out. After going through life and being around for a while, she could not care less about what she says to others, her mouth has no censor!    

She stops everyone who passes on the road and holds them in a long conversation. During the long conversations, you will hear her singling out everyone in the person’s family and asking how each one is doing.

Faith for deliverance

Granny has been through so much and has kept a lot bottled up inside. She has lost many relatives and more recently her first out of four daughters, my mom- Sophia.

The sudden death of my mom damaged Naze, us all for that matter. We have accepted the death and are learning to cope with mom’s absence, but another dilemma is happening.

There are some people in the community provoking Naze and saying the most hideous things about her. Whilst others are either stealing or killing her produce. When will it end?

Forever young

The side of love

I saw a different side of Naze when she began taking care of her sick granddaughter and her son. I see extreme patience, selflessness, self-sacrifice, concern and love being displayed by Naze daily. She does not hesitate to help them with whatever they need.

It is customary for us to say that she is troublesome, but she is just as loving and caring. She has shaped all our lives in a big way and has helped us one way or the other.

It is safe to say on behalf of my relatives that we are who we are because of the role that Naze has played in our lives.

Granny’s long hands

I can still remember how “long” my mouth would be as a child because Naze took a bit from everybody’s snack. She would say, “bor mwen tac” to mean “give her some” and take whatever we had in our hand and eat from it. How upset I would be!

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Top Things I wish I knew before I turned 30

17-year-old me could not wait to grow up, work for my own money, buy my own clothes, move out from my parent’s house and do whatever I wanted without explaining to anyone.

At that time, I thought my mom had it all figured out and was lucky because she did not have to go to school. Silly me!

Now that I am an adult, I do not understand what excited 17-year-old me so much that I longed to become an adult. I have had some experiences that shaped my life, so I understand a lot more about life than I did back then.

Here are some of the things I wish I knew in my 20s.

Tops Things I wish I knew back then

The importance of spending time with loved ones

Now that my mom is gone, there are so many things I wish I had said to her. I wish I spent more time with her and the people I love.

I became so busy with my job and going to school that I did not spend lots of time with my mom.

Sometimes we put things ahead of spending time with loved ones and see how much we miss them only when they are gone.

Now, I have gotten more grateful for the people who are there with me, show up for me and make a positive contribution to my life.

Life is short to waste time. Be thankful for everyone and everything.

Saving then would matter later

It is funny how we spoil ourselves when we start working. We treat ourselves well and give ourselves the best. Ever happened to you?

I wish I knew how much money I would need to allow me to enjoy the lifestyle I want. I love adventures, traveling, going to hotels and eating good food. I should have saved more money back then!

Journaling my every emotion

Journaling helps clear my mind, keeps me relaxed and has helped me identity the things I love.

Journaling reduces my frustration and helps me vent. I wish I had journaled more in my 20s to feel less stressed and so I could read it now to see how much I have grown.

Reading inspirational books would be a life changer

I have read many inspirational books since I turned 30 that I now have a new mindset. Had I read these books in my 20s, I would now be an expert.

Plus, I would have had enhanced my growth and development and improve on my confidence and coping skills.

Trade versus Trait

I thought that education was the way out for me. I believed in going to school to get a degree, a decent paying job and of course climb the hierarchy. That has not worked out as I envisioned.

I consumed myself in developing a career that I did not work on my talents. I wish I knew the importance of learning a trade back in my 20s so I could have been my own boss right now.

Be yourself

There is only on you. Be you wherever you go. Some people will not like you and they have no reason. Most times, they dislike you because you trouble the demon within them.

Forget what they say

I used to worry about what others thought about me. This is one of my greatest regrets! Do not live in fear of others or make yourself become a prisoner for someone.

Do not take what people say about you personal, they are miserable with themselves and their lives.

Positive affirmations and positive self-talk

I recently began using positive affirmations and I have learned to think positively about myself, embrace my flaws and own my identity.

Call me self-centered but, “I am beautiful, I am worthy, I am enough, I am successful, I am happy, I am wealthy, I am loved, I have peace of mind, I am important and I have optimum health and wellness!”

Be wary of comfort zones

Doing something new can be scary from uncertainty and fear of the unknown. I used to dislike change. I used to be so comfortable in my situations that I did not set goals nor timelines. Wish I had done these things differently!

Sometimes it feels easy to remain stagnant because of being in a comfort zone especially when in a stressful job and toxic relationship.Comfort zones could make you miss out on having a great life!

Things work out just as they should

I got worked up over basic things and situations I had no control over. In the end, everything happened for my good. No matter what, everything will be okay.

Creating a vision board is like a magnet

My vision board has given me exciting things to look out for! When I watch my vision board, I feel like I live and experience it although it has not happened. I just know that it will happen and I act as though it is real.

I wish I knew the Law of Attraction back then. I wish I had created a list of all the things I want to accomplish, all the places I want to visit and things I want to try before I leave this world.  

Power of the subconscious mind

Ever thought something and it happened? I have realized that most of what has happened to me is as a result of my thoughts whether directly or indirectly. The subconscious mind helps make things a reality, it is not limiting and it focuses on the bigger picture.

Feed your mind with positivity daily and tell it what you want, need, seek, and desire. Believe!

I constantly remind myself that, “I love myself, I am one with the universe, I am confident, I am protected, I have in abundance, I am valuable and I am able!”

Forgiveness

I held on to grudges in my 20s. Boy, was I bitter. Forgiveness is necessary for your healing so practice it some more.  

Pointers for 20s going on 30s

By the time you get to 30, you would have gained loads of experience, know what you like and dislike and have a general idea of what you want.

Do what makes you happy, if not, you will get stressed out, get sick, make everyone around you feel miserable, be unhappy and die prematurely.

There are consequences to every action so make sound decisions. Everything in life is a risk so know what is worth taking a risk for and what is worth making sacrifices for.

Do not compare yourself to anyone. We all have different time zones. Be happy for others and celebrate their milestones.

See the good in everything, remain calm in every situation and learn to control your emotions.

Hearing and saying “no” is okay.

Do not make your fears or what others think about you define you and do not give up on yourself nor your passion. Work on whatever idea you have.

The world is filled with unlimited opportunities. Believe in yourself!

The future is right now so do not think you have time later.

The education system can fail you so enhance your trade.

Listen to your intuition and let your inner voice be your guide.

Get a mentor to motivate, guide and support you in the right direction.

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Believing God for the impossible 

Near death experience

On January 30th, 2022, I witnessed my cousin’s eyes close, her hands slowly drop to her sides and her body turn pale as she took her last breath. For a second, I watched in disbelief.  

Nurse mode then kicked in and I immediately placed her in a supine position and commenced chest compressions. As I performed the chest compressions, I cried. I wondered what quality of life she would have if she did survive because she had been severely ill for years.

I told my other cousin who is also a nurse that perhaps we should let her go in peace because bringing her back would not be something she would have wanted. She yelled, “don’t you dare stop!” I got weaker as I continued the chest compressions. I could not believe that I was reliving my mom’s death all over again.  

My cousin remained motionless and pulseless when the Emergency Medical Technicians arrived. After about five minutes, we were able to get a faint pulse. We had to continue the chest compressions until we got to the hospital nearby. 

What a rough ride

The ambulance ride was extremely fast. We perspired excessively as we got tired from performing the continuous chest compressions. It was a sight to see as we grabbed on items so we would not injure ourselves from the rough ride and bumpy road.  

Breaking the news

My cousin was stabilized and then transferred to the main hospital. When she became fully conscious, we explained her near death ordeal. She called all the relatives and said goodbye in the event she went into cardiac arrest again.

Bleeding hearts 

This was an emotional, painful and wreckful Sunday.

I was unable to sleep, eat and focus for the following week. Internally, I was a mess.

Long story short. My cousin got sicker days following and we thought we would lose her. Imagine, she remains alive today. The grace of God has gotten her stronger than before. She is a living testimony.

Witnessing the greatness of God in my cousin’s life made me trust in God fully and believe in His existence even more. I believe in Him for the impossible.

He is able

Pray, hope, believe and have faith that Jesus Christ will see you through whatever you are going through. You are never alone for God is always with you. He guides your every path, and He is your shepherd.

God has the final say and He knows best. It is not over until He says.

Sometimes we doubt God. Some of us do not believe that He is alive. It might take us having a near death experience or wanting something that is impossible for us to attain on our own to then believe in God and call upon His name. We should call upon His name now and ask Him to come into our life.   

Are you trying to work things out on your own and it is not working out? Believe in God and He will come through for you.  

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Brazilian wax…my experience

Shaving is easier on the purse but often causes hyperpigmentation! That is why I decided to get a Brazilian wax for the first time!

A friend once mentioned her wax experience at Touch Tranquility Luxury Spa, so I book an appointment there! I wanted a Brazilian wax for sensitive skin!

I have heard many stories of how painful a wax can be. I read up on “what to expect when going for a wax” days before my appointment. I was afraid that I would have a painful experience and reading got me even more anxious.

The night before the appointment I had many regrets and wanted to cancel. Whilst walking to the spa on the set date, I kept thinking, “there’s no turning back now!”

Touch Tranquility Luxury Spa

My cousin -Merlia and I were warmly greeted and escorted to the wax room. I tried to act normal when I got to the wax room because I did not want to seem freaked out.

My waxing specialist -Tessa was friendly, comforting and reassuring. She asked that I removed everything from the waist down and lie on the clean bed with sheets and paper over.

It seemed like a gynecological visit since I had to remove my panty. Like duh! What did I expect?  

I felt awkward and it was a bit uncomfortable having an unfamiliar person see my private part.

I had built-in anticipation. I wondered whether I would scream, cry or jerk so hard that I would hit Tessa.

First time Brazilian wax

Talcum powder was added to my Mons pubis to soothe the area and serve as a protective coating. The melted wax was then applied to my body with use of a tongue depressor.

A strip was placed on the cool wax and from there, I closed my eyes! The pulling of the hairs had begun!

The first couple of pulls surrounding the labia were painful enough for me to say, “ah!” I had anticipated pain, so the pain began even before I heard the ripping sound. The power of the mind!

Tessa sensed my anxiety and told me relax a couple of times.

The pulls gradually went from pain to discomfort. My entire body perspired throughout the procedure because that was my first time experiencing such peculiar sensation.

Yes! As you could imagine, my eyes were watery throughout!

The butt hole!

Interestingly, you can go on your belly/prone and open your butt cheeks so around your “butt hole” can be waxed. What an experience! I felt uneasy with having to open my buttocks for a stranger but after all, I asked for a Brazilian wax.

A Brazilian wax involves removing all the hair in the pubic area! That includes the hair on the Mons pubis, sides, below and everything in between and even hair on the butt too.

Getting my butt waxed was much more bearable and it only felt like a pinch.

After care

Vitamin E oil was added to the waxed areas to smoothen the areas, limit irritation and serve as an exfoliant.

Be prepared!

You might be asked to hold your labia during the wax!

You might bleed slightly following the pulls.

Quick wax

I also waxed my armpits and facial hairs, so the session took about 20 minutes. Plus, Tessa stopped at intervals to explain the procedure, shaving, body sculpturing, dos and don’ts before and after waxing and home care after waxing. She explained everything about waxing since it had been my first time.

Post Brazilian wax

My private region was slightly sensitive after the procedure, but it was nothing I could not tolerate. I had slight redness and swelling the day after the Brazilian wax and my Mons pubis looked like a hairless chicken.

Down there feels soft, nice, light and smooth days later. I look forward to the next session to be more relaxed and have an easier experience.

Overall, I am satisfied with the experience, and I am glad that I went to a professional.

Remember that we all have different pain thresholds. Waxing is not as painful as I read but it can be very uncomfortable, but it might differ for you.

Prepare yourself mentality and your Brazilian wax experience should be awesome.

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Dating men who are not ready…sometimes love is not enough

Ever got to a point where you wanted more from your partner and relationship?

If you’re the one, then he makes all the necessary adjustments to keep you!

The harsh reality some women face is being with men who are not ready for what they want and have to offer. That can range from being in a relationship, moving in together, building together, getting married and having children.

Basic things like coming together to discuss finances, making plans, deciding who will pay what bill or alternate the bill when buying the groceries.

Ever tried discussing the next step in the relationship with your guy and he ignored you, changed the topic or changed his mood?

Where does it start?

Some men pursue women until they get them and say all the things women want to hear. It is almost like being fooled into consenting to the relationship. You go in thinking, finally, someone I can relate to!

Overtime, as you develop deep feelings, you see that person as being the one you settle down with. They agree that they want to settle down but after a while change their mind. What are you supposed to do?

Imagine getting extremely excited that you both want the same thing and are on the same page. Then boom, somewhere in between, he changed his mind. Now you both want different things!

If you had no intentions of settling down and know that you are not ready, then, what is the point of luring someone into being in a relationship with you?

Wait on him? Walk away?

Is it worth remaining in a relationship just for a man to wake up one day, finally be ready and decide to commit to you?

Some women invest their all into men who are not ready and decide to wait on them. Sometimes it works out well! Congratulations!

Others wait and the men never get ready or the men leave to be with someone else only to do all the things they said they were not ready to do.

For how long will you wait and at what price and whose expense?

Fact is, when a man finally decides to be ready and settle down, you might not be the one he chooses. He might no longer be in love with you nor desire you. Some men might choose you by default because you have been there or because they have no one better to choose.

Why he might not be ready?

Some men are still trying to figure themselves out, are not where they want to be financially and do not want the responsibility attached to commitment.

Some are uncertain whether you are the one they want to spend the rest of their lives with and might hold on to you until they get the next best thing.

Others might be waiting on illness, sudden injury, when they become decapitated or have little to no opportunity to chase someone else. Past experiences and using other people’s experiences and making it be their own or going based on statistics can also be contributing factors.

His mother

A mother’s advice or advice from a loved one can be a big reason a man might not be ready nor want to commit.

Some mothers do not want their sons to settle down because they prefer that they stay at home with them. They rather for their son to remain single or find someone else instead of encouraging them to commit to you.

Investing the time

Life is so short to invest your time into something that is going nowhere and is remaining stagnant because of one person. The longer you wait on someone to figure themselves out, the longer you will miss out on being happy with someone else.

Also, the longer you will miss out on being with someone else who has no problem building with you, wants to settle with you, knows what they are about and is ready.

Whilst it is true that you do not know what character you will encounter or the treatment you will receive on your quest to find someone who is ready. You should be hopeful and optimistic that everything will work in your favor.

Genuine desire

Two people should genuinely want to settle down with each other. It should not be anything forced.

Some women give men ultimatums instead of waiting or walking away. Some men gladly accept the ultimatum, are okay with it and others although they accepted, later resent the women.

Men are fixers

A man tries to fix things, discuss things and see how you both can make the relationship work so you both can move on together. A man that wants to be with you will do whatever it takes without you having to beg.

Have a problem that you constantly mention but he ignores you, brushes you off or offers no solution? Then, he is not ready to face nor fix the problem. Men try to fix things so women can stop talking about it. All men can change but some change for the woman they really want.

Be concise in your asking

Be direct and clear about what you want because it is your life. Ensure that he knows what you want so there can be no miscommunication or misunderstanding in the future.

The right man will want to discuss things, see how you both can make sacrifices and fix things so it can work.

Some men in hopes of trying to keep you will one time agree to what you want then later change their mind. It is a constant mind game. You sense the doubt and have that gut feeling that things will not be okay but you stay because he is a good guy.

Listen attentively

Women get stuck because they do not listen when men say what they want and fully express themselves. Women see all the red flags yet neglect them, think the man is joking and hope that they will change.

It is perfectly fine to want what you want and it is perfectly fine for him to want what he wants. Be respectful of his decision.

Remember

Your partner must want the relationship to account for something just as much as you do.  

Some men are slower than others and that is okay but ensure that you know their plan for the relationship so you will have no surprises later.

The right relationship will happen naturally. No questions, no forcing and no convincing.

Resentment and discontentment can cause more harm for the relationship when two people are not on the same page. You will only hurt each other.

No matter how much time you have invested in a relationship, you should not be unhappy or be afraid to start over.

The power is yours to do what you want because you have a choice.

Respect his decision if he wants no growth and is no longer willing to create something with you. Either you decide to wait on him, leave to go find someone else or be single. Irrespective of this, focus on yourself, your personal growth and development and work on being an improved you.

Also, remember to fully analyze the situation and be objective before letting a good guy go because of your impatience.

Some men are immature, some are not ready and are unable to give you what you want because of their circumstances and others are intentionally not giving it to you.

Decide who is worth your time and your wait.

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I AM

Rewire your brain and say this affirmation until you believe it. Turn it into your melody!

I am beautiful and young.

I am great and I am doing my best every day.

I am inspired and I am inspiring.

I am living in abundance and I am growing.

I am healthy and disease free. I am taking care of myself.

I am worthy and I have endless opportunities that take me closer to reaching my goals, dreams and aspirations.

I am valuable and desired.

I am successful and I attract people who help me freely with no expectations.

I am enough.

I am happy and grateful. I am responsible for my own happiness. I create my own happiness.

I am complete.

I am resilient and fear free.

I am adjusting to changes and I am overcoming challenges.

I am confident in my body and all my abilities.

I am attracting abundance, wealth, riches, success, peace, security and stability.

I am positive and have a positive mindset.

I am confident that the universe loves and supports me and supply’s everything I need.

I am showered with love, peace, comfort, wealth and riches.

I am radiating generosity.  

I am making wise financial investments.

I am talented and creative.

I am one with the universe and my mind, body, soul and spirit are one and flow freely.

I am free.

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Flavours of the Grill

If this is your first time visiting Flavours of the Grill then let me guide you through! If you have visited before then you know what I am talking about so leave a comment below and tell us about your experience!

I highly recommend Flavours of the Grill for its great location, great staff, great food and reasonable prices!

Flavours of the Grill was once located in the heart of the Gros Islet village but now it is located in Bois D’Orange, Gros Islet opposite Computer World.

The new location is easy to get to since it is along the Castries to Gros Islet highway.

Flavours of the Grill caters for both reservations and walk ins. Only lunch and dinner are served!

On the go? Food pick up is available! Call to place your order and collect your meal when you are ready!

Outdoor dining

You could dine outdoor in the open area or chill at the bar. Enjoy the fresh air, order some cocktails, watch sports, enjoy the music or show your dance skills on the dance floor.

The outdoor setting is even more festive with the added night lights so pay a visit during the night!

Flavours of the grill

Indoor dining

Enter into a different atmosphere as you dine indoor in the air conditioned and well decorated room.

The indoor experience is very romantic especially if you are having dinner- dim lights and candle kinda vibe. It will definitely set the mood.  

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Indoor setting
Hello!

Buffet versus menu

You are sure to be greeted by the friendly staff as you walk into the establishment. Love multiple food options? Well you will enjoy the lunch buffet! Grab a plate and get served!

The buffet is different every day so you can enjoy a variety of mouth-watering cuisines.  

Menu? An a la carte menu is provided! You could choose lunch from the menu but it depends on the time and what your taste buds crave.

Lunch time is usually busy so ordering from the menu might come with a little wait time. The meals are prepared fresh and from scratch so the wait is always worth it!

I enjoy the a la carte dining at nights! The food is always well prepared and well presented.

Buffet style
Chicken casserole from the buffet
Menu
Sneak peek
Pumpkin soup served with garlic bread
Fried calamari
Glimpse of the grilled chicken with peppercorn sauce

Food

My favourite is the grilled chicken served with peppercorn sauce. Oh my gosh, that is super tasty!

I also love the jerk chicken! My eyes got tremendously watery and I had nasal drip the first time I tried the jerk chicken because it was too hot for me. I mean it is jerk chicken so obviously it will be hot! What did I expect?

I began ordering not too spicy jerk chicken thereafter. It is just as delicious minus me getting watery eyes and nasal drip! Yummy!

Rice and potato mash served with grilled chicken
Jerk wings

Must visit

Flavours of the Grill is a good chill spot to have a date, have lunch or meet with a group. It is the perfect place to celebrate an event, relax, enjoy some good food and have a few drinks with friends.

The establishment smells nice and is always clean and neat.

I appreciate how the friendly yet professional staff check at intervals to ensure that everybody is doing okay.

The food is inexpensive given that it is of high quality. The authentic local cuisines are colorful, flavorful and satisfying.

I am overly impressed with the food preparation. The chef is very talented and knows how to make my tummy feast with excitement.

I must say that the flavors of the food have been consistent over the past ten years that I have visited. However, the portion sizes got a bit smaller.

Cheers

Remember

Free parking is available!

Highchairs are available for infants and children are welcomed

Call your friends, set a date and make it karaoke night every Thursday

Mints are given with the bill

Flavours of the Grill is habitually busy on Fridays and Saturdays. Expect to see both locals and tourists.

Celebrating an event? Call ahead and be seated at a well decorated table.

Flavours of the Grill is definitely worth a visit!

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Top qualities of a good woman

Many men have let go of good women to chase “not so good” women. What is a good woman one might ask, do good women even exist and how can they be found.

If you are looking for a life partner and a strong, lasting and stable relationship, it is important to know what qualities you desire in a woman.

A good woman is an investment.

Qualities of a good woman

Self-care

A good woman takes care of herself and her health. She does not let herself go and requires no one to be on her back so she can take better care of herself.

Responsible spender

A good woman has good personal finance. She has the ability to budget and save independently. She spends responsibly and invests wisely.

Independent

There is nothing wrong with seeking assistance from your partner but a good woman tries to make a living for herself.

She is able to accomplish her own task and tries to sustain herself. She is independent and self-reliant.

Ambitious

She knows her potential and worth. She pursues her own goals and works towards growth and success.

Honest

A good woman is honest and trustworthy, you can believe what she says, you take her word for it and you do not doubt what she says. She is authentic and remains genuine to who she is.

She remains consistent and does not transform into another person after she knows you for a while nor during difficulty, illness or financial troubles.

Easy to talk to

Being able to talk freely and openly are paramount in a relationship. A good woman has good communication skills, is expressive and easy to talk to.

She is intellectually challenging and can have deep meaningful conversations without arguments.

Apologies

A good woman understands when she is wrong, willingly admits her mistakes, apologies and make amends. She tries to solve issues, is forgiving and willing to move forward.

A good woman is beneficial to you

A good woman encourages you to make wise financial decisions. She does not put you in any debt nor leads you to bankruptcy. She does not rely on you solely unless you want her to. She does not dry your wallet, drain your bank account or put visible holes in your pocket.

Whilst it is true that we do not know if we will live to see now but that does not mean that we should not save for later. A good woman encourages you to save. She is able to help you turn savings into assets and not liabilities. She believes in investments for future success.

A  good woman encourages you to pursue all your goals. She is supportive, considerate and relieves the load off your shoulder instead of adding more. She gives you time and shows affection.

She celebrates your success, gives you your time to shine and does not make herself be the center of attention neither does she make everything be about her.

A good woman is a team player and displays the ability to compromise at times.

She gives you a listening ear without accusations or judgements and she acts like your shoulder to cry on. A good woman does not call you weak or soft when you show emotions.

The good woman in her

A good woman loves you for who you are and not what you can do for her. She loves you solely and not just what you bring to the table or the assets that you own.

She leaves you feeling better than before and she puts you at ease instead of having you feel like you are walking on egg shells. She makes you be the best version of yourself without you having to change who you are.

She is fun to be around and she has a good sense of humour. A good woman is caring and always there for you even when you are not in best health and are in diapers. You can count on her and she is reliable.

She is open to learning something new and pays attention to you.

She is resilient and able to help you get back on your feet. She is drama free and puts in effort. She is a trying woman and she makes an effort to keep you around even when the relationship romance has worn off.

A good woman shows dignity and respect to others. She is empowering and inspiring and continuously motivates you to do better and be better.

Non envious and decent

A good woman gives you freedom to have your own life and identity outside of the relationship. She does not get upset when you go on a boys night out.

She does not call you all the time when you are out, put tabs on you or accuse you of cheating when you return home. She does not count the times you go out so she can do the same.

A good woman does not smother you but gives you space willingly. She does not get upset when you take time to spend alone.

A good woman does not get upset or jealous at your female friends or female relatives. She does not expect you to cut all communication with them because they are females.

She does not give ultimatums but allows for mutual discussions and decisions. She is committed to the relationship, she is non offensive and does not get defensive when constructive criticism is given.

She keeps her environment clean and she is decent.

A good woman is not hard to find. Pay attention to her qualities and follow your heart! Looks wear out but a good personality does not!

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Reducing COPD risk and addressing COPD in Saint Lucia- a preliminary approach

Risk factors for COPD

There are environmental factors that can negatively impact the health, growth, survival and daily operations of a society. These factors can cause an individual to develop COPD and exist as physically, demographically, economically, culturally, technologically, politically or regulatorily characteristics.

Some of the contributing factors that cause and sustain COPD in Saint Lucia are smoking and exposure to secondhand smoke. Long term exposure to cigarette smoke can cause lung irritation and damage overtime.

Environmental factors whether at home or at work can increase the chances of the disease through long term contact with pollutants in these areas such as with chemicals, fumes and dust. People can be exposed to COPD from occupational hazards as they have increased exposure to fumes from work. These types of hazards lead to airway scarring, air flow obstruction and reduced lung function which are hallmarks of COPD.

Indoor pollution

Air quality is important for COPD individuals so they need clean and fresh air to maintain good health. Indoor air quality tend to be worse than the air quality outdoors.Indoor air pollution include mold, paint, building materials and furnishings such as new carpeting, perfumes, scented candles, hair sprays and cleaning products.

The fumes emitted are all notorious for being irritants to the respiratory tract so it is important to remove these products from breathing space. Remember to ensure proper ventilation when at home!

Outdoor air pollution

In Saint Lucia, manufacturing facilities and the electricity supplying power plant are all sources of outdoor air pollution as particles get emitted and travel throughout the atmosphere.

Fossil fuels and diesel exhaust are all dispersed into the environment and further contribute to the development of COPD. Daily sources of outdoor air pollution in Saint Lucia are emission of gases from vehicles and those from burning of garbage.

Increased risk

Development of COPD depends on the intensity of the toxicity an individual is being exposed to, the time period and an individual’s susceptibility level. Therefore the elderly, children and people with weakened immune systems are at greater risk of developing the disease. Pregnant women may pose a risk to the fetus as they inhale the harmful substances and this can be a precursor for the disease.

Cleaners are at an increased risk of developing COPD since they are exposed to harmful chemicals that can cause respiratory irritation if it is not environmentally friendly. Cleaners should wear personal protective equipment when using harmful chemicals to reduce direct exposure.

Genetics

Genetic factors may predispose people to COPD. Some individuals have a family history of asthma, get asthma themselves and later in life develop COPD. Asthma is a chronic lung disease that inflames and narrows the airways but treatment usually can reverse the inflammation and narrowing that occurs. 

Preterm babies usually need to have long-term oxygen therapy because their lungs are not fully developed so this therapy can cause lung damage that can increase the risk for COPD later in life.

Temperature changes

Air quality can be harmful when the temperature goes down. COPD patients should be especially careful during cold weather as their lungs can get irritated as the cold and dry air can tighten airway and cause difficulty with breathing.

How the government can reduce COPD

5 A’s for early detection

In an effort to reduce COPD, the government need to ensure that health care providers ensure the accurate diagnosis of conditions since COPD usually goes unrecognized until it is in the last stages.

The government can encourage health care workers to use the 5 A’s- ask, advise, assess, assist and arrange to help identify health risks and manage it. This encompasses asking the patients whether they are smoking or are exposed to environmental hazards that can cause the disease and advising them to limit those behaviors or exposures.

Along with other government agencies, the identified factors can be assessed. The patients willing to quit smoking can be referred to a counselor and then assistance be given to help them limit the practice. Arrangements such as follow up in person or by telephone need to be made to find ways to ensure continued avoidance of the exposure and behavior altogether.

Primary prevention

Approaches to address the COPD problem should focus on primary prevention as it would help prevent the disease from happening at all. More focus can be placed on disease prevention, health promotion and raising public awareness of COPD. People can be educated and empowered about health issues associated with smoking and poor air quality.

Community health fairs, posting of flyers in communities, public announcements and massive media campaigns on COPD would be essential. Ensure that announcements are both in English and Kweyol to aid with understanding.

People with presenting symptoms such as chronic cough, increase in sputum production and history of exposure to risk factors should be encouraged to report to health officials. The reports would help with early identification of the disease so the necessary treatment can be given.

Increasing public awareness would be effective as the public would better identify symptomatic people. It would then become the norm to seek medical attention when displaying these symptoms.

Empower families and caregivers caring for people with COPD

Educate families and caregivers on ways to care for COPD patients, how best to manage the disease and how to reduce the burden. Provide avenues for COPD patients and caregivers to seek clarity and share and receive up-to-date and reliable information.

Training exercises

The government can make treatment more possible through a better health care system which includes training exercises for COPD patients. This could help relieve symptoms and promote more physical activity.

A COPD specialist or physiotherapist could do home visits to ensure that patients and caregivers are practicing proper self-care, nutrition and exercises to reduce symptoms. Home visits would also be useful to reduce hospitalization as patients and caregivers become more knowledgeable on home care.  

Vulnerable groups can be assessed and the risk factors that can predispose these individuals to developing COPD be highlighted in an effort to reduce it.

Smoking cessation is the most effective way to reduce COPD.  Smoking cessation programs can be made more available for people who are trying to quit. COPD patients can be peered with a coach to track progress, help prevent a smoking relapse and to improve smoking reduction strategies.

Accessible services

The government can ensure that environmental, educational and basic medical services are accessible to everyone and are readily available so it can be utilized when needed. Family support needs to be encouraged to help limit relapse to smoking and people can be referred to support groups for additional support. Funds could be made available for COPD patients to get money to purchase oxygen concentrators and relevant home based medical supplies.

Implementing workplace indoor quality assurance policies

Policies need to be developed for the country and work environments so the air quality can be more friendly. These can include policies to help limit smoking indoors and smoking in public to help combat the problem.

The policies can help reduce exposure of unsanitary and poor air quality as environmental air pollution can contribute to COPD. People can also be made aware of reducing total exposure to occupational dust, tobacco smoke and indoor and outdoor air pollutants.

Adjusting work environment for COPD patients

The work environment should be assessed to identify factors that would limit the full work performance of COPD patients and corrective measures taken. The work environment should be made conducive for COPD patients. This would help ensure that they continue their job, maintain their identify outside of their diagnosis and remain functioning members of society.

It may be a challenge for COPD workers to perform their duties. They may experience exertion with physical activity but with good mental health and support, workers can effectively and efficiently carry out their daily activities.

Immunization

Immunization campaigns should be done. Vaccines can be given for common respiratory illnesses as these illnesses can predispose people to the development of COPD and further suppress the respiratory system.

Monitoring and evaluation

The government needs to then evaluate the effectiveness of health services by monitoring it through use of surveillance. Gaps should be identified and adjustments made where necessary.  Research for new innovative ways to help solve the rising COPD problem can also be done as research can provide useful data that can be used in the future to help limit the disease.

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This blog post is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis nor treatment. Please seek advice from your medical provider for further information and clarity on COPD.

Living with Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) in Saint Lucia

Tobacco smoke causes toxic effects on the lungs and could lead to COPD. With the rise in both indoor and outdoor air pollution, COPD is no longer limited to cigarette smoke. Environmental factors can contribute to the development of COPD because the quality of air that we breathe is a major component of COPD.

COPD is a debilitating and progressive disease that causes loss of the normal elasticity of the lungs. COPD affects quality of life, decreases functional status and increases risk for heart failure, lung cancer and death.

COPD is often underdiagnosed and undertreated. People with COPD may display little symptoms at first and symptoms common to other illnesses so it may go unrecognized. There is no cure for COPD but interventions can help reduce symptoms, improve well-being and prevent death. Caring for loved ones with COPD can be a burden to families both physically, emotionally and financially.

Let us educate, empower, engage and encourage people with COPD. Let us share our knowledge.

What is COPD?

Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) is a chronic inflammatory lung disease that causes obstructed airflow from the lungs (Mayo Clinic, 2022). COPD includes conditions such as bronchitis (prolonged cough and sputum production), asthma (swelling in the airway) and emphysema (a lung condition that leads to shortness of breath).

Causes of COPD

Some of the main causes of COPD are smoking constantly for prolonged periods of time, being a past smoker and exposure to second-hand smoke. Air pollution, dust, chemicals and fumes are also causes of COPD.

Some people genetically lack the enzyme Alpha-1 antitrypsin (A1AD) and develop COPD at an earlier age than smokers. Sometimes the etiology of COPD is unknown.

Common signs and symptoms

Symptoms can range from being mild to very severe, vary from person to person and depends on the severity of the condition. In the early stages, symptoms can be mild but vary from moderate to severe overtime. COPD is characterized by difficulty breathing during exertion, chronic cough and increased mucus production.

Anxiety, depression, heart failure and lung cancer are common. Some people present with wheezing, fatigue, frequent lung infections, chest tightness and decreased appetite accompanied by weight loss.

In the long run, people with COPD go into cor pulmonale (right sided heart failure), end stage lung disease and die.

Early detection

Early diagnosis and treatment of COPD are the key to reducing disease progression and complications, living better, improving quality of life and living longer with the disease.

COPD in Saint Lucia

COPD is a major public health issue in Saint Lucia as people being diagnosed with COPD is on the rise. The combined use of tobacco and marijuana is a growing and contributing factor.

There have been an increase in people in their 30s with full-blown COPD that require continuous oxygen. Basic activities such as moving from bed to chair causes extreme shortness of breath. As a result, these individuals have to gasp for air, use more respiratory effort and quickly go into moderate to severe respiratory distress.

They become dependent on oxygen so require it to perform all activities of daily living even when at home. Some COPD patients cannot purchase home oxygen cylinders and have to seek assistance from the government. Owning an oxygen cylinder means having to refill it every time it is empty, this is another burden as most times help is also required for oxygen refills.  

Heightened hospitalization and social case

Globally, majority of the cases admitted for COPD are men who are chronic smokers and a few individuals mostly women develop COPD with no known etiology. Hospitals have been burdened by the amount of patients who have become social cases. These patients live in the hospital since they are unable to care for themselves at home, are financially deprived and have no one to care for them upon discharge.

Some patients who suffer from COPD have good family support so go home to good care. Whilst other families explain that they are unfit to care for their loved ones and the patients altogether do not want to go home for fear of neglect and death.

This has caused increased costs for hospital administrators since more staff are needed to care for these patients who typically require extensive care, constant monitoring and assistance.

There has been a reduction in the availability of beds to house patients who actually need medical attention since the COPD patients take up the limited bed space. Most of the smokers suffer from permanent lung disease as a direct result of the toxic effects of tobacco smoke so require lung transplant.

Lung transplant is an expensive intervention that is not performed in some countries so individuals are placed on continuous low flow oxygen to help sustain life. Some patients are able to fly to other countries to have the procedure done.

Long-time COPD patients are “recurring decimals” due to the constant emergency room visits, admissions and longer hospital stays. Some patients become afraid to stay away from the hospital so refuse discharge and some return the same day they are discharged.

Many people who suffer from COPD become incapable of working especially if they are dependent on oxygen, tire easily and have constant and prolonged hospital stays. They lose their jobs overtime and become unable to provide an income to care for themselves and their family.

Rippling effect

The effects of COPD have a rippling effect. The patient becomes depressed, feels helpless and hopeless and have deceased quality of life. The family spends lots of money in hospital bills and treatment and worry about their loved one. The employer loses a worker. The government and tax payers bear the overall cost of care.

Funds have to be allotted by the government to care for COPD patients. The finances given to care for these individuals could be invested in other areas. The government must also pay the nursing homes for the patients who have become a social case. Therefore, there is an opportunity cost for the government.

The patients are referred to the social worker so a nursing home can be obtained. These individuals then fill the nursing homes and deprive those we actually need the home of the chance of getting a spot.

Also, a sick and dying population means reduced workforce and decreased economic output and revenue for the country.

Patient education

It is important for people to be aware that their risk for developing COPD increases with the amount of tobacco smoked each day along with the number of years. Efforts should be made to limit consumption and exposure to COPD triggers.

This blog post is dedicated to all the COPD patients I have nursed.

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Reference: Mayo Clinic. (2022). COPD. Retrieved from https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/copd/symptoms-causes/syc-20353679

Breakfast egg casserole Breakfast egg muffin

Prep: 10 minutes            Bake: 10 minutes          Total: 20 minutes

Egg casserole or egg muffin makes for a delicious, quick and filling breakfast, lunch and even dinner. It is easy to prepare, requires little time and little ingredients. This fluffy egg casserole or egg muffin is great for meal prep and to eat on the go.

Ingredients

Four eggs

½ teaspoon garlic

½ teaspoon bell pepper

1 teaspoon celery

1 tablespoon finely chopped onion

¼ cup pepperoni

¼ cup turkey pastrami

¼ cup ham

A pinch of rosemary

A dash of ground pepper and paprika

Cheese to sprinkle (optional)

Feel free to add tomatoes, spinach, bacon, mushrooms and even tuna!

The amount of ingredients needed depends on the amount of people you are catering for.

You could use as many eggs as you like, add more ingredients plus your favorite delicacies! I used four eggs since I served four individuals.

Ingredients
Ready to go in the oven

Instructions

Preheat oven to 350 ﹾF

Lightly grease or spray pyrex/muffin tray

In a large bowl, whisk together eggs

Add all other ingredients and mix

Add mixture to pyrex/muffin tray

Sprinkle cheese (optional)

Bake at 250 ﹾF to 350 ﹾF for 10-15 minutes until cooked

Let cool, serve or store in refrigerator

Served

Tips to preparing the perfect egg casserole/egg muffin

Salt is not needed!

Grease pyrex/muffin tray properly or use a good non-stick muffin tray.

Fill ¾ of the pyrex/muffin tray to prevent overflow.

If you love variety then add different ingredients in each muffin tray. Butter tray, add whisked egg to each then add onion, garlic, pepper and celery. Place pepperoni in one tray, ham in another and turkey pastrami in the other.

Let cool for about 10 minutes before removing from pyrex/muffin tray.

Ensure to loosen by running a spatula around inside walls. This aids with easy removal.

Store in an air tight container and refrigerate for up to 4-5 days. Can be frozen too!

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A good man

What constitutes “a good man?” What is your idea of “a good man?”

Some women find love and a good man effortlessly on first attempt at a relationship and others search tirelessly and endlessly.

Yes, it is okay to have specific qualities and traits to identify when looking for a good man. Know what you want and ensure you are able to identify it when you find it.

No, a good man is not hard to find. Follow your heart and it will lead you to love and a good man.

Missed opportunities

Some women busy themselves with searching for men who can provide, give them money, gift them material things, make for good baby daddies and give them cute babies.

They do not see men for who they are but what they can provide. These women forget about their own peace of mind, happiness, stability, security, guidance, love and having a loving home.

Other women search for so called “red flags” and ignore all the “right flags” so miss out on seeing the good in a good man.

Remember to be mindful on your search so you do not miss out on being with a good man.

Attraction and appearances

Many women have lost the opportunity of being with a good man because they were not attracted to the man and sensed no chemistry. These women did not take the opportunity to know the man better so instead explored other options.

Some women fall in love with men because of their physical appearance and not because of their personality. These women go based on looks and not actions so reject the idea of being with a man who is not as physically attractive in their eyes.

Men kept in the friends zone! A man may display the qualities that a woman wants in a man but she may not like him on that level so sees him as a friend. When the man finally gets into a relationship and settles down, the woman might grow love towards the man and regret not dating him.

Lessons from my heart

Your heart decides who it falls in love with. Falling in love with a man’s personality forms a deeper level of connection.

A good man

Of course, a good man is polite, faithful, kind and acts like a gentleman.

A good man is able to have direct one on one communication. No dodging of questions, not answering or leaving you questioning his intention and honesty. He tells the truth and not what you want to hear.

He is self-confident and not deterred into pressure from doing what he does not believe in. A good man has a positive attitude and sees the good in things.

He keeps his word and does what he says he will. He is dependable and reliable. You know you can count on him and he will always be there for you because he has your back.

A team!

It is a team effort and there is togetherness and equality. There is no level of dominance unless it is agreed upon by both parties.

A good man is someone who spends time with you, makes time for you and makes you feel like he is never too busy for you. He rather hang out with you on most days than chill with his friends.

He has your best interest and considers you in whatever he does. He is helpful and understands when you are too tired to have sex, cook or do chores.

A good man knows when something is wrong with you without you telling him because he pays attention to you and your every details.

Qualities to search for in a good man

A good man supports and encourages you no matter how absurd your ideas might sound. He will cheer you on and be your biggest fan.

He inspires you to be better by his way of life and thinking. His positive nature rubs off on you.

He is emotionally present and responsive when you speak, does not look at his phone or watch nor cuts you off and shuts you up. He is attentive and interested in what you have to say.

A good man listens when you speak so much so that he surprises you later on based on what you mentioned, said you would get or what you wanted. Yes, he listens and remembers too!

A good man is forgiving, has a good sense of humour and able to joke around.

He does not reproach, becomes insulting and abusive neither does he crosses the line. He keeps it drama free. He is respectful and able to dissipate misunderstandings amicably.

A good man takes ownership for his actions, makes no excuses and does not cast blame on others. He accepts when he is wrong, apologizes and tries to fix things.

The little things

A good man does the little things like help wash the dishes or hang the clothes. He is caring enough to get something you forgot from the grocery store, purchase something you love and surprises you with it or once in a while prepares you lunch.

A good man sticks by your side in all walks of life. He is committed to you when you are happy, sad, emotional, hurt, experiencing pain and trauma and when you are at your lowest point. He is there both on the sunny and stormy days.

He brings out the best in you. He shows affection, love and appreciation. A good man makes you feel and know that you are loved. You do not question whether he loves you because it shows.

He accepts you for who you are and loves every part of you. You are enough for him, he does not judge and neither is he constantly trying to upgrade you. He does not want to change you to suit what he wants.

A good man is non-envious and not selfish. He is okay with you having male friends and co-workers.

He is easy to talk to and is assertive. He openly tells you what he wants and what actions make him feel loved and cared about.

A good man does not need to prove himself as a good man because he is.

Dedicated to Sam. Thank you for being a good man.

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Pizza bread

Pizza bread is one of the simplest ways to enjoy bread and pizza!

No need to throw your “not so stale” bread! No need to make a dough from scratch or purchase a pizza dough or crust. This treat could be served for breakfast, lunch and dinner!

It is fun to prepare with kids plus it is super easy, super tasty and makes for a great snack. Pizza bread could be served at any event! Few ingredients are needed plus little prep time. Why not try it!

Total time: 15 minutes   Prep: 10 minutes   Bake: 5 minutes

Ingredients

Bread

Cheese

Onions (optional)

Peppers (optional)

Butter, ketchup or pizza sauce

Toppings: tuna

You could use any toppings of your choice: ham, sausage, pepperoni, mushrooms, pineapple

Prep

Preheat oven to 200- 250 ﹾC. No need to preheat if using a toaster oven.

Grate cheese

Open can of tuna or have readily available from bag

Chop peppers and onions

Slice bread according to your desire- I prefer thinly sliced to have a thin crust.

Instructions

Place bread on baking sheet

Spread butter, ketchup or pizza sauce over bread

Sprinkle cheese

Arrange toppings- sausage, ham, pepperoni, mushrooms (whatever toppings you like)

Add chopped peppers and onions as you desire

Bake for 5 minutes

It is ready! Pizza bread is ready when the cheese starts bubbling and looks melted. Do not overcook or the bread will become too crunchy.

Bread sliced
Buttered for extra flavoring and added moisture
Toppings on!
Baked!

Tips

Taste even better the following day. Place in a tightly sealed container when cool and refrigerate. Preheat when ready for consumption.

Served!

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Alban Estephane- Dennery’s Community Hero

Community Heroes

In recognition of the most impactful people in a community, I decided to start “Community Heroes.” I will depict the people who use self-sacrifice, kindness, courage and drive to give back to their community.

Community Heroes will showcase people who give more of themselves out of love and desire yet seek nothing in return. They gain satisfaction in the act that they do. These Community Heroes have a “community mindset” where the focus is on “we” and not on “me.” Community heroes ensure that the community is functioning well and seek to promote social change.

Community angels

There are many people who are making a big contribution in their communities.  They give their time, energy, resources and connections to increase community engagement, the quality of life of the community members and to bring joy to others. These people are famous in their community because of their philanthropic acts.

The efforts of these individuals typically go unrecorded, unrecognized and underappreciated because it is not done on a public but rather an individual and community level. Nevertheless, they make a significant difference in the lives of the individuals they help.

First recognition

Today I place emphasis on Alban Estephane as I highlight his positive actions and the way he has achieved the title- Community Hero. Alban uses his inner talents, kindness, passion and drive to ensure positive change for all and shows great leadership and influential skills.

Alban has done extraordinary work in his community as he uses himself to provide a service to the community to ensure the welfare of all. He mentors and guides children and promotes self-empowerment and self-confidence in youths and even adults. He lives for the greater good of his community. What a selfless act!

Alban Estephane

Alban was born in Dennery but was raised in both Dennery and Gros Islet. He is the third child in a family of two boys and five girls. Alban grew up in a single parent household so life was challenging. He sometimes had to sell his mother’s products before and after school to make ends meet.

Alban mentioned that the community was a friendly place to grow up because the community members looked after each other. It seemed like they lived in each other’s homes due to the close knit relationship. There, we see why Alban is who he is today.

Sports automatically took over Alban’s life at a tender age because Dennery is both a sporting and fishing village. Alban fell in love with basketball after watching the sport on television. He took on a challenge of bringing basketball to Dennery alongside some of his friends- Trini, Vidal and Charlie, just to name a few.

The group formed an executive and together they drove around seeking basketball hoops for their new initiative. After a few failed attempts, they were successful in receiving a basketball hoop from Marchand, Castries.

They then formed a basketball club called the Dennery Amateur Basketball Association (DABA). Years later, the basketball club is still in operation and it is commonly known as the Dennery Dolphins.  

Current holdings

Alban is a first aider and is certified in football that includes certification in coaching women, goal keeping, grass roots and D license. He is a certified fitness trainer with the Bodybuilding Federation.

Alban is also certified in the American Soca System and Saint Lucia Football Level 1. Likewise, he is certified in teaching people with disability in sports. He also carries a certificate in dealing with suicide prevention.

One more to go! Alban is certified with Panama Sports and Canada Coaching Association.

Alban is the Public Relations Officer (PRO) for the Dennery Disaster Committee and is also the PRO for the Dennery Stakeholders Committee.

Great coaching skills! Alban isa coach at Hill Top Ballers Sports Club and one of the coaches for the Dennery Female Football Team. Alban is responsible for the Dennery Saturday Basketball Program for the Ministry of Youth Development and Sports.

That too! Alban is still affiliated with the Dennery Dolphins Basketball Team and is a member of the National Volunteer Organization- Dennery Chapter.

Loved by the community

Alban is the owner and founder of Alie-D’s Fitness Center since 9th September, 2013. If you have been to Alie-D’s Fitness Center then you know how popular Alban is in the community.

Someone comes to check him ever so often and 99% of the passers-by MUST shout his name.

You will constantly hear someone ask for, “coach or Mr Alban.” Alban has constant intermissions from people coming to say hi, get advice or check on him.

For the love of community

Alban has naturally and easily devoted himself and time to the community. He sets an example on the importance of volunteering, giving more of yourself, teaching and helping others.

Alban spends time enriching his community members and gives assistance to whoever he can and however he can.

Why are you so involved in community service? Here is his response…

Sports is my life. I love to put a smile on a child’s face and that is the proudest moment for me as a coach. To see a child or person doubting themselves and at the end doing what they thought they could not- the exertion is golden.

I got my inspiration to help others from Miss Paul James- coordinator of the National Volunteer Program. She is like a mother to me, she pays a listening ear and has a solution to all problems. She is well calm, never raises her voice unless she has to and things like that run off on others especially me.

Alban today

Alban has displayed exemplary humanitarian efforts over the years. The things he does do not get public recognition but they are very impactful and touch the lives of all involved.

Alban’s work his changed many lives and he continues to be an inspiration to many. He gains satisfaction from helping others and he states that from the Christian teaching, the word of God says that it is better to give than to receive.  Definitely a community hero and team player!

Keep up the good work!

Alban continues to donate his time and talent towards doing good and in my eyes he has won The Humanitarian Award because of his countless selfless acts.

He continues to provide some of the greatest benefits to mankind- support, love, self-service, time and hope. He promotes self-discovery and encourages others to be more self-confident and have self-empowerment.

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The St. Lucia Shooting Association- two day target shooting tournament

The St. Lucia Shooting Association

The St. Lucia Shooting Association commenced in 1994 and has approximately 400 members to date. The St. Lucia Shooting Association is a club established for the promotion of safe firearm practices and handling.

The St. Lucia Shooting Association serves as an ideal shooting club to join to learn more about responsible and safe firearm use, shooting range safety and practices and for provisional training for firearm certification.

Licensed firearm holders or those licensed or authorized under a company’s licensed group can join the association to sharpen shooting skills, get more comfortable and confident with firearm use and gain more experience.

The St. Lucia Shooting Association is a registered member of the International Practical Shooting Confederation (IPSC) so takes part in the global shooting competition. The St. Lucia Shooting Association meets on a weekly basis to train for IPSC since IPSC tournaments are broadcast for global participation.

Say hi to Mr. Lennox Mondesir- president of The St. Lucia Shooting Association

Bordelais Shooting Range

The Bordelais Shooting Range located in Anse Canot, Dennery functions as a cold outdoor shooting range for firearm training. It is also a target shooting competition zone for The St. Lucia Shooting Association.

Big plus! Food and beverages are sold on the range and there is a washroom!

Stage is ready for the competitors!

Two day shooting tournament

The St. Lucia Shooting Association hosted a two day shooting tournament which was a competition to identity the top target shooter.

The first day of the tournament was Iron and Steel Targets and the second day was Paper Targets.

The competition entailed having one shooter per target where each shooter had to be on line to fire at their target at the target bay.

The tournament was well organized and all participants knew the rules and what was expected of them.

I had fun watching the participants display their shooting skills. I witnessed some anxious members with shaky hands whilst shooting. I marvelled as I saw the gun powder being dispersed in the air and the bullet shells hit the ground- things I have only seen in movies.

Some participants were intimidated by the experienced shooters and mentioned that “Blue- Al Lionel” might win again. The members mentioned that Blue was a good shooter and had won many tournaments.

Evidence of Blue’s target shooting skills!

Reems Sonson as Lara Croft

This was my first time visiting a shooting range and it was rather interesting and exciting. I was called Lara Croft because of my attire. I really felt like an actress in an action movie.

It was a sunny day so the weather was fitting for the event. Hold a cap, dress appropriately and comfortably, wear closed toe shoes and hold your sunscreen when visiting an outdoor shooting range.

My oh my! I was told that the place could be noisy but I did not expect it to be that loud. Walk with your shooting gloves and ear protection- ear plugs or ear muffs and eye protection- goggles or sunglasses and ensure that they fit properly.

Reems Sonson in action!

Basic range safety

Keep gun unloaded until you are at the fire line! Keep finger off trigger until you are ready to shoot. No discharging of firearm except at designated shooting areas and designated shooting targets. Shooters should shoot only from the firing line.

Keep gun on your person- do not keep gun unattended. Keep firearms pointed in a safe direction.

Wash hands and face after shooting to remove gun powder residue.

Drink non-alcoholic beverages before and whilst on the shooting range. Be responsible, vigilant and focused.

Have a fun time and speak with the Range Master if you have any questions.

Let the best target shooter win

The results are in!

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Top reasons women cheat

Have you ever cheated? Have you ever been cheated on?

The reasons women cheat are complex and vary from woman to woman. Cheating is unique to each relationship and depends on the relationship. Past experiences and trauma such as being raped or molested, upbringing, promiscuity, personality trait and mindset can all increase the chances of women cheating.

Deep desire to cheat

I have heard many people say that they do not know why someone cheated on them. Truth is, people do not decide to cheat overnight. It is a gradual process.  Sometimes people say, “it just happened!” Okay…so, how did it just happen? You had to be thinking about it at some point for it to have happened!?.

Having the desire to cheat might linger on one’s mind and might not dwindle until it actually happens. Just like someone does not wake up one day and decide to walk out on their family, it was a plan in the thought process.

Constantly having needs unmet or issues solved can be problematic over time and cause some questionable actions such as cheating but there were early warning signs that someone ignored.

Gains or no gains cheating

Unless it is for sex, lust, curiosity, bargain, weak moment, being drank or feeling hurt and confused, some women cheat with someone better and someone they can build a future with. Some women mentally leave their partner long before they actually cheat so they use sex to transition into another relationship.

Some women cheat because they want to and do not want any affiliation with the person after.

Women can cheat and not feel guilty, act like nothing happened and can become even more in love and act more lovey-dovey. Interestingly, women are good at hiding cheating and might never tell their partner.

Sometimes women cheat and have no intention of living their partner. They are just being thrill seekers at the time. Doing the same routine at work and home every day can get tedious. Sometimes women want the excitement of meeting someone else for a quickie and being worried that they might get caught.

It is a whole lot of sneaky business! The different emotions make them come alive, feel like a child and have them feeling excited.

Hostility

Sometimes there is a window where couples argue and do not speak to each other so women use it as an opportunity to cheat. During the vexation period, women feel better about cheating because they do not feel too guilty as it becomes easier for them to fulfil their sexual desire and infatuation.

Independent women

Women are now more empowered, educated and work to sustain themselves so may not compromise as much and decide to cheat. These women tend to leave relationships easily.

With many men after them, it is easy for them to leave A to be with B, C, D and even Z. It is a competitive market with many men to choose from, the catch is that most of these men are already in a committed relationship or married.

So why do women cheat?

Sexual variety, curiosity, experimentation

Sometimes women cheat for sexual variety, curiosity, experimentation, out of being drunk, not thinking clearly or because they are a “jamet or wah wat.”

Some women may cheat to get back at their partner, if they had the right opportunity and person or when they find someone who turns them on and gets them “wet and cum” just by seeing them.

Some women may wonder whether someone is good in bed or has a huge package. Some women might become inquisitive as to the shape and size of a man’s penis after watching his crotch. As a result, they might want to test the men’s penis.

Built in curiosity could lead to wild imaginations. There are different penis types, structure, size, colour, length and thickness. Some penises are straight, crooked, circumcised and uncircumcised. Plus some stay flaccid and others stay erect! The other thing is, no two people have the same penis. I can tell you because I am a Registered Nurse!

So, do not be quick to say your penis is the sweetest, biggest or longest! The women were just being polite and might have tricked you! Hehe!

Unhappiness and lack of romance

Sometimes women are unhappy in a relationship so cheat emotionally. Some might argue that happiness comes from within, but how can women be happy if they are constantly exposed to the contributor or source of their unhappiness. Sometimes picking up and walking away is not as easy as people make it seem. When a woman is emotionally invested in a relationship it can be challenging to move on. 

A relationship may lack romance so women might cheat for physical or intimate romance. Sometimes women want to be “loved up, squeezed up and touched up” in all the right places and in all the right ways.

Read for ways to re-ignite the flames of love

If a woman is emotionally wrecked and a prince charming comes along, sweeps her off her feet, so much that she falls, bruises her head and never gets back up, what do you think will happen? She will fall in love with him, cheat and forget about her partner.

She will quickly develop an emotional connection with him. A woman detaching from her relationship emotionally might be one of the worst things to happen because she will lose all interest in the relationship. Being emotionally disengaged can make her walk away quicker and without looking back or feel guilty.

Relationship dissatisfaction and high expectation

Some women cheat because of relationship dissatisfaction. They had hoped for certain outcomes and had certain expectations and requests that went unmet. These women may feel like their desires were not fulfilled because their partner did not deliver so seek fulfilment from someone else and begin to see their partner as a failure.

Sometimes women enter into a relationship with the ideation that their partner will act as they want. When the partner does not meet the expectations and does not deliver their every need and want, they feel like something is missing. This stirs problems, division, resentment and bitterness which can all cause these women to cheat as retaliation.

Distraction and spice

Sometimes women need a little distraction and cheating helps keep them entertained. Sometimes women grow out of love with their partner and find them to be boring especially if they have gotten laid-back and allowed themselves to go.

The relationship, the person, the sex and everything become familiar and predictable. Sometimes even trying something new is not a turn on because it is with the same person so it may seem as a routine and a chore.  

Sometimes the man does not want to please the woman sexually or has forgotten how to. It is always the same old boring sex. The woman in an effort to save the relationship might try to spice things up but overtime, she will get fed up, stop and then cheat if no effort is shown by her partner.

Unappreciation

Sometimes women do so much at home-cooking, cleaning, taking care of the family, working plus having to take care of themselves. Their hard work and efforts go unappreciated and unrecognized. These women hardly get any, “I appreciate you, thank you or I love you.”

Women may feel like maids, nannies and more of a worker than a partner. These women might cheat when someone else sees them for who they are and not the services they provide. They might also cheat to feel powerful because of their submissive or subordinate roles at home.

Different and unique feeling

That is when people say, “I have never felt this way before.” Sometimes someone might make a woman feel different, better, special and give them a feeling they never felt or knew existed. That attention might be hard to ignore and might need some exploring.

Basic things such as a man constantly complimenting a woman on her looks, outfit, perfume, make up and paying attention to her every detail could make her desire him especially if her partner stopped paying attention to her and complimenting her. Outside men sometimes pay more attention to women’s new outfit, hairdo and see everything they do differently. That can be a major turn on!

A void and the missing piece

Sometimes women may feel like something is missing. Women may voice their concerns to their partners and they do not listen or take hid. That can cause women to cheat as they seek someone they can talk to and someone who listens.  

A partner can give a woman everything she needs- from a new car, an expensive vacation, lots of money and stability and the woman can still feel trapped. If one need is not met and that woman has vulnerabilities such as low self-esteem and confidence and a great need for outside validation then she might be prone to cheating.

Ever heard the saying, “when women have men with money, they want time, when the men give them time, they want money.” Women need a balance!

Cheating is the final straw

Sometimes cheating seems like a wakeup call that there really is a problem in a relationship. Cheating can serve as a way to finalize or solidify the end of a relationship. It is almost as though the women cheat just so the men can leave.

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Shabin, colorism and light skin privilege

Shabin

In Saint Lucia, a shabin is the term used to describe a fair or light skin woman or man.

Colorism

According to Merriam-Webster (2021) colorism is prejudice or discrimination especially within a racial or ethnic group favoring people with lighter skin over those with darker skin.

Colorism can be interracial where a member of a racial group discriminates based on the skin color of a member belonging to a different racial group. Colorism can also be intraracial where a member of a racial group discriminates against the skin tone of another member of the same racial group.

White-ish misconception in the subconscious mind

I watched a lot of television as a child and I mostly saw people with a lighter complexion in shows, advertisements and movies. Most of the books I read and toys I played with were also that of white characters. I grew a strong liking for White people and light skin tones. It really was white supremacy being promoted and enforced. Constantly seeing people of a lighter skin tone made me love and accept them even more than I recognized.

At some point, I developed colorism towards my own kind and I wanted to marry a White man or a light skin guy with “nice hair” just so my children could look a certain way. I did not see how significant colorism was until I met my current partner who is dark skinned. After our complex discussions on race, skin tone, preference and relationships, I realize how badly I had been discriminating against my own race and the preference I developed as a result.

Growing up with a lighter skin tone

I can still hear people complimenting my mom on how pretty I looked as a child: smooth, clear, fair skin with no marks and thick, jet black hair. My mom took great pride in her children and did not want to see scars on our skin, not even from a bite from a mosquito or sand fly. My mom’s way of calling me pretty was always to shout, “ou blanche and ou led!” Some people would ask if I used stockings on my feet because of the clearness or if I bathed in milk.

Colorism in Saint Lucia

I have witnessed people laughing at others because of their darker complexion and even calling them ugly. In Saint Lucia, sometimes light skinned babies are called cute whilst dark skinned babies are told, “that nice color your parents have and that’s the color you see to take, why you have to be so black.”

We as a people are encouraging colorism by buying our children lighter skinned dolls with features far from what our children look like.

We have become a society that prefers whiteness or proximity to whiteness. Most of the local advertisements in Saint Lucia showcase people with “nice hair” or lighter skin tone.

Travel marketing agencies in Saint Lucia mostly show people with lighter skin tones site seeing, purchasing items and enjoying the country. Even the local vendors are people with a lighter skin tone. White supremacy is created in Saint Lucia because of the light skin tones portrayed in advertisements and even in the voice overs because they are that of a foreign accent with people “yanking.”  

Shabin in Saint Lucia

If you are a shabin, have a nice shape, an accent and farless for “nice hair” then life will be easy for you in Saint Lucia because shabins do get light skin privilege.

When you are a shabin with what is termed hard hair then you might encounter some difficulties. I have experienced someone from my past telling me that they preferred Indian girls but I was an exception. Was that a compliment or an insult?

I have also encountered difficulties when I had to work alongside Indians especially when the employer found out that they came from wealth. I became non-existent… Some people love color, hair and money.

Light skin, brown skin, dark skin

It is not just the color of your skin but it is also the shade! For some, the color of their skin determine how they are treated at home, work and even in public. Darker skin tones are often believed to be less desirable and appealing. Whereas, light skin people are seen as being attractive, successful, desirable, educated and well-off.

Break the cycle

Tell people you love to see them instead of, “you look nice for a Black girl or your hair really long for a Black person.” Develop a non-judgemental attitude and respect for skin tones, hair type and texture, body shape and other features that look different from yours.

Make it a habit to purchase toys, books and games with characters that are your children’s skin tones. Sometimes, colorism can start at home with the things you say and the programs you allow children to watch. Be mindful and vigilant!

Why are we though

Many people have gotten used to using skin toners, skin lighters, hair relaxers and hair extensions to look a certain way. We now hate our skin and hair and do whatever it takes to look lighter, different, accepted and in style.

Black people have a lot of self-hate, discriminate against themselves and their own race and have been socially conditioned to follow White people and the trends set by other races, desire to live like other races, and completely neglect their own norms, culture and traditions.

Let’s discuss, share your thoughts, leave a comment

I experience colorism on a daily basis and I think that it is inescapable because of the upbringings, unawareness and mindset of some people.

Is there a thing as light skin privilege? Do shabins get it easier? The saying in Saint Lucia is, “shabins like to horn, are high maintenance, have a lot of heat and have su-pap- is this all a part of colorism? How many people have felt that the color of their skin was an advantage or disadvantage? What are your thoughts and beliefs on colorism?

Question for Black men? Why do you prefer White women or light skinned women or women with long, straight or curly hair as oppose to women with darker skin tones? Answer if it applies to you…

Question for Black women? Why do you prefer to have children with White men or a man with “nice” hair? Answer if it applies to you…

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Similar read but on “nice hair”

Reference

Marriam-Webster. (2021). Colorism. Retrieved from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/colorism

Just believe

Self confidence

Having high self-confidence could help you make more positive decisions and take massive action . Self-confidence helps you believe in yourself and could inspire others.

You should believe in yourself – your abilities, your skills, your passions, your goals and your aspirations.  

Learn how to believe in yourself to have a better life and have endless possibilities no matter how difficult you may think it is to do.

Drowning yourself in doubt and fears can make you feel inadequate and darken your belief. However, when you believe in yourself, you feel like you are able to overcome anything and success is guaranteed.

In order for you to limit fear and self-doubt or even completely eradicate it, you must build your self-confidence and self-esteem.

Love yourself

Fall in love with yourself to believe in yourself, watch yourself in the mirror and tell yourself something positive and say you love yourself out loud.

Tell yourself that you are beautiful, you are the driver of your own success and believe it.

As you keep doing this daily, you realize that you really believe it and you begin to believe in yourself.

When challenges come, believe in yourself even more. Life is about ups and downs and highs and lows, things will not always be merry but you should find the merry out of all things.

You are able to overcome every challenge in your life if you believe. As you find the good in every situation, you believe in yourself and find your inner strength to overcome then you tend to embrace your journey more .

Leave your mistakes behind and move forward!

Ways to believe in yourself

Believing in yourself starts with believing in you

Believe that whatever you want is possible. Believe that you are capable of doing whatever you desire despite the odds. Examine your inner being and your limiting beliefs and empower yourself.

Ask yourself how can I believe in myself and have positive opinions about myself to reduce fear, anxiety and release negative emotions.

Positive affirmations

When you believe in yourself, you also respect yourself. Maintain positive thoughts about yourself and use positive words to overturn negative thoughts. Take care of yourself and constantly reassure yourself.

Sometimes you might feel a bit low on believing in yourself so you need to revisit why you need to believe in yourself. When you are feeling down and are doubting yourself listen to motivational videos to feel inspired.

Surround yourself with people who motivate you and those you could model to believe in yourself and gain success. Find ways to get inspired by ensuring that your environment is in line with what you believe.

It is okay for everyone to have individual beliefs but being around people who do not believe in your beliefs could jeopardize your beliefs.

Work on your strengths not your weaknesses

Focus on what you are good at, master it and be the best at it. Focus on the positive, your natural abilities and what you excel at and put effort into developing it.

You could focus on your weaknesses later or you could delegate your weaknesses to others instead of worrying about it. For example, you could be a great song writer but you are a terrible singer. You could hire someone to sing your songs, it is a win win!

As you shift your focus to developing your strengths and things you are already good at, you will feel more competent and confident and start to believe in yourself.  

Focus on you even when you fail over and over at something that seems challenging to you yet easy to others so that it may not limit your belief in yourself.

Sometimes we say “I am bad at this” because we struggle with our belief in ourselves and focus on things we cannot do. Build your confidence and instead say I have a challenge with doing this but I will try, I will learn until I become better at it.

If you are not an all-rounder it is okay! Knowing your strengths will allow you to put more of your effort into areas you are already talented in. Grow the ways you are naturally talented in.

Ask others about your strengths because that can help you highlight things about yourself that you did not know. That could serve as a refresher so you could identify hidden skills about yourself that you did not remember or pay attention to.

Remember everyone has weaknesses — and strengths. Discover what you are already good at and work at becoming great.

Remember past successes

Past successes could be useful to show you that you are an overcomer and that you are more than able to get things done. When you feel discouraged focus on the positive to change your mindset. Remember moments where you were successful in the past if you need some motivation.

You could seek motivation from yourself to believe in yourself. Yesterday you ate less calories or you exercised, that is a milestone to celebrate. You could use that today to remind yourself that you are able to make a change and believe that you are able to continue that change.

Face your fears

Do not let your fears hold you back because experiencing fear is a normal part of life. Do not let it consume you. Identify your fears and develop an action plan on how to overcome them. A plan to do something to believe in yourself such as speaking more positively about yourself could go a long way.

The goals could be small because it will help boost your belief in yourself and add to big results. Create goals to face your fears because as you set goals and work to achieve them you develop a sense of purpose and accomplishment.

Do not give up on you

When I was going to school and working full time I told myself every morning whenever I got off the bed, “I can and I will.” I constantly had to remind myself to not give up on myself because it was challenging to juggle school and work at the same time.

Even as my mom passed away, every day I tell myself “I can and I will” as I try to come to terms with her loss. At first I began asking myself, “why me, why is it that it was my mom to die?” As time went by, I have grown and I started asking myself, “why not me, why not my mom, what makes it so special for me to be exempted from feeling loss and like my world has ended?”

Sometimes we just feel like we cannot do something but as we practice believing in ourselves, we tend to not give up. We will experience challenges in life but how we react and respond make a big difference in the outcome. Train yourself to believe in you.

Stay focus

Dig deep, search within and realign your focus on what you really want in life. How could you believe in yourself?  Everything you want is within your reach, strengthen your belief in yourself and success is 100% possible for you.

Remember the level of success you see in your life is as a direct result of what you believe so believe in yourself. As you find ways to believe in yourself, things will become easier and your belief system in yourself will help you recognize all your success.

Where do you want to be in life? Are you living the life that you seek? Believe in you to set yourself free. Sometimes when I think about the life I want, I close my eyes and visualize it and it makes me smile. Most times I dream about it since I constantly visualize it throughout the day and it makes me feel happy because I know it is attainable.

Try my trick! Believe what you want is possible despite what others say and despite the odds. Visualize it by thinking about it, claiming it and even dreaming about it, act like you already have it and work on a plan to get it. Trust me, your belief will make the world open doors for you to achieve it.  

Also, keep a daily or weekly journal of the reasons you believe in yourself and on days you doubt yourself revisit your writings. This could help condition your brain to believe in you even more.

I believe in you and your ability to share my content!

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Tribute to our loss

Many of us have lost some of our close friends and family members. When death comes hitting on our door, it changes our outlook on life and sometimes makes us question why it happened to us. Death is inevitable and someday, it will hit your home if you have not experienced it. Death of a loved one is something you may expect and prepare for especially if your loved one is sick but it still hurts to say goodbye and let go.

Forever change

Life changes when you lose someone you love. You either become bitter, hate the world, be more appreciative or try to live life better. You go back to the past, wonder how you could have treated that person better and what you would do differently had they been here. As time goes by, the pain of the loss becomes less overwhelming and you learn to cope with the person’s absence.

There is no set time to overcome the emotions you have when you lose someone close to you. It may take days, months, years or never for someone to fully recover from a loss. Some people suppress their emotions, some try to forget, some act like the loss loved one is still there and others carry the burden every day.

Soon it will be two years since I lost my mom and I still feel scarred. I feel an emptiness deep within me and I go from happy to sad quickly. Some days I feel like there is a dark cloud over me because I miss my mom so much. Most days I cannot believe that she died so quickly but I have accepted that she is no longer with me physically. Having fond memories, watching her pictures and hearing stories about her keep me going. It is true that good people die first.

It is okay

It is okay to take as much time as you need to deal with a loss. It is okay to cry and remember the person. It is okay to do whatever you feel is best to get you back to a healthy state of mind. Ensure that you are not hurting yourself or anyone in the process as you try to rediscover life without your loved one.

2020-2021

Last year into this year have been terrible for many families. The Grim Reaper seems to be visiting more families than usual and taking mostly the young and good people. Now it is the norm to see “SIP, RIP or gone too soon” circulating on social media. It is more a matter of who is next than how comes.

Tribute  

A special tribute to everyone who have passed away. To all the relatives who are still uncertain about whether a loved one did die and have been unable to do a proper burial, I sympathize with you.

To our deceased loved ones, you are gone but your spirit lives on. You are not forgotten and we would do anything we could to keep you here with us. We love you and we are grateful to have known you and spend time with you. Continue to rest well.

Celebrate us now and share our photos now and not when we are dead. Let us break tradition! Stop sharing photos of people who had horrific deaths. Empathize with the family. Stop sharing photos of people when they die especially if you did not know them, had no relation with them, were not speaking to them and disliked them. Be considerate.

Have you lost a loved one? What do you want to say to them?

Send this blog post to someone who is grieving and type SIP in the comments section.

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Living in Saint Lucia- the struggles

Surprisingly, when I was a teenager I desperately wanted to move to the United States to have better quality of life, enhanced opportunities and do the many things I am passionate about.

Now that I am more than able to move and have many opportunities, I have so many doubts and question why I really want to move and whether I should actually move.

Perhaps I have not discovered the why. But, minus the nice weather, family and beautiful scenery, what is good about living in Saint Lucia? Living in Saint Lucia is very challenging, limiting and sometimes financially draining.

Reasons it sucks to live in Saint Lucia

High cost of living- groceries are expensive

Groceries are expensive in most countries but let us face it! The prices of groceries in Saint Lucia are ridiculously high given one’s basic salary. It seems like there is no price control and that businesses are exploiting consumers just to make an even greater profit. Some companies have monopoly so capitalize on that, only to overcharge for the products and services provided.

Stuck in one position

The culture in Saint Lucia is to move up the ladder based on “who knows you, who you throw beneath the bus, stepping on one’s toes, kissing butts and who puts in a good word for you.” Forget your years in service, experience and qualifications because these will barely secure you the job advertised or land you a promotion. You also remain in the same grade for decades before getting promoted.

Experience, years of service and qualifications are hardly recognized in Saint Lucia. Some work places prefer to rehire their retired staff or pay people from overseas much more money to do the job that you are experienced in, have been doing and can be trained further to become an expert.

The retired staff gets two salaries and the outsiders get perks yet sends their monies back to their country. Shocking! The long standing staff must accept the decision and still be motivated to work despite the unfairness in the workplace. Some employers have developed that, “take it or leave it” mindset because they forget that they too were once in their staff’s shoes. It is also more costly to hire and train new staff that may soon leave than keep the old but loyal ones.

Pay attention. Even when a position is advertised, it is already promised to someone that is not you. You apply, happily show off yourself, qualifications and think you are a great fit for the job but do not get it. Most times, the job opening is only advertised so management can say that it was advertised.  

Recognition of degrees and certificates

Some companies recognize degrees and certificates and even pay for staff to further their education but others do not. It is almost like going to school to get a degree or certificate to be in debt especially if you covered the cost. Sometimes you remain overqualified yet underpaid for the job that you do and do not get to use your degree or certificate.

Land and house

Owing land and house is extremely difficult in Saint Lucia especially if you have a family and have great responsibilities. Land and housing are very expensive. When you qualify for land and house loan, you may spend your retirement paying it off depending on your salary and that of your partner, if you lose your job or when life throws additional and unforeseen responsibilities your way.

High cost of healthcare

Health care is expensive in Saint Lucia and you may have to travel to seek further medical attention depending on your medical condition. Having health insurance helps reduce the burden but that too can be expensive if you cannot afford.

Sadly

Living in Saint Lucia means struggling till you die, breaking your back, living pay cheque to pay cheque, making ends meet and most times settling for less. It is a great opportunity cost where you have to weigh your options and you cannot do extra because you daily have to do cost-benefit analysis.

If you do not have a well-off family, marry into wealth, get a good inheritance, make big sacrifices, use your talents to self-sustain or have big connections then life in Saint Lucia will be a great test. The system is corrupt and makes it easy for most of us to fail.

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Valentine’s Day and showing love all year round

I have seen couples pamper each other and go all out for Valentine’s Day and on special occasions. I am talking strawberries and whip cream, melted chocolate, flavored edible underwear, candlelight dinner, rose petals on the floor and bed, balloon decorations, champagne on ice and even meals in bed.  But what happens after Valentine’s Day and all the special occasions. 

Remember that your love life is yours, you are in control of it and you are the dictator so let it be your love story, your movie, your music video and your romantic book.

Inexpensive ways to show love throughout the year

Stay in love throughout the year no matter what trials you may face. Remember why you fell in love in the first place and the connection that brought you two together.


Write a note of appreciation and love on paper and leave it in your partner’s lunch bag, their pocket, the car seat, on the mirror or fridge, in the washroom, in their shoe or anywhere they most likely will see it.


Send your partner a sexy voice note, sexy picture, a video of you twerking or a sexy strip tease. Use your imagination, be creative and make it fun. Ensure that your face is not in any indecent picture or video before it reaches the wrong hand and become viral on social media!

Send flowers, lunch or a greeting card at work with a note saying “just because it’s Monday” or “just because I love you and I am thinking about you.” Pay your partner a surprise visit at work or take them out to lunch. Celebrate them whilst they are alive, show them off and appreciate them and your relationship. Better yet find them on their lunch hour and do a quickie!

Dine out ever so often, go to the movies, have a picnic on the beach, go on a fun adventure or a hike together and create fun memories together.

Normalize kisses, hugs and touches, winks throughout the day and light taps on each other’s behind as you pass each other. Wear sexy lingerie or undergarments when at home to spice things up. Tease each other and be flirtatious with each other.

When at home, put the phones away, limit distractions and cook, clean, lay on the bed or couch with each other, talk, hang out, play games and reconnect. Look at old pictures with each other to relive the fun moments. Although you may have little time or money, plan things you wish to accomplish together like taking a trip to another country.

Take a date night indoors, cook together, set up a romantic dinner area, dress up and pretend like you are in a restaurant!

Take turns to plan dates so one person will not feel like they are putting in all the effort. Have TEAM work and not TIM work. Try things that your partner loves to do even if you dislike it. The relationship is between two people and not only you so consider the needs of each other all the time.

The human in us

It is easy to get caught up with life’s daily hassles but always make time for each other. Treat the relationship like it is fresh and exciting and be eager to see each other. Break the routine ever so often, be spontaneous and try something new. Your relationship is not a chore.

Keep the romance and care for your relationship so that it will not die. Make each other top priority and put each other first. 

Maintain good communication, have a discussion, settle an argument, apologize, be honest about how you feel and continuously try to work on your relationship.  

Regrets?!


Some day you will die and so will your partner. When you are on your dying bed, what will you regret not doing or would have loved to do with your partner if you were given more time on earth?

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Dead bedroom, no sex

Lust

Sometimes at the beginning of a relationship sex is hot and steamy. Partners cannot wait to see each other because they have great anticipation of what is to come. They fantasize about each other, plan what they will do to each other, how they will make each other feel and how connected they will be as they become one. The sex then is effortless and done multiple times within a short space of time.

Time

Overtime, as the relationship grows, couples become more comfortable with each other. They begin to display all their bad habits and see the different sides of each other. Added responsibility occurs as couples move in together, get married, have kids, have stressful jobs, go through family drama, develop illnesses and experience life changing events.

These circumstances change the dynamics of the relationship and affect how couples cope and react to each other. Sometimes couples disagree, go through periods where they are less in love, emotionally disconnected and become disinterested in each other. The relationship can experience dead bedroom where sex is not done at all, done infrequently or done but leaves one or both partners unsatisfied.

Sex problems

Initiating sex

Sometimes one partner waits for the other to initiate sex and becomes displeased when it is not. SO, sex is withheld until the partner initiates it! If you want it, just take it! Why be shy or “play a role” like you have not had sex with your partner?

 Some of my male friends explained that when their partners do not initiate sex, it makes them feel unwanted. They want their partner to show interest in them too and want to feel like they are desired instead of having to show interest most times, having to start the process and get their women in the mood. Understandable!

Treating sex like a chore

Correct me if I am wrong but from most of the conversations I have had, this one mostly applies to women!

Sometimes women do not want to have sex but say yes just to cross it off from the “to do list” because they know sex is important to the relationship. Women sometimes have sex because they know the man wants it and because they do not want the man to go elsewhere nor complain and resent them.

When women decide to have sex because they know they have too then they are not fully into the sex but they do it anyways. At some point they may become interested in the sex during the process or may or may not find satisfaction. They sometimes just want the man to “cum” and be done with it and them so they can continue the “to do list.”

Putting sex last and not making it be a priority

Sometimes being intimate is the last thing on one’s mind so is pushed aside. Doing other things then settling for sex at nights sometimes mean that sex has to be rushed so might leave one feeling unfulfilled and unsatisfied. One would rather do other things than have sex because it will get them too tired and take up time.

Too tired for sex

I know people who refuse to have sex and spend quality time with their partner but rather watch television, catch up on a series or movie, spend time on social media, gossip with friends and engage in other distractions. They argue that they are too tired to have sex but not too tired to do other things because they take less energy.

Letting yourself go

Spouses need to remain attractive to each other. Okay, so you have gained weight but do you need to wear a “holey” boxer or a parachute- “big or granny panty” all the time? Sometimes partners withhold sex because they no longer feel like they are attractive, have low self- esteem and confidence and body image deficit.

The fact is you both will age and your body will change but you can make yourself look presentable, sexy and attractive. Put in the same effort you did to look good when you just started dating. It still matters!

It is no joke that life is busy and people get tired from work, school, taking care of themselves, the kids and household and far less having to have sex too.

Sex fixer upper!

I am no sexpert but here are a few ways to improve your sex life when you have been with someone for eons, feel emotionally disconnected and disinterested or have low libido.

Read romance novels to feel like the sexual act is being done to you, so you could fantasize and to get you in the mood. Watch adult pornography solo or with your partner. Touch yourself, see what areas you feel most and tell your partner! Foreplay with yourself and your partner before intercourse. Make penetration be the final step before climax.

Engage in dirty talk, soft kisses and touches throughout the day when you are together. Surprise each other with a picture or video of your private parts and with you stroking it too. Try new sex positions and have sex in new places.

Experiencing droughts down there? Use lubricants, sex toys and role play. Make time for each other and spend more time with each other, discuss your sexual fantasies and desires, what turns you on and off and be honest with how your partner could make you climax quicker.

Exercise, eat a balanced meal, drink plenty water if not contraindicated, rest and take care of you to feel energized enough for sex. Make sex be a priority!

Sex is supposed to be fun, intimate and pleasurable! Your sex life is not lost, there is still time and you can stick to your partner and have sex with only one partner and still have fun. Change your mindset and keep a positive attitude. Hang in there!

It is okay to be in a sexless relationship if that is what you both want! Do what works best for your relationship! Do not force sex on each other, sometimes taking time away from sex could just be what you both need!

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Dangers of dating a Lucian woman

Lucian women are well known for their round behinds, sexy curves, ability to give a good “whine” on the dancefloor, beautiful skin, sweet personality, thrill and love for parties and adventure. Some Lucian women are highly educated, exceptional cooks and brilliant in bed. Read more https://ourtropicalliving.com/top-reasons-to-date-a-lucian-woman/

But, Lucian women can be very toxic and some do not appreciate good men and do not know how to treat men right.

Disadvantages of dating a Lucian woman

Some Lucian women are very promiscuous, flirtatious and have wondering eyes.

Some Lucian women love money, are very materialistic and want a man who can afford and take care of their every need. Some of these women will use you by whatever means necessary and do whatever it takes to get money from you. It can be to “make bucket” for chicken barks, for one Piton, to sponsor an event or for one outfit as my mom would say.  

Ah the biggest one! Some Lucian women will cheat on you and you will never ever ever know. They will not tell a soul about that unfaithful time! The women can be as sly as a fox so the possibility of getting a gros pwel is much higher when dating a Lucian woman. How many gros pwel have you had?

As you know, some Lucian women will give you boutins and never tell you plus you might never know that the child is not yours until a DNA test is done.

Some Lucian women love to be the jabal and do not want a man of their own. They love to share and do not want the full responsibility of having a man.

Some Lucian women have many “male friends!” Some of the male friends are on standby to call after you slip up or the relationship is over. It is almost as if the male friends are on a line to be with them although they say they are just friends.

Other women will be friends with a man, have sex with them, bring them to your home and you will never know. Surprisingly, sometimes the person they sleep with might be the person coming to your home the most, your friend, acquaintance, best friend and even family member. These women will deny the cheating until you have proof.

Women a part from sex, what do you bring to the table?

Some Lucian women are always too tired to have sex but are not too tired to do “daggering” with other men. These women are of course never too tired to clean, watch television or do something more meaningful to them at the time. Yup, some Lucian women fake orgasms and bad talk the size of your penis with their friends.

Some Lucian women want a new outfit, shoes, bag, hair and nails for each occasion that they most times want a man to sponsor. The latest thing is spending money on markup, photoshoots, renting a place for an event and customized t-shirts for every celebration.

Some Lucian women are liars and play the victim game. They make everything be about them, act like the world revolves around them, blame men for everything and even their wrong doings and bad behavior.

Some Lucian women like roro, do not want peace in the relationship but drama always. They cannot see things be nice and dandy.  

Some Lucian women call men soft when they are emotional and a detective when they are concerned. Mind you, the men are only a detective when the women have something to hide and are up to no good.

Some Lucian women deliberately have disagreements with men just to start a roro to do something they would not be able to do had they been on good terms with their partner. Just to say, “we were not talking.” Other women may look for trouble to spice up the relationship and bedroom because they are in need of some good sex and “freaky make up sex.”

My my, some Lucian women always try to get their way out of trouble so you will not argue with them especially if it is one they caused and it got too hot for them to handle.

Dem say man a wicked but woman a…

Some Lucian women will date you, know you have your family and expect you to divorce your wife and break up your family just to be with them. Some of these women will intentionally and maliciously get pregnant and trick you into believing that they are on contraceptives especially if you have plenty material things to offer.

Imagine that some of the Lucian women think all your female friends want you. They are even suspicious of your own family and others are secretly eyeing other women because they feel like they have competition.

Some Lucian women are not supportive. They know their men are ambitious, think ahead, struggle and work hard tirelessly just to provide for the family yet they complain. They say they feel neglected and like the man loves money more than the family.

These women might cheat and leave instead of seeing the bigger picture. The man’s hard work is just for a while, it will pay off, success will come and the man will be able to feed the family for generations.

Most times the men are working that hard just to maintain the family oui and would not have to work so hard if they did not have them in the first place. Women bear patience and be thankful for your hardworking man. Help him with the hard work too!

Finally!

Some Lucian women love to give silent treatment and hold grudges for things the other partner is not even aware of. A classic one is to say nothing is wrong and nothing at all when everything is wrong. Some of these women can spend months in the house and not speak to you.

Whilst it is true that some Lucian women are indiscreet, spoilt, jealous, love attention, want all your time, feel entitled and feel neglected quickly others are not.

Most commonly, some Lucian women love to party. Most of their free time is spent at a bar, places with music and food, on a boat ride or festive events.

The reality is dating and relationships are a gamble. Remember that the outcome of a relationship is unpredictable despite your purest intentions and that both men and women can be toxic!

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Top reasons to date a Lucian woman

Lucian women can be the sweetest people you ever come across. They can be caring, loving, supportive and give a helping hand whenever necessary. Finding the right woman can be challenging but here are some of the basic qualities in a Lucian woman.

Dating a Lucian woman depends on what type of relationship you want. Please! When you are interested and start talking to a Lucian woman, make your intentions clear and be known and say exactly what you expect from the woman.

Women cannot read your mind so do not be childish, play them or make them believe that they are in a relationship with you and that is far from what is and what you want.

Men-if you want a fling, someone to hang out with, have causal sex with no strings attached, want a committed relationship or a friendship or want to settle down, have children and get married then LET LUCIAN WOMEN KNOW.

Top reasons dating a Lucian woman might benefit you

1-Some Lucian women are driven, go-getters, goal diggers, well educated, confident, independent, have a good job and have good finances. Some of these women come well equipped- have their own home, vehicle and are basically “move in ready” for men. Other Lucian women are self-reliant, industrious and love to work for their own money but do not mind getting some money from you as well but will not make it mandatory.

2- Some Lucian women are good in bed, will give you a good “grind” and meet all your sexual desires. If you are helpful and beneficial to these women, pay attention to them and they connect with you on a deep emotional level, oh my! The sex will make your digits curl, your body get hot yet shivery and have you feeling like you are in “heaven.” It will have you going back for more.

3-Some Lucian women want time, attention, loyalty and someone who is caring and there for them. With these women, it is not about “the Benjamins.” It is just you and them against the world. Some of these women can be sensitive so spend as much time as you can with them because they are really good women.

4-The probability of getting cheated on or dumped is very high when dating a Lucian woman. Some Lucian women do not tolerate nonsense and if they do, then they are just playing along. This is beneficial to you because it will ensure that you take her serious and “behave yourself.”

5-Some Lucian women want stability, a good quality life, settle down and want to see your effort. These women make good wives and mothers. Some of these women are very compassionate and forgiving. Even when they get hurt, they will forgive quickly and move on after amends.

6-Some Lucian women love to clean, cook and make the house and family look presentable. Some of these women are easy to get along with plus you will get a hot, home cooked meal and clean house.

7-Some Lucian women love tough men and tough love. They want someone who could challenge them, put them straight, tell them how it is, be rough with them sometimes and “deal with them accordingly.” Sometimes you have to show these women your ghetto side.

8-Some Lucian women are classy, good looking, well-dressed and always want to look “sexy.” Some of these women are always flashy and in style, wear matching outfits and look like they were meant to be in a catalogue.

9- Some Lucian women are fun, adventurous, love to have a good time and love to show a good time.  Some of these women if not most, love family time, get togethers and being around loved ones.

There you go! Some Lucian women can be the best match so know how to treat these Lucian women right. Know the woman’s intention before you begin a relationship and how she plans to use you or incorporate you into her life before you get hurt and categorize women as all the same.

Question? What qualities are you looking for in an ideal Lucian woman? Which qualities do you want that are hardest to find in a Lucian woman?

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Dangers of dating a Lucian man

A Lucian man

Lucian men can be loving, caring, supportive, non-judgemental and good in bed but there are also drawbacks of dating a Lucian man. https://ourtropicalliving.com/top-reasons-to-date-a-lucian-man/

Some Lucian men invest a lot in women especially their money, time and resources. These women sometimes leave to be with another man or because they have already met their objectives. This scars men, make them label women and develop trust issues that they then carry into other relationships.  

However, most Lucian men usually see the early warning signs and red flags when they start dating a woman but believe that they will make her change. Lucian men need to own up to their decisions with the selection process they make when they choose to date a woman.

Special note: good looking women are more maintenance so choose your partner wisely!

Disadvantages of dating Lucian men

Some Lucian men have poor finances, are petty, laid back and have no ambition. These men are comfortable with their present situation and do not want to improve or make any adjustments for further success. They want to stay stagnant!

Lucian men can be very horny. In these men’s eyes women serve as bunnies. Some Lucian men do not perform house chores, give no help around the house and expect the woman to take charge of the household. House work can be tedious and tiring. When women live with these horny Lucian men they are expected to serve as a house maid and sex slave. What a combination! Moreover, these men always expect a hot home cooked meal.

Some Lucian men are unromantic, bad in bed, do not know how to make love nor use their tool. Yet these men expect women to “cum” quickly and be “wet” as soon as a sexual encounter commences.

The harsh reality is that many Lucian men do not want to get married nor settle down. These men will date a woman for many years and not marry her but marries the next woman that comes along. Some men might just get married after illness or in their old age.

Some Lucian men are not ready yet and are caught up with being a “momma’s boy.” These men live with their mom and want a woman to come over to have a good time and some might even ask the woman to move in too.

Some Lucian men love to drink alcohol, get drank and become physically abusive, stay at the bar with friends and love to sponsor drinks but hardly have money to take care of their family. These men prefer to hang out with their friends than spend time with their families. The bar, their friends and rum are their women.

Are we done yet?

No because some Lucian men are players, have multiple relationships and expect  women to accept it and be okay with their unfaithful and cheating ways. Plus some Lucian men are very flirtatious, have wondering eyes and love to stare at women’s behinds. These men although in a relationship love to send chats to women, make advances and “psst” women when they are passing.

Some Lucian men have outside children that they want women to accept as their own and even want women to coparent that other child.

Oh my, many Lucian men carry lots of baggage that women have to unload. Do not forget the baby momma drama and having to deal with all the exes.

Some Lucian men are liars and are emotionally unavailable so it is difficult to get through to them and connect emotionally. These men will lie to women even if there is proof and the woman saw with her own naked eyes.

Some Lucian men are lazy, want to eat women’s money, be dependent and are looking out for a “sugar momma.” These men want a woman to spoil them rotten and do not want to give the woman anything in return. Except sex of course.

Some Lucian men rather feed another woman’s child instead of their own child and rather pay child support instead of taking care of their child’s direct needs.

Some Lucian men are likely to get tired of their main woman and leave for another woman.

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Also read “Top reasons to date a Lucian man.” Look out for Part 2 because some people said I did not give adequate reasons and they want more because it was a “hot read.”

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Top reasons to date a Lucian man

Today I am shredding some positive light on our fine Black men.

Limited “useful” men

Finding a decent man to start a family with, build a future with and invest your all in has been within its challenges. Now more than ever it seems difficult to find a good Black man. It is even more difficult to want to continue dating Black men after being hurt many times.

There are many men who have died, are incarcerated, are gay, migrated, already in a committed relationship, joined the army and the balance are players and not interested in a serious relationship.

Who are straight women going to date?

Support our Black men

Some media outlets have portrayed Black men as being angry, sex offenders, murderers, thieves, abusers, drug addicts, promiscuous, in extreme poverty, socioeconomically deprived and prone to poor mental health and with a blurred future. This paints a negative image of our Black men and sometimes subconsciously affect how we feel about them.

Black people we need to support each other instead of fighting our own race. We need to stop the racism towards each other but rather love each other.

Top reasons dating a Lucian man is beneficial

1-This reason tops it for me so no need for an explanation. Lucian men are good in bed and well endowed. When you develop an emotional connection and deep attraction with a Lucian man, your every body part tingles when you see them.

2-Lucian men may have fears and insecurities and guard their emotions due to past trauma and bad relationships but as they gain your trust then they become devoted. They continuously work to ensure a successful relationship.

3-Some Lucian men may not be the wealthiest but they try to keep the romance, give you their time and keep a healthy relationship as best they can. A trying Black man is an ideal man.

4-Lucian men are loving, understanding, easy-going, supportive, pay attention to you and can make you their secret obsession. Lucian men can touch your soul and make your heart smile.

5-Lucian men are non-judgemental, can make you feel safe and you can be yourself around them and display all your bad habits because they accept you for who you are.

Women and false ideation

It is not a man’s job to make you happy. Women you are responsible for your own happiness and a man should be a contributor to your happiness. Women stop having a movie-like, fake or social media ideology of what your relationship should look and be like.

What you see out there is most times unreal and painted to fool you and change your mindset. Envy your relationship, work to improve it daily and not that of others. Do what works for you so you can be happiest.

Special note: the top reasons to date a Lucian man may or may not apply to all men.

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The ugly truth of nurses trying to cope with covid-19 and covid-19 deaths

Every day is another day on the battlefield at the Respiratory Hospital. Many transfers in and out of the wards as staff try to coordinate bed space to save patients who are one time okay and that same time not. Most patients go from okay to critical really quick as their bodies fight for oxygen. This is the harsh reality of Covid-19. We never know the outcome of a patient’s condition.

We try to be okay but no matter what, we do not get used to patient’s dying. Sometimes deep down we expect the death but it hits us like a surprise when it happens. I felt a dark cloud over me when my mom passed away last year because I thought, “she’s my mom, I’m a nurse, I know many doctors so why would she die” but a small piece of me knew yet I remained in denial. I have gotten used to my mom’s physical absence because I feel her spirit and presence with me every time. I started feeling a bit better but with all what’s going on at work it is hard not to feel the same way again.

We are all emotional and feel like we are having a bad day when a patients condition deteriorates. Nurses cry when patients die especially if they had just left the room to return only to find the lifeless body. Just there, unresponsive to external stimuli, peaceful and in a deep sleep. That is tough.

We cannot ponder on the patient’s death because there are other patients who need our help and are dying too but we suffer inside. Sometimes we build such a deep bond with the patient that we feel sad for weeks after their passing. Guess what, we are humans too and we have feelings too.

Constantly being exposed to dead and dying patients can cause us to either become numb, more thankful and appreciative of life and those around us or forever traumatized. Nurses go through so much that the hardship at work causes insomnia, nightmares, bitterness, soreness and depression. Sometimes we just need a break from the job because no matter how much debriefing we do as we vent to friends and family, the scar and trauma remain.

Most days nurses feel helpless on the job because the most we can do is hold a patient’s hand and give some words of encouragement. The patients become our family for the shift as we try to nurture them back to good health and we become their relatives as well. Their confidant, help, listener, motivational speaker and prayer warrior.

I have personally gotten to a really dark place because it is heartbreaking the things I face at work. Who cares? Who has our backs? Who is the shoulder to lean on as we all try to get up?

My eyes were filled with tears and my heart felt warm and smiled as my patient held my hand as we were transferring her to the Intensive Care Unit. I know that she needed the support and I was the only one available to give it to her at the time. That was a special bond and I live for these selfless moments.

Of course seeing six lifeless bodies two days in a row will affect us mentally. I find myself being so sad these days, alone even when I am in a room filled with people and no matter how I try to change my mindset, I feel stuck on how “suckish” work is. I just want to run away. So many obstacles and hurdles, it would make you question everything too. What would the world be like without nurses? Is this chosen career really worth it? Sigh 😓 what am I going to do?

Public announcement: exercise, practice good hygiene and self-care, proper hydration and ventilation and stay indoors as much as you can. Stay safe and follow the stipulated protocols.

Signed: Nurse Fontenelle MPH, BPH, RN

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What is mental health?

The World Health Organization (WHO) (2019) defines mental health as “a state of wellbeing in which every individual realizes his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community.”

Mental health includes our social, psychological and emotional wellbeing. Mental health affects how we think, feel and act and helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others and make choices.

Impaired mental health affects our ability to function as effective members of society and affects our ability to cope with the daily stressors of life.

Of course we need effective coping skills if we are stuck in traffic for hours and about to miss an important appointment! What about being able to deal with a disagreement with someone and sudden death of a loved one.

Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood. Our psychological, personality and biological factors could contribute to mental health problems. When we experience mental health problems it affect our thought process, mood and behavior.

It is important to note that mental health is different from mental illness.

What is mental illness?

Mental illnesses are conditions that affect how we think, feel and even our mood and behavior such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder or schizophrenia.

Mental illness could occur occasionally or can be long-lasting (chronic) and can affect our ability to relate to others and function each day.

Although the terms are often used interchangeably, mental health and mental illness are not the same. A person can experience poor mental health and not be diagnosed with a mental illness. Likewise, a person diagnosed with a mental illness can experience periods of wellbeing which could be physical, social and mental.

Ourmental and physical health are equally important components of overall health. 

Mental illness, especially with depression can increase the risk of developing stress, self-harm, stroke, diabetes, high blood pressure and heart disease.

Individuals suffering with chronic conditions are at an increased risk of developing mental illness. Chronic conditions could affect daily living and quality of life thus raising one’s stress levels and ability to cope with their circumstance.

Can our mental health change over time?

The answer is yes! Many factors could affect our mental health over time.

Sometimes we go through so much and have so much doing that the demands placed on our body exceed our coping abilities and that could negatively impact our mental health.

Imagine having to work a 12 hour shift then go home to take care of your sick relative, care after your newborn yet complete assignments and chores. This could send anyone into depression overtime and cause poor mental health.

Have you ever been depressed?

Going to school full time and working full time was a challenging experience for me. Thank God for my mom who took care of the house, did the chores, did my laundry and ensured that I had food to eat because having to do school work immediately after coming from work was very overwhelming. Continue resting in peace mommy!

Determinants of mental health

Social factors are the conditions in which we are born, live, grow, work and age. It is basically where we live, work and play as it relates to our socioeconomic status, physical environment and employment opportunities. Having poor education and poor socioeconomic status could cause poor mental health as we try to cope with having low incomes and sustaining ourselves and family.

Imagine you in this scenario, you have no educational background, you do not have a decent paying job and you work in a risky and poor environment. You have bills to pay, food to buy, take care of yourself and imagine having children that you also have to take care of. What do you think will happen to your mental health?

Psychological factors include our beliefs, motivation and individual characteristics. Certain personality traits could predispose us to poor mental health. Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) can predispose us to poor mental health as we try to get things done perfectly, have repeated unwanted thoughts and do repeated actions.

Biological factors can affect mental health because of abnormal functioning of nerve cell circuits that connect to certain regions of the brain. Any defect or injury to these circuits can affect mental health. Individuals with family members with mental illness are more prone to developing mental illness. Remember, we may be susceptible to developing a mental illness but that does not mean that we will develop a mental illness.

Our environment

Stressful work environment, unhealthy lifestyle, sexual violence, socioeconomic pressures, violence, gender discrimination and rapid social change could all affect our mental health.

Do you work in a stressful environment? Do you deal with stressful co-workers on a daily basis? Do you have a stressful partner or family member? These could all contribute to impaired mental health if the answers are yes.

There is no single cause for mental illness but a number of factors can contribute to the risk of developing mental illness.

Our life experiences could cause mental illness such as trauma or a history of abuse such as sexual assault, child abuse, physical assault or witnessing violence.

Chronic illnesses such as cancer could also be a contributing factor. Drug use, alcohol, having few friends, and drug use, not socializing, having feelings of loneliness and isolation could also be contributing factors.

Stigma attached to mental health

People with mental health conditions often experience severe human rights violations, discrimination and stigma.

I am guilty of such because before I started working in the health care field I was afraid of individuals with mental illness. I felt like they would attack me anytime or would snap and change personalities. Overtime as I began working with individuals with mental health conditions I better understood how to react and respond to them.

Stigma causes prejudice, discrimination and ignorance. Stigma attached to mental illness causes individuals suffering with mental disorders to feel shame, have low self-esteem and develop negative beliefs. As a result, this causes individuals with mental disorders to withdraw from social interactions.

Stigma to mental disorders is a barrier to the provision of care for people with mental disorders. Individuals with mental disorders are ostracized by society so may not receive basic care. Some communities banish individuals with mental disorders whilst others get beaten, neglected and deprived of basic human needs (WHO, 2019).

Individuals suffering from mental illness may believe that health care professionals have stigma attitudes toward them so may not seek care. This could lead to poor health overtime if left untreated as persons get depressed further and inflict harm on themselves and others.

Stop

How do you feel about someone with poor mental health and someone with a mental illness? Do you avoid them? Do you label them or do you define them as their mental illness and not for who they are?

Together let us stop the stigma attached to poor mental health and mental illness. Anyone of us could suffer from poor mental health or develop a mental illness at any point in our lives. Sometimes situations happen and they are unforeseen and change the course of our lives. If we do not have proper coping skills and the personality attached to coping well with unanticipated and life changing events then we could develop poor mental health.

Early warning signs of poor mental health

Although poor mental health could be mistaken for other illnesses there are common signs and symptoms. Remember that poor mental health could cause varying signs and symptoms which all vary from person to person.

Inability to perform daily tasks like taking care of our kids or getting to work or school, constant aches and pains of unknown origin and constantly feeling sleepy and tired are early warning signs.

We need to monitor ourselves if we constantly pull away from people and usual activities, have low or no energy, feel numb to everything or feel like nothing matters.

Constant changes in mood such as feeling helpless, hopeless or feeling upset are also common.

Improving our mental health

Improving mental health involves activities that can improve psychological wellbeing. Counseling could be an effective way to let out our feelings as we seek professional help.

We could engage inbackyard gardening and sports to serve as stress reduction activities. I have found that journaling helps reduce anxiety as I write my feelings and all the conversations I have with myself in my head.

When we go out with family and friends we connect with others, share our experiences and listen to others as they tell us about their lives. This provides a sense of belonging and like we have persons to speak to.

We could partake in mental health programs, do group outings or group interactive sessions to increase belonging to a group to help reduce stress and anxiety.

Let us stay positive, get physically active and help others.

Anti-discrimination

Whether we are or are not suffering from mental illness or poor mental health, anti-discrimination campaigns could be done to help raise awareness of mental illness and poor mental health.

We could encourage the implementation of laws to protect all individuals from being bullied because persons suffering with mental illness have a greater probability of being exposed to discrimination.

Gap

There are treatment options for persons with poor mental health and those with mental illness. Many mental health conditions can be effectively treated at low cost but there is a gap between people needing care and those with access to care. Increased investment is required for mental health awareness to increase understanding and reduce stigma.

More efforts on the part of governments could be done to increase access to quality mental health care and effective treatments. Legislation on human rights to ensure care for persons suffering from mental illness would also be effective.

Research can also be done to identify new treatments and improve existing treatments for all mental disorders. Research on what has worked in the past could be used to enhance future interventions.

Remember positive change starts with you so you could help improve someone’s poor mental health.

Raising awareness

Mental illness and poor mental health could be inherited so parents could be taught signs and symptoms for early diagnosis and treatment.

Individuals with mental illness and their families can be empowered and educational programs on mental health can be done in communities. This will raise awareness of mental disorders, possible risk factors and coping methods to utilize when dealing with people with mental disorders. This too would help reduce the stigma attached to mental illness.

Mental health could be taught at all schools even at kindergarten so children could be raised into knowing the signs and symptoms of poor mental health and mental illness. This would help with early identification of signs and symptoms to ensure that help is obtained.

Psychiatric disorders that go untreated affect patients, families, communities and the health care system. More mental health care education can be provided by health care workers to raise awareness.

Mental disorders affect overall health, cause disabilities and decrease of years lived. Mental health services should be introduced into primary care services to improve the outcome of mental health.

We can do it!

Remember we could have poor mental health and not be diagnosed with a mental illness and we could remain capable of contributing to society and live a healthy and normal life.

Reference

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). (2018). Learn about mental health. Mental health. Retrieved from https://www.cdc.gov/mentalhealth/learn/index.htm

World Health Organization (WHO). (2019). Promoting the rights of people with mental disorders: solutions in countries. Denied citizens. Retrieved from https://www.who.int/features/2005/mental_health/solutions/en/

World Health Organization (WHO). (2020). Mental health. Health tropics. Retrieved from https://www.who.int/westernpacific/health-topics/mental-health

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How to survive nursing school

DHS class of 2013, I love you and miss you! I shout out hello wherever you are and I hope that you are enjoying nursing and still have the zeal as you did at school!

“Norse” like Sherline says!

DHS class of 2013

My years at nursing school were some of the best school years because I made some lifelong friends. My class did almost everything together and felt like a large family with 34 persons.

Of course we had class couples and class drama but we had fun!

A group of us would go to Burger King every Friday after class. The double stacker served with ginger ale was my favourite. Yummy yum!

After eating we would sometimes walk around town. Our goodbyes were long because everybody had to hug each other. The good old days…

Proud mom

I was extremely happy to start nursing school but boy I did not know what I was in for. My mom was extremely proud that I had decided to go to nursing school that she quickly spread the word.

She encouraged me to study instead of going out and would even bring my dinner to my room when I was studying. She was such a sweet mommy! Sigh! Continue to rest easy mommy.

Nursing school

The first semester of nursing school started off a bit easy because I had been exempted from some courses. However by the second semester I started feeling the stress of school.

Most times I cried because of Anatomy and Physiology and Dosage Calculations. I did not see how I would pass these courses. Learning the body parts in depth and learning the medical jargons got the best of me and everyone in the class.

Dosage calculations hmph was my enemy! It was difficult to understand and perform the mathematical calculations. So much to learn in so little time! I was very miserable and worried. Would I pass or be able to complete nursing school!?

The workload was intense that I felt like quitting all the time. I honestly kept telling myself that I did not want to disappoint my mom and wanted to help her have a better life. My mom was my strength.

Clinicals at Monchy Wellness Centre

My sweet Sam

The course material was extra challenging. My partner would help me with my assignments every night over skype. Religiously I would send him my assignments and he would do all the research. He made my work much lighter. Thank you Sam!

Lots to do

Nursing school is very expensive! The books too are expensive! We ALWAYS had to be printing at the Reprographic Centre commonly called Rip-off! Do not ask about presentations, group work, case studies and clinicals at the school, hospitals and health centres.

Tons of unfamiliar terms and medical jargons, performing clinicals and doing return demonstrations. The information we had to learn, absorb and retain was compact and in a short time. I felt bombarded with information.

Weekly assignments, quiz and exams! My mom would say “check the state of Rema’s room” in Saint Lucian creole and call my room a pig’s pen because I had papers and books scattered all over.

Yes, there were projects and field trips too!

You literally have no social life when at nursing school. Some of us managed to go to Upper Level Nightclub sometimes to party hard and relieve our school stress! Oh yes!

DHS Clinicals!
Clinicals at St. Jude Hospital
Clinicals at Marian Home
Field trip at Deglos Landfill
Field trip at Roseau Dam
After school lime on the segway

Our lecturers

We had the most wonderful lecturers! Mrs James was the coordinator of the Department of Health Sciences (DHS). She would inspect our uniforms to ensure that we were abiding by the rules. She would tell us to pray and she believed in us every chance she got.  

Sister Jolie was warm and caring. She was so soft spoken that her voice would put me to sleep, she was an earthly angel. Continue to rest in peace Sister Jolie.

Ms. Antoine was always jovial and she would mistake myself for Tama and Misha because she said we looked alike. Laughs! We had to do lots of drug cards for her Introduction to Pharmacology class!

By the end of Ms. Antoine class we would have become pharmacists and know both the generic and trade names of the drugs, drug interactions, indications and side effects plus patient education.

Mrs. Lesfloris was such a sweet clinical instructor. She would constantly be seen with the other clinical instructor- Mrs. Dolor. Mrs. Dolor was the actress and funniest lecturer. Mrs. Dolor would always be smiling and had many funny stories to share.

Mrs. Preville taught the most challenges courses! Anatomy and dosage! She told us daily that we were “fearfully and wonderfully made.” I still tell myself the same thing even years after leaving nursing school.

Ms. Peter was very classy and wanted the class to stand every time she entered. She made her classes fun, easy to understand and wanted to see us all succeed.

Mr. Hewitt was passionate about teaching Environmental Health and constantly spoke about health inspection. Ms. Mathurin, Ms. St. Juste  and Mrs. Plummer taught Psychology and were always smiling and gave fun stories about their work.

Mr. Griffith was well known for his communication skills and ensured that Communication class was filled with presentations to improve public speaking.

Administrative Personnel

Mrs. Elliot, Mrs. Ludovic and Ms. Boullie were the ones we bombarded with all our school questions. Thank you all for your help and not getting too frustrated with us!

Exams

I do not know where some of the lecturers got the exams from or how they formulated the questions but wah! The exams would be very difficult and different from what we studied.

Some of the medical terms were foreign to me because I did not come across them whilst studying. I do not know if I was sleeping during the class but I had to do “anti mali” where I sang a song and guessed the correct answers.

Mostly all the choices given during nursing exams are correct but you must select the most correct option! My oh my!

Hearing persons discuss the exams and their selected answers or seeing I wrote the wrong answer after I searched the textbook was equally painful as the exam.

Ways to survive nursing school

Form a study group

Study groups can be disruptive and unproductive for some so they prefer to study independently but study groups work well for others. I prefer studying alone but the study group I was in helped increase my understanding of the course material.

I got fresh ideas, different perspective and different explanations. We would compare our notes and would not move on until everyone understood a concept. The study group served as a means of social and academic support.

I was a part of a click so we reviewed our assignments together before submission. We also reviewed past papers, practice questions and study material before exams.

-Take notes during class and recapitulate

Take notes during class and review all notes after class to refresh memory, reinforce what you learned, increase remembrance and seek clarity where necessary.

Master the course material after class to help prepare for exams. This limits the need to cram and increases the probability of succeeding on the end of semester exam.

Review your notes throughout the semester and do lots of practice questions from online test banks.  

-Exercise

I exercised daily to release my school stress and anxiety and mostly because I did not want to gain weight. Exercising at the time really prevented me from losing my mind!

-Practice clinicals

My dad got me a big doll so I used it to practice my clinicals. I would lay it on my bed and do a return demonstration of what I was taught at clinicals. Get someone to be your patient and practice your clinical skills!  

-Set a study routine

Set a study routine and stick to it. This helped with the constant information overload and I did not feel pressured to learn loads at the end of the semester.

Whether you study when you get home from school, do an all-nighter or wake up at 1 a.m. to 4 a.m . like I would, decide what works best for you.

-Embrace sticky notes and flashcards

Put sticky notes all over your room or places you could review them easily. I placed my sticky notes over the mirror and walls of my room, anywhere I would be able to read them.

I used flashcards “on the go” so I kept them with me when I left the house so I had study material readily available. I loved reading my flashcards during commute as well.

Ms. St. Juste told the class that one of the best times to review course material was during an advertisement whilst watching television. That did work for me especially when I was watching news with my mom.

-Vent and use your support system

Talk about your feelings openly instead of keeping it bottled up. Use your support system and speak to persons you trust. Journal! Just breathe even though you feel like the school work will kill you. I sometimes used a paper bag to breathe in to reduce my school anxiety.

To my past classmates and persons who have left nursing school, what do you miss most about nursing school? What would you tell someone who is interested in becoming a nurse?

To the aspiring nurses! Nursing school is just the tip of the ice berg! Bed side nursing is challenging and another level of “STRESS!”

The nurses of today!

Group project on Post Mortem with Dr. King
Kimmy and Tabby
The zms, Elanie is missing!
Practicing what we preach! College marathon together
Clinical days in Vieux Fort!

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Trim’s National Riding Stables

A ride to remember

My partner took me to Trim’s National Riding Stables on a beautiful Saturday afternoon for a one hour trail ride. He knew that horseback riding had been something I was longing to do.

I was extremely excited for his wonderful gesture. I told him that I wanted to dress like a professional horseback rider and he laughed away. Too bad I forgot to wear my leather boots on the day! Hmph!

Trim’s National Riding Stables is located in Cas En Bas, Gros Islet close to the Cas En Bas beach. Talk about the perfect location!

Neigh

We were warmly greeted by the friendly staff who had anticipated our arrival as we had called in advance. After receiving a few pointers on ways to maintain control of the horse, safety measures and what to expect, we were all set and given helmets! We were allowed to stand on the red dots, climb the step stool and seat comfortably on the saddle!

My horse Becky

There were so many horses in the stable that I wondered if we would be paired with the ideal horse since we were first time riders. Boy was I wrong to wonder…

I was paired with the sweetest horse- Becky. I was thrilled but worried that I would fall, Becky fall over me and break my body parts or that she would throw me over. What a scary thought I thought as I replayed the scenarios in my head.

Becky was stubborn and wanted to eat grass the entire trip! She was quick and smart. Her body would move to the grass although I would have her head in the other direction.

Before I knew it she would swiftly swing her head towards the grass. My partner’s horse was well behaved all the way.

The guide had informed us that we were to try our best to prevent the horses from eating grass so I was on a mission but Becky was not complying!

I loved Becky because she moved at the right pace and I felt like we connected despite our “don’t eat the grass” confrontation the entire journey.

The best of nature

The weather was perfect and fitting for this outdoor activity. It was mostly cloudy. The dirt road was mostly moist since it rained on the previous day.

We passed through the rocky, paved and semi paved trails and even muddy puddles. What fun this was!

I am a nature lover. I enjoyed the beautiful view of the Cas En Bas community, the different flora and fauna, the view of the Atlantic Ocean from the hillside and the feel of the cool breeze on my skin.

Beach stop

We stopped on the Cas En Bas beach for a photoshoot and to enjoy the view. The guide was a perfect tour guide and gave us a little history on the rocket who saw on the beach.

Persons were seen dining at the nearby restaurant on the beach, some were kite and windsurfing and others enjoying the sand. The thrills of island living!

Horse surprises

When I saw the horses poop, I shouted, “that is huge!” I was flabbergasted. Oh my, watching the male horse urinate was even more alarming because of the large forceful nature of the urine.

What a surprise! On the way back the horses went slightly faster and the “gallops” echoed. I thought that by this time they would have been tired but only to find out that they were racing home to enjoy the grass that awaited.

Our guide

Our guide was funny, knowledgeable and knew lots of history about Cas En Bas and the horses. He stayed with us the entire time, ensured that we were comfortable and felt safe throughout the ride.

Reems the rider

I felt slight discomfort during the ride as my body is not used to being in such position. My body was extra stiff after the ride and my bam felt a bit sore.

Yes I think so too! I need to do some more home exercises!

Overall

The horses were well trained, well-groomed and very calm. They had no bad odour.  I had a fun and unique experience and felt like I was in a movie. I will definitely try horseback riding again and may be do a two hour ride to swim with the horses in water.

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Why are Caribbean nurses migrating?

Nurse migration is a pressing issue that is surprisingly not being discussed, being taken lightly and kept in the dark. Loss of health care workforce means a weakened health care system and inability to meet the basic health care needs of the population. This further prompts more nurses to migrate away from their home country.

Whilst remaining in one’s country to work used to be the norm and persons did not think of emigrating. Now, it seems to be a matter of when one will migrate. Thinking of leaving my loved ones behind and the place I call home is saddening and heart-breaking.

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What influences a nurse’s decision to move? Is health care not a major priority by the government? What does it mean for a country to have no nurses? How will the health care system be affected if there are no nurses? How will the economy and economic output and productivity be affected with limited to no nurses?

Nurse migration

Nursing is a mobile profession so nurses could work anywhere they choose to. Nurses are leaving their home country for personal and professional development, better pay, better quality of life and personal safety. Some nurses seek adventure, novelty and change.

It surprises me that one’s own country does not see the advantages of its nurses yet there is a war for nurses in industrialized countries. Many countries are competing in this competitive global market as they seek nurses from different countries.

The packages offered from the industrialized countries look lucrative and show enhanced opportunities for both the nurse and their family. There are incentives for nurses, facilitated immigration process and open entry to countries. Nurses are also given preferential treatment plus they could move with their families.

Rippling effect

Nurses who migrate further affect the already disadvantaged health care system. This worsens working conditions for nurses left behind as they suffer from heavier workloads.

Heavier workload could cause reduced work satisfaction, low morale, high levels of absenteeism and burnout which all impact quality of care.

Reasons nurses leave

Can you imagine working within an organization for years and remaining at the same level? Or seeing nurses who came after you get promoted? Furthering your education and still not getting a salary increase?

Nurses are leaving due to limited upward mobility and diversity, limited career opportunities, lack of resources to get the job done effectively, slow or lack of promotion and no future.

Nurses suffer from poor and unstable working conditions, lack of workplace safety, limited staffing, heavy workload and high nurse to patient ratio.

Nurses have low salary in their home country and lack of social and retirement benefits. There is no overtime pay but lots of work “overload” and a stressful working environment.

Nurses are limited! Limited opportunities for employment or job advancement, limited to no say in work schedule and working hours and limited chance to upgrade nursing skills.

Yes, that too! Talk about hostility in the workplace. Non-involvement in decision making, lack of support from supervisors and constant blame, bullying, bashing and targeting.

Nurses perform loads of non-nursing tasks including that of a doctor, orderly, health aid and cleaner. Nurses have suffered for too long silently and are emotionally exhausted.

Nurses are frustrated from the low recognition from management and undervaluation and appreciation by the public and government.

Many nurses have left as a direct result of an unsatisfactory and unstable political environment which caused fear and uncertainty of jobs.

Catch that package

Packages offered from other countries show that nurses have access to career advancement. There is recognition of professional expertise, attractive salaries and social and retirement benefits. A professional work environment with sensitive employment policies are also highlighted.

Understaffing

Overworked nurses can suffer from fatigue and burnout and feel overwhelmed. This could impair the nurse’s ability to focus on tasks and pay attention to details, increase medical errors and cause missed nursing care. This could affect the patient as they may experience lack of engagement, neglect, high risk of infection, complications and falls and increased risk of mortality.

Understaffing means the same amount of work for fewer nurses. This increases the nurse to patient ratio and causes breakdown in mental, emotional and physical health. When nurses become sick, tired or injured from the chronic staffing limitations they will miss work.

This further compounds the staffing problems. Nurses who face constant stress at work can develop health issues including depression, anxiety, exhaustion, hypertension and even suicidal thoughts. Understaffing significantly affects relationship with loved ones as nurses are usually too tired from work to engage in fun, homebased activities.

Patients

Understaffing could increase negative patient and family perceptions of nursing care. This causes the patient to distrust the health care system especially if they feel like they received inadequate or rushed care and decreased explanation of medication, diagnosis and procedures.

Overall, inadequate staff on duty could jeopardize patient and worker safety.

Keep nurses

Organizations need to focus on keeping nurses and improving staff. Nurses employed now may become disgruntled later and leave, so, how can organizations retain nurses?

Create an environment that is desirable to stay because employing nurses is not enough. A strong workplace and culture should be enforced. Trust should be developed between staff and management.

Nurses could be provided with flexible work schedules. Nurses are selfless and often put their patients and co-workers needs ahead of their own.

Allow nurses to work with each other to create flexible working and staffing schedules for their units in a way that meet the needs of everyone.

Nurses input should be valued. Nurses should be able to freely air their views and their voices heard without being labelled or their comments used against them on their appraisals.

Health care studies can be subsidized or provided free for nurses. Phlebotomy, basic life support and advanced life support courses could be provided free. Nurse renewal license could also be free.

Schooling could be paid for nurses or a tuition reimbursement program be put in place. Nurses could then sign bonds for at least two or three years once employment has begun.

Nurses should be given career advancement opportunities so they could feel like they have a future within the organization. Nurses should be able to transition from their RN certificate to BSN or other areas of interest.

Nurses need opportunities to float on different units and shadow other people.

How about recognizing nurse’s degrees and increasing nurse’s salaries after completion of their degree. How about promoting nurses to nurse manager quicker.

Yes, rally for nurses to have reduction in vehicle and telephone rates.

A nonbiased method to reward high performers could be developed to demonstrate appreciation for staff efforts so nurses can feel appreciated for the work they do. Motivated nurses will go the extra mile and provide exceptional patient care.

Pay

Nurses need overtime pay, more risk allowance pay, severance pay, more night duty pay, charge nurse pay and preceptor pay.

You think nurses want to leave and experience the barriers to migration?

The process of transfer and migration can be overwhelming and costly. The immigration process too can be costly. Nurses need to learn new technology and terminology and adapt to the language.

Nurses have to adjust to different clinical practices, procedures, equipment and a new work environment.

Leaving one’s family, friends, country and establishing oneself in a new country can be emotionally taxing. Disappearance of one’s social support system can be very difficult.

Adjusting to a new culture and environment can be challenging. Double standards, exposure to racism and discrimination are other key elements.

Tell me what can cause the nurses to stay!

Thank you for reading our findings on our survey carried out on why nurses are migrating across the Caribbean!

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Are you happy?

If not, then! Let life unfold and embrace your life for what it is right now.    

All up in our head

Ever been so much in your thoughts that you got depressed?

Sometimes we get caught up in our heads that we lose hope, compare ourselves to others, feel down and grumpy and even go into severe depression.

If you do get caught up in your head then refocus!

Past, present or future?

We need to focus on the present and enjoy what we have right now. Our life will change one way or the other and things will happen whether we want it to or not. The world is versatile and so is our life. Events will happen that are beyond our control so we need to adapt as they come. We will lose loved ones, close friends, meaningful relationships, jobs, money and so much more but we need to keep focus.

Happiness

I sometimes say that happiness comes from within. Do you think that it does?

How can we be truly happy if we are trapped by negative thoughts and emotions, unforgiveness, longing and feelings of inadequacy?

We need to pay attention to the little things in life to find our happiness. Perhaps happiness is a skill that we develop and work on to achieve it daily.

Finding our happiness

We need to practice saying the things we love about ourselves every day. Look into the mirror and adore ourselves and practice positive self-talk. We should say the things that we are thankful for and appreciate whatever we have right now.

It is okay to plan for the future, expect better and feel like we could be doing much more but we should focus on the present since it is happening right now. This will improve our peace of mind and mental state.

Let us work on keeping our thoughts clean and free from its own toxicity. We find happiness when we align our thoughts with our emotions and truly exhibit the positivity that we feel inside.

We are our own enemies and daily we fight our internal demons.

Creating our happiness

Sometimes we think that we may be happiest if we have our own home or a bigger house, better job, nicer children, better spouse, make more money and the list goes on. It is a never ending want! This only creates bitterness within us.

We need to realize that we have what we need right now and that we are working towards what we want. What we want might be challenging to attain right now but we can take small steps towards achieving it overtime.

We should not allow our wants to turn us against ourselves. Material things wear off and can be replaced but our mental health can cause sickness and death if not kept in check.

Let go and find meaning

Let go of the life we have planned, embrace the one that we have and we will eventually find the one that awaits we.

We need to find meaning and pleasure in the little and simple things such as a hug from someone we love and being in their presence. As we find meaning, we find feelings and the feelings develop into emotions which could improve our wellbeing and quality of life.

Trapped in the mind

Sometimes I find myself trapped in my thoughts that I isolate myself from everyone, go in a state of shock and almost depression. I would ask myself “is this really my life?” How comes I am not getting ahead, I feel stuck, unhappy and like I cannot get things my way.

I was busy creating the life I wanted and wished I had instead of living the one I already have. I was constantly dissatisfied and complained about everything and everyone and then I realized that the problem was within me. I wanted to accomplish too many things now that I was busy living in the future but there is no short cut to life and the future. Every thing good comes with patience and in due time.

The hardest yet best thing I could do was to admit to myself that I was toxic to myself and those around me because of my negative thoughts.

Self-reclaim

We need to take things one day at a time because the day is not ours and is not guaranteed to end with us being in it. Life feels better when we realize that we have everything we ever needed but that the decisions we make now would only lead us to the life that we want.

We need to accept our “right now” to keep sane and not the fake reality that we create in our heads. Learn to be free daily, let go of what we cannot control but remember that we control our actions, thoughts and the meaning we give to events. Our reality is now!

Let us no longer be victim to our negative thoughts. The best thing about life is that we have the ability to make decisions to either enable or disable progress.

Live life meaningfully and imprint yourself wherever you go. Live a remarkable life!

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Social media and mental health

Are you spending an exorbitant amount of time checking Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, Facebook or other social media platforms for updates and photos or to see whether you received new likes, comments and shares?

Have you posted to receive likes and comments and felt disappointed when you did not get the outcome that you expected?

Ever used social media to share your sad stories to get attention and emotional encouragement?

Social media use

Social media is the use of the internet to interact with people and to receive and share information. Social media has connected many long lost friends and helped people rekindle old love.

Social media continues to serve as a way for users to openly and freely express themselves. It is a platform for users to advertise themselves, their businesses, their ideas and also an avenue to seek financial and social assistance.

Social media could expose people to support groups that give a sense of belonging which sometimes is not attained offline. Additionally, social media could be used to stay abreast with new events and opportunities.

Social media could improve one’s mental health however depending on usage, could also harm it.

For the love of social media

Advancement in technology has made social media platforms more readily accessible. These advancements coupled with the engagement strategies used by the platforms have caused some users to become addicted. Some of us live for social media and use it to document every aspect of our life.

Some want everyone to know what is happening in their life. Some behave like if it was not posted it did not happen and are unable to spend a day without posting or going through their feed.

Texting and long conversations on a flip phone are now face time and social media surfs on a smartphone

Harms of social media

Social media could be image focused which causes unrealistic body image expectations and feelings of inadequacy for some users. This flares up anxiety and has a detrimental effect on the mental health of users, especially individuals who are already battling emotional and self-esteem issues.

Real or fake

Social media is a way for users to escape from reality.

People create fake and unrealistic images of themselves by editing their photos to appear more desirable based on societal standards of beauty.

The portrayal of a fake reality of one’s life could feed into another person’s mental state and affect their mental health, confidence and self-esteem especially if they are already emotionally vulnerable.

People are now altering their lives and environment to suit a social media façade to appear cool, more desirable and attractive.

Social media could give false sense of hope if people are naïve. It could subconsciously make people feel like something is wrong with them and that they should be living this fantasy.

It could increase the probability of comparing one’s life to that of others which not only breeds envy but self-disappointment as well.

This sometimes leads to people living beyond their means or resorting to cosmetic procedures in order to imitate a fake reality.

Know the positive and negative effects of social media

Are you becoming a target or making yourself a target?

Social media could increase the chances of someone becoming a target when others become envious of the lifestyle they portray. They may be subject to slander or even physical acts.

Obsession

Constantly refreshing feeds for likes, comments and shares make some people feel accepted and get some sort of gratification.

People are increasingly posting on social media for positive feedback and have become obsessed with getting followers, likes and shares.

People compare their likes and follows to that of others and may feel inadequate. Constantly feeling inadequate is a path to depression which if left unaddressed could result in suicide.

Use of social media for some is like a competition as people fight for likes and followers to feel good about themselves and to become a social influencer.

Obsession with social media and unhealthy use of social media platforms could affect one’s mental health especially if people are down, lonely and looking for comfort.

Procrastination

Imagine spending hours on social media, procrastinating and letting time wither away when you could do something constructive like furthering yourself mentally, learning a craft, exercising or working on a business plan. 

Wake up

Remember that things are filtered on social media but not in real life. Most of what you see is fake so CONTROL your urges. Try to set limits on the time spent on social media.

Do not fall for everything you see or read on social media. Do not grow in love with the perfect reality others show because you do not know what happens behind closed doors. One of the most dangerous aspects of a social media reality is a false sense of HAPPINESS.

Know how social media is affecting you because it can either affect your mental health or improve your life.

Stay true to you

Use social media to improve your mental wellbeing by building networks, connecting with others and sharing stories for mutual support.

Do not lose yourself trying to become what you are not. Do not think that your content is not good enough because you did not get many likes or shares.

Be present

Have you seen a group of people together but everyone was chatting with someone else on their phone or scrolling through social media? Have you been part of a group and did that?

Have you disrupted a conversation with someone or paid less attention to what was being said just to check your social accounts?

Well stop it! Be nice! Do better! Live in the moment and be present with everyone around you and not through a filter.

Missing out?

Ever saw a photo on social media and felt envious and like you wish you could have experienced being in the photo?

Ever felt excluded when you were not invited to a social event and saw photos that your friends posted? 

Let me know how social media has affected you or improved your life.

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Eight reasons why countryside living is good for you

Country living tend to offer more land space for children to play and to rear animals and plant trees. Do not forget the fresh air and a daily supply of fresh fruits, vegetables and herbs.

The day time beauty of country living is seen with the green plantations and wavy mountains.

A clear night is like sweet romance and offers a sense of joy, freedom and peace of mind as you can gaze at the stars and the moon all night long.

If you love noise then you will appreciate night time in the country! It can get pretty noisy when the crickets sing their song.

Country living is ideal for me as it gives me a sense of purpose with my living environment. I am proud to be from the countryside and I enjoy the simple life that it permits.

1.Fresh supply of fruits and vegetables

Country living provides an opportunity to engage in backyard gardening. Yes, you get to have your own supply of nutritious, local, organic and fresh produce. Have excess produce? Why not share with your neighbour or even sell the balance?

If you do not have a backyard garden then you might just be lucky and get produce from neighbours or friends. Plus, farmers selling produce are generally close by!

Country life is “hardly without” because a fruit is always in season. Well country living helps you eat healthier, right?

You could use the seasonal fruits to eat or make juice and jam. You could dry the fruits and also make juice concentrate. It is a win win win.

Watch video to learn how to make seasonal fruit jam! So delicious…

2.Rear livestock and have pets

Country living makes it easier to raise pets and livestock. You could rear chickens, pigs, goats, ducks, rabbits and even cows depending on the size of your property and whether you have access to a nearby pasture. This could be a really cool and fun hobby yet give you a steady supply of fresh meat.

Pets too! You could have as many cats as you like when you live in the country. Why not get a dog?

Ensure you have proper fencing to prevent your pets from being a nuisance to others.

3.Fresh air

I love going to the balcony just to enjoy the fresh air. The abundance of trees and grass make the place cooler, smell nicer and make you breathe better.

4.Nature

Paradise happens the minute I look through the window or open the door. Perfect greenery and scenery. The countryside is filled with flowers, plants and evergreen trees and rolling mountains. Birds are everywhere and most days the opossum pays a visit. Seeing various wildlife is granted.

5.Peaceful and slower pace

If you do not have noisy neighbours who love playing music or shouting all day long then you will get a peace haven whilst living in the country. You will mostly hear the birds chirp, rustling leaves and the trees as they sway with the wind.

6.Outdoor adventure

There are many things to do outdoors when in the countryside. River limes, beach vibes, waterfall bath, hikes, climbing trees and going on fun adventures. You will not run out of adventurous activities.

7.Cheaper rent

Housing in the countryside is much cheaper than in the city. Plus you get a bigger space for the money!

8.Community

People living in the country know each other really well. This provides a sense of community as others can relate with each other and have their own traditions. The close community ties will not leave you feeling lonely.

Believe it!

Country living is sustainable and cost effective and could help you save money. If you want to pick up a farm hobby then you could save on purchasing fruits, vegetables and even meat.

Do you love the countryside? Leave a comment and tell me why.

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Promotion denied

Ever wondered why certain persons you feel did not deserve a promotion actually got promoted?

Expectations versus reality

After a few years of working in an organization or after furthering your degree you expect a promotion, right? Doesn’t it seem fair?

Does that apply to most things in life?

Sometimes you do something with the hopes of achieving something greater but what you expect and deserve might not necessarily be what you get.

That is okay! It will work to benefit you.

Hold on and pwen chair

Employee of the year

Sometimes you are the hardest worker, you do not call in sick, are hardly ever late, and do not take breaks. You accomplish all your tasks, show up whenever called, go above and beyond and under and over yet it is not enough for your employer.

That can make you question your work ethic and productivity. Do not question your work ethic because of what others say about you or when you receive much less than you deserve.

It is time to move on! The job is not the right fit for you. Do not think that it is the other way around as in, you are not the right fit for the job.

No promotion

If you are denied the promotion then so what! Will the world end? You might no longer be enthusiastic about work and lack motivation but be happy that you did not get promoted.

That does not mean that things will not work out for you. Too bad that the organization is going to miss out on a diligent worker like you.

Although you might feel inadequate, rejected and like things are not going good for you. Remember, success is built on pain, rejection, denial, fear, frustration and failure.

Let this “no promotion” opportunity open doors for the new opportunities that await you. Refocus, revamp, refuel, rewrite and redirect.

That closed door is supposed to remain closed. You might want to climb the ladder now but perhaps it is not yet time.

Let that rejection allow you to refocus on your gifts, goals, dreams, passion, aspirations and all the things that you love. Let your passion follow you! Let your pain lead you to your success because in our greatest pain lies our greatest success.

Best believe that

You are valuable

Sometimes people do not recognize your value until you leave.

So…why stay?

Why stay at a job that will replace you even before you die? Disrespect you? Underappreciate you? Devalue you? Emotionally, physically, psychologically, spiritually and socially destroy you?

Make up your mind

Let go and release

Let go and become so overqualified that you get to select the job that you want.

Become so skillful that you use your talents to become the master of your happiness  and opportunities. So skillful to do a job you love so much that it makes you feel like you will never work a day in your life.

Missed opportunities

Just may be if you did get that promotion then you would miss out on your success story, become overly comfortable and not listen to what whispers in your ears.

The promotion just might have gotten you wrapped up in work, give you added responsibilities and less time for yourself.

Beyond your control

Sometimes getting a promotion is nothing you have control over but you can control your attitude and mindset.

You have not been defeated, rejected or denied! You have become ALIVE!

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Natural hair

Social media

I would constantly see Black girls in movies and music videos with straight, shiny and long natural hair.

It made me envy persons when I saw their “nice,” straight, thick and long hair. How I wished my hair could look the same.

One could argue that I watched too much movies as a child but I also saw these girls with “nice hair” in local commercials.

Would you image that a predominately Black country uses White persons or persons of a mixed race for advertisements? Well, this is the case!

Societal pressures

I was convinced that I too should have thick, long, shiny and straight hair because society called it “nice hair.”

Societal standards made it seem like I needed to look a certain way and be a certain way so that I could be accepted.

It is difficult to be you when all you see around you is something completely opposite.

Childhood

I grew up hearing I was pretty every day but deep down I felt insecure because of my hair type. As a child I hardly ever saw someone who looked like me in a movie, music video or local advertisement.

I would wonder why I had such hard, tangled, knotty, kinky, shrinking hair that would take me almost an hour to style on a daily basis.

Getting my hair styled was filled with me saying “ouch!” and hearing “keep your head straight!” The many times I thought I would sustain a broken neck from someone roughly adjusting my head when I was not being still.

I had to get rid of that hair!

I would complain about my hair to my cousin-Sherline every day. Her response was always the same, “Rema, all hair types are nice! Keep your hair moisturized! You just need to find the right product to better manage your hair!”

Racism, stereotype, stigma?

In Saint Lucia, persons are typically classified for their hair. You are either a “neg” “dogla” or “coolie” what we commonly know as “Black,” “Mixed” or “Indian” respectively.

Some men say that they prefer Indians or women with long “nice hair” whilst some women want a man with “nice hair” so that their children could have a higher probability of having “nice hair.”

I am pro preference but I tell you…there is racism everywhere and even amongst persons of the same culture, ethnicity and race.

Imagine that your hair type and even complexion can land you a job quicker depending on the preference of the person hiring. Do not talk about getting into a relationship. Hair type and complexion are major determinants.

Resentment then acceptance

I resented my hair! My mom encouraged me to stay natural when I told her I had a great desire to put relaxer. I was not having it so I went on for the “straight hair” journey.

As I started embracing and accepting myself, loving the woman I was becoming and living on my own terms I started realizing that I loved my hair and how I looked.

I felt like I no longer needed a mask, keep my hair relaxed or hide my hair with braids, wigs or weave. No I did not need to flat iron my natural hair either.

Hair struggles

Natural hair

I thought I hated combing but I really hated my hair.

Oh my…I hated “wash hair days!” The shrinkage after a wash is ridiculous. My hair would be very difficult to manipulate and my scalp would get sore from the tugging that accompanied trying to untangle my hair.

My hair is very dry and coarse so I would take up to eight hours to wash, dry, untangle and then style my hair.

Managing natural hair is a full time job! You have to be responsible, committed and throw in a lot of time.

Relaxed hair

My relaxed hair began thinning, breaking and my edges slowly disappeared. That was a plus for me because I decided to go back to my “natural roots.”

You still have to go to the salon or do your hair at home, get touch ups and maintain the relaxed hair.

No scratching of scalp before getting your hair relaxed, pain from sitting and letting the relaxer take its course and “well cook” through your scalp. I still remember getting burns on my scalp.

Relaxed hair is just as time consuming as natural hair but is just easier to style and manage.

Naturally you

Women it is okay to wear your natural hair proudly. It is okay if you do not wear mark up. It is okay to be NATURALLY YOU! Your hair is beautiful and you have “nice hair.”

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Degree? Skill? Which is the way to success?

We live in a society where you get a job and everything rather based on your connections and who knows you. Some forget your education, your degree, your good grades, your qualifications, your experience and your skill set!

I grew up with my mom constantly telling me that I needed to take my school work serious, do my assignments and always excel academically. I listened and I became a book worm. I highly believed that education was the way out. Well, at least for me.

Be mindful

Advise to the upcoming generation and persons who are confused about what they should do about school.

Develop yourself, find your identify and your gift!

Focus on yourself, what you love, what you want to do and things that may become popular in the future. Highlight all the things that you are good at and one at a time try to improve on it.

You might just end up making a career from “that thing that you are good at” and find your success, your why and your calling.  Let us call it “YOUR SKILL!”

The education system works for some persons! Whilst others are more technical so may not function as well in a classroom.

Of course, schooling is paramount for certain professions especially for doctors.

Skill

Your skill is the thing that you do exceptionally well with little to no resources, time or effort. It may come to you naturally and it can be strengthened with practice overtime.

If you do decide to go to school then use your education to enable and enhance your skill. Let your skill pave the way for you and your success.

School or old school

Some persons go to school, take loans and invest many years into getting a degree. They make many sacrifices, miss out on family events and on making fond memories.

When they are finally done with school, they are in debt and have “big” loans to pay. They job hunt but still find it difficult to get a job or are told that the industry is not hiring.

They do not get the money, time nor effort that they invested back. Some persons wind up working but being underpaid for their qualifications or get a job doing something different from their degree.

They become a slave to the system and spend a lifetime waiting to make the money spent at school.

Blue collar, white collar, new collar

Congratulations to those who have proven that the education system works and went up the ladder because of their qualifications.

To the persons who are still searching for a job that pays for their qualifications. Keep at it, do not give up and do not lose hope.

You have spent too much time, money and effort to give up now. Your time will come!

Employers

Stop asking for work experience! Persons need to get a job in order to have experience so give them a chance to get the experience!

If you had to choose one what would it be.

1)Spend a lifetime going to school to work for someone else or at a job you hate

2)Spend a lifetime being successful by using your talent and doing something you love

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Hospital Orderlies

Nonmedical care

Hospital orderlies commonly called porters provide nonmedical care to patients and assist medical personnel where necessary. Orderlies do plenty heavy lifting, carrying and moving of patients and equipment.

Orderlies work under supervision of a nurse when providing care to a patient and perform a vast amount of physical labour which is most times strenuous.

Orderlies can be seen in a hospital setting moving patients to different departments in wheelchairs or mobile beds to have procedures done. You might also spot an orderly carrying samples and blood products to the laboratory for investigation.

Orderlies are on their feet for long periods and have a physically demanding job. They provide direct assistance to nurses, perform basic tasks, take care of patients and take care of the work environment.

Orderlies contribute significantly to the health care sector.

Never a dull moment!

All-rounders

Orderlies help with repositioning of patients since some patients are bed ridden and unable to turn independently. Some patients are too ill to perform basic activities so orderlies assist these patients as much as possible and where necessary.

Orderlies are all-rounders as they perform their various roles on a daily basis: from carrying equipment and items to different units, assisting with restraining combative patients, assisting patients to the washroom, sourcing items, pulling patients up in bed and making patients feel more comfortable in bed.

There is more! Orderlies take patients to and from the operating room, radiology department and renal unit. They transfer patients from bed to wheelchair and vice versa. Orderlies are also the ones bringing the patients to the various units following admission and assist the patients upon discharge as they are taken to their taxi.

Orderlies have frequent contact with patients and can develop close, caring relationships with patients. The orderlies hard work and effort tend to go unrecognized and the good work they do remain in isolation.

To all the orderlies out there, continue doing such an amazing job!

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A NOT so typical day as a nurse

That thing called “Nursing”

Nursing has been one of the most challenging things I have done! Nursing can affect you physically, emotionally, mentally, socially and spiritually. You experience many different feelings and events on a daily basis and some are extremely traumatizing.

To the persons who want to become a nurse, please ensure that you prepare yourself mentally and physically. Every day is different and you do not know what you will encounter on the job.

Nursing is a very unpredictable, overwhelming, stressful, tiring but rewarding career. My favourite part of the job is seeing a patient recover fully from a life threatening condition and leave the hospital cheerful and thankful when they are discharged to their home.

Witnessing this makes me feel proud of myself. I tell myself “wow, I helped do this. I helped bring someone back to a state of good health and wellbeing!” It feels amazing!

Crazy? Hectic? Morning shift?

Morning change of shift report

The morning report usually occurs from 7 a.m. to 7:30 a.m. The nurses from the night shift give the oncoming nurses a rundown of what transpired from the last morning shift up until the end of the night shift at 7 a.m.

After the morning report, the nurses station is cleaned, the crash trolley assessed and the nurses are assigned to the patients they will care for for the shift.

Receiving your patients is like having a whole new family every day.

Meet the family

You proceed to assess your patients by performing a head to toe physical assessment and rate their independence level and ability to perform activities of daily living.

This is the first physical encounter with the patient so you use your nursing judgement to develop an individualized plan of care centered around the patient’s needs and diagnosis.

This is generally an introductory stage and where you develop a one on one and therapeutic nurse-patient relationship. It is the “breaking the ice” stage for me.

Rundown of the surgical morning shift

Depending on the day of the week then the ward requisition is done. This entails thoroughly assessing inventory on the ward to see what is low in supply and what is necessary to order.

Requisition has to be done accurately to ensure that the ward has supplies so that the nurses and doctors can perform their duties efficiently and effectively. 

The morning shift tend to be the busiest and most hectic!

Reasons for the busy mornings

Doctor’s rounds

Various doctors perform doctor’s rounds at varying times. This includes surgical doctors, medical doctors, the orthopaedics team, the neurologists, nephrologists, psychiatrists and dermatologists.

If it is a female unit then the gynaecologist too would make rounds. Sometimes patients are managed by multiple doctors depending on their condition so rounds can become overwhelming for them.

Nurses follow rounds and assist doctors where necessary during rounds. Doctor’s rounds serve as a time to receive the updated management for the patient, discuss the patient’s condition and improvement in the patient’s status.

Doctor’s rounds merely revolve around the patient, serve as an educational tool and ensure that everyone is informed of the treatment plan and are on the same page. The plan of care is re-evaluated and adjustments are made or it continues.

Patients

Most times nurses have to prepare multiple patients for procedures and surgery and then receive these patients from surgery. Nurses handle discharges and admissions, do wound dressings, remove drains, set up intravenous (vein) fluids and parenteral nutrition (nutrition given intravenously).  

Vital signs including blood sugar get assessed and medication has to be given at various times.

Patients have to be cleaned multiple times especially when their condition do not permit catheterization.

Depending on the patients status, nurses have to accompany patients to the radiology department for ultrasound, chest Xray, Doppler ultrasound and any other procedure that has to be done.

Patients have to be propped up in bed to eat and to be fed. Plus nurses have to sometimes suction patients, reposition patients and perform pressure area care.

Nurses have to perform the doctor’s orders and any stat orders given (right now, immediately). The stat orders could include catherization, administration of new medication, insertion of nasogastric tubes, administer blood transfusions and giving enemas.

Visitors and relatives

The morning shift is packed with responding to visitors questions and concerns, directing persons who walk in as an elective case and assisting family members trying to locate a relative.

Nurses have to attend to all other visitors who come in for assistance and advice. Plus there is visiting time! Nurses often are asked by relatives to update them on a patient’s current state and educate them on the patient’s needs.

The morning shift is filled with educating patients and relatives, allaying fears and concerns and providing support and reassurance.

Phone

Multiple phone calls are received and made! Calls range from other health care workers seeking information, calling doctors for patient issues and calling various units for resources.

Patients frequently ask nurses to call relatives on their behalf and relatives also call to inquire about patients.

“In betweens”

Nurses assist patients and doctors where necessary and staff from other units coming in for supplies.

 Attend to patients who call and need assistance at their bedside to empty commodes including urinals or bed pans.

Nurses have to document, lots of paper work!

This is only the beginning of what we do and we are not even half way!

There is no such thing as a typical day in the life of a nurse. A patient can be laughing with you now and a second later going into cardiac arrest. The shift quickly goes from nonemergency to emergency.

Sometimes I say nurses should be given roller skates because of the quick paste at which they have to work and move on the ward.

By the end of the day, nurses are mostly hungry, thirsty, body sore and aching, feet tired and really just want to get home to their family, bed, television or pet.

Thank you nurses for having lots of patience whilst caring for the patients.

I leave the rest to you…feel free to answer and share your experiences as a nurse.

What do you love about your job? When does it get hectic?

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COVID-19 vaccine: gaining control of the pandemic!

Get your shots! No alcohol over here! Only COVID-19 vaccination shots!

My COVID-19 poem

Vaccination- a milestone in Public Health!

Vaccines help our bodies develop immunity to a virus. It is like injecting the live virus inside your body so your body could see how to deal with it and keep some memory cells in storage in case it comes into contact with the virus again.

By the second time around, your body will be more prepared to combat the virus because it had gone through a trial phase of figuring out how to fight it and get rid of it.

Remember that someone could still get a virus that they were vaccinated against if their body does not have sufficient time to provide protection.

Let your eyes see my story

COVID-19? I got vaccinated! I represent Public Health!

I decided to take the COVID-19 vaccine because I am highly exposed to the virus. Since I am a frontline worker, I have been in contact with multiple patients who tested positive for COVID-19.

These patients have to be nursed back to good health so need nursing assessment, individualized care, vital signs assessment, medication, wound care and assistance with performing activities of daily living.

I am ready! Be gentle!

COVID-19 is everywhere! No one knows who is a carrier of the virus. Persons can have the virus and be asymptomatic which means that they are a carrier for the virus but display no signs and symptoms.

Therefore, it is important to treat everyone as though they have tested positive for COVID-19 in an effort to protect yourself and everyone around you.

COVID-19 vaccine and your body

Your body builds immunity to a virus by causing common symptoms such as fever and chills. If you do develop fever after being vaccinated then no need to be alarmed. It is NORMAL and a good sign that your body is developing immunity. Yeyyy!

I am pro-choice but I am also for herb immunity. Herb immunity occurs when a large percentage of the population become immune to an infectious disease to help slow the spread especially to persons who lack immunity.

Herb immunity could lead to eradication of an infectious disease overtime!

Doubts, fears, misconceptions? It is okay

It is okay if you or some persons have doubts and misconceptions about the virus and vaccine. I heard many persons say that they are still monitoring others signs and symptoms before they themselves get vaccinated.

Others postulate that they will get vaccinated later on when there is only one vaccine to be taken, when more research has been done and when a new and more powerful vaccine is developed. Some are not for the vaccine so have rejected taking it completely.

Do a thorough search, read as much as you can about the virus and vaccine or speak to a health care provider with in depth knowledge and accurate information.

Hopefully your doubts, fears, concerns and misconceptions will be allayed.

Come do this with me, we are in this together!

Will I turn to a zombie or chimpanzee?

I have been asked if I felt like I was turning into a zombie or chimpanzee so many times!

Everyone responds differently to the vaccine so you should not use someone else’s experience as your own! Due to our genetic predisposition, body structure, underlying medical issues, age, activity level, gender, mindset and character, our bodies will not respond the same. We are all unique and one of a kind!

I had mild side effects for the first twenty four hours following the vaccine. I got a slight headache, nasal congestion, soreness to the injection site, numbness to the affected arm, knee pain, chills and slight feeling of being “under the weather.” I took two 500 m.g. tab Panadols (Panadol 1g PO) but my headache and joint pain lasted for three days.

My mom’s remedy!

If you are from Saint Lucia then you know what is “fixon!” I used my mom’s common remedy to limit the effects of a common cold. I rubbed my body with fixon- vicks vaporub and shiling oil the night I took the vaccine to limit the chances of feeling like I was getting a fever. That worked for me!

I was unable to sleep or rest on the arm where I took the injection during the night but I slept pretty well.

Stay informed, maintain awareness

Remember to follow safety protocols despite being vaccinated. Still wear your facemask, practice social distancing, ensure constant use of hand sanitizer or hand washing and stay in well ventilated areas.

Vaccination does not prevent you from getting COVID-19.

The first short is to build protection.

Remember to get the second shot. Do not miss the dose! The second shot is given a few weeks after the first shot to build the most protection.

Expectation after vaccination

Signs and symptoms vary from person to person! You might experience pain, swelling and numbness to the injection site.

Fever, chills, headache, tiredness, rash, joint pain and a general feeling of being unwell are all common.

Before vaccination

Keep your analgesics or antihistamines on standby if not contraindicated.

Some persons took Panadol 1g PO before getting vaccinated. It is advised to take medication to reduce your signs and symptoms after you have been vaccinated.

If you do decide to take the medication before vaccination then you might not know how the vaccine would work its normal course, how the medication will impact the viability of the vaccine and the side effects you would have sustained.

That prick was not horrible!

Advice

Wear loose fitted clothing the day you decide to take the vaccine to limit pain and irritation to the injection site.

Drink plenty water to reduce fever and flush your system.

Surround yourself with persons you trust so that you can be cared for in the event you develop severe allergic reactions.

Together let us use the tools available to stop the pandemic so we could go back to a greater form of normalcy at a quicker pace.

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Easy homemade caramel popcorn

This four ingredient buttery caramel treat is super easy to prepare! Caramel popcorn could be served at any event and is a super delicious snack!

I love munching on caramel popcorn during a movie and whilst playing games with my family! It makes a great family treat!

Four ingredients

Preparation time: 15 minutes

Ingredients

1/3 cup popcorn seeds

½ cup oil

½ cup sugar

1/8 cup butter

Pop
Just enough for me

Step 1

Pop corn

Add popcorn seeds to hot oil in medium saucepan, cover and let pop over medium heat until you no longer hear the popping sound. You could shake saucepan once to distribute seeds.

Melted butter
Caramel

Step 2

Melting

Melt butter in medium saucepan over medium heat. Add sugar, spread for even distribution and let melt.

That simple
Let cool and serve

Step 3

Let’s eat

You could add melted mixture to popcorn and mix well in a bowl. I prefer to mix the popcorn in saucepan over medium heat until all the popcorn is golden brown.

I add chocolate chip or chocolate syrup to the top! It is that simple!

Yes, I do not add any salt, vanilla essence nor baking soda. Imagine that!

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Best Map of Saint Lucia in Micoud

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Micoud

Nested in the beautiful community of Micoud is the map of Saint Lucia engraved on a rock near a cliff. The engraving is very similar to the map of Saint Lucia.

It takes about a 20 minute walk to get to the map. The journey is naturally beautiful, peaceful and relaxing. It made me appreciate life and being able to see clearly even more.

Map of Saint Lucia- patiently awaiting the waves to fill the map
Micoud
Beautiful peaks miles away

Nature along the way

Listen

You could “listen to the beauty” of the place. The grasshoppers proudly and loudly sing their song.

The Atlantic Ocean is known to be rough so I admired it from the distant. The rough sea crashes hastily on the rocks and the wind howls but with great joy.

The birds chirped but sweetly and in conversation.

Paradise
Mixture of colors
Seeing, hearing, listening, feeling and embracing “nature”

See

Oh my, you see a perfect view of the Micoud village and all its surroundings. Mount Gimie and the Twin Pitons could have been seen clearly and seem to follow your every move.

Mount Gimie is the highest mountain in Saint Lucia and looked like a giant with its’ peak hidden in the clouds. I really did not know that the tallest mountains could have been seen from Micoud.

You see the waves moving towards the cliff and hitting the rocks in every direction as you head closer to the map.

The sea looked like a painting with its different colours- dark blue, green and turquoise.

The grasshoppers were hopping with excitement that one almost entered my eye.

I saw many palm trees on a beach nearby. Will visiting the beach be our next adventure? Hmmm!

Imagine a vessel was spotted nearby!

East side coastline
All smiles

Feel

You feel hugs from the cool breeze. I enjoyed feeling the grass on my feet and watching the grass run with the wind.

Ouch

The fun journey

Some persons were having a picnic along the way and others were relaxing in their vehicles. The advantages of tropical living!

The views were so clear that you could pin point the various districts on the east to west coast.

I had fun trying to climb the huge rocks and playing with the pricking cactus.

Shine bright
Massive wave
Even bigger
Feeling on top of the world
Free spirit

We made it!

I felt the waves from miles away as it hit the rocks. This was a clear indication that we had made it!

The beautiful coastline was very rocky and picture perfect with the beautiful scenery.

The pregnant clouds made this cloudy day perfect for a hike in this sweet paradise. It really was a fitting and fun activity.

Paradise makes me feel relaxed, at ease and allows me to enter my calmest state of mind. I love all my encounters with nature!

Dislike hiking? Well you could drive to the end of the cliff!

Surprisingly some Saint Lucians want to migrate to have a better life and try something new.

Whereas, some persons from overseas want to move to the tropics to enjoy island living and have a quiet and laid-back lifestyle. Which do you prefer?

Blue, yellow, black and white
Nature is my everything
Always looking to see beyond
Trying to hold the map
Got it!

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Reems Sonson fried ripe plantain fritters

Ripe plantain fritters serve as a delicious side to a meal! Ripe plantain fritters are easy to prepare and only a few ingredients are needed.

Okay so what is ripe plantain fritter?

Ripe plantain fritter is a fried batter mixed with ripe plantain, flour, sugar and spices.

You could serve ripe plantain fritters at any event. It is a sweet treat that the kids might just end up enjoying and it could be eaten anytime during the day.

Let me help you so you could never throw your spotted, soft and “not looking so good” ripe plantain again.

Prep time: 10 minutes      Fry time: 5 minutes         Total: 15 minutes

Ingredients

4 over ripped plantain

½ cup flour

¼ cup sugar

¼ cup oil

1 teaspoon nutmeg

1 tablespoon vanilla essence

½ teaspoon cinnamon powder or freshly grated cinnamon

¼ teaspoon nutmeg powder or freshly grated nutmeg

Optional

1/5 cup raisins

Ingredients

Instructions

Gather all your ingredients.

Peel plantain, cut into small pieces and add to a bowl. Crush using a fork until creamy and smooth. You can also grate or add ripe plantain to a food processor.

Add plantain puree to a bowl then mix all ingredients to form a soft paste.

Add oil to pan and heat to 250 ﹾC.

Drop a tablespoon of the batter into the hot oil one at a time.

Fry until cooked and golden brown on either side.

Drain on paper towel to remove excess oil.

Serve!

Yup it is that simply!

I used a food processor to crush the plantain
Crushed
Mix all ingredients
Mixed evenly
Sized
Fry
Flip to cook well

Special note

The batter does not need to be dipped in flour before frying because the fritters will not stick to the pan. Just ensure that the oil is hot before adding the fritters.

Ripe plantain fritters could also be baked.

Add extra flour to get more fritters.

The fritters burn easily so monitor it closely whilst it fries.

Flatten batter in pan to ensure that it is fried properly.

Ripe plantain fritters taste similar to banana fritters but it is heavy so fills you quicker.

Ripe banana could be used as a substitute.

The riper the plantain the sweeter the fitters.

Breakfast is served!

I enjoyed the fried ripe plantain with scrambled eggs, carrot, white and purple cabbage with a dash of Italian seasoned croutons.

I sprinkled some salt and black pepper on the eggs. What a party in my tummy, I danced my breakfast away!

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Reems Sonson homemade ripe banana bread

Reems Sonson homemade ripe banana bread

I love using over ripped bananas to make banana pancakes, banana fritters, banana cake and banana bread.

Banana bread is a simple recipe! Banana bread could be eaten as a snack but I love eating it with grape jelly for breakfast. 

You could mix everything together in one bowl. You could use a fork for mixing or you could use an electric mixer.

Either way, the recipe is quick yet tasty.

Prep time: 15 minutes   Bake time: 1 hour   Total: 1 hour 15 minutes

Set up ingredients

Ingredients

3 cups mashed ripe bananas

2 cups all-purpose flour

½ cup butter or margarine

1 teaspoon baking powder

½ cup brown sugar

3 eggs beaten

Optional

1 tablespoon crushed pecans

1 tablespoon crushed almonds

1 tablespoon raisins

1 tablespoon chocolate chip

1 teaspoon ground cinnamon or finely grated cinnamon

1 teaspoon vanilla essence

Finely grated cinnamon
Crushed nuts

Directions

1.Preheat oven to 250-350 ﹾC. Grease pan and set aside.  

2.Mix sugar and butter together until smooth and creamy.

3.Add eggs one at a time and mix on medium speed after each addition.

4. Combine mashed banana to mixture, mix well.

5. In a separate bowl, mix flour and baking powder. Then combine dry ingredients to wet ingredients.

6. Put essence, raisins and nuts in batter.

7. Place batter in pan and let bake for one hour.

Greased and ready
Sugar and butter mix
Eggs added
Perfect mix
Oven ready

All done!

If a toothpick comes out clean when inserted to the batter then the bread is ready.

Remove from oven and let cool for a few minutes before transferring bread to wire rack.

Cool before serving.

A+
Cool and ready to serve

Note!

The baking time depends on the type, width and depth of your baking pan. Adjust bake time according to your baking pan!

My oven reaches 250 ﹾC so I allowed the banana bread to bake for one hour. I only have a circular baking pan so my banana bread looked like cake!

You could add any nut of your choice!

I use lime peel for added flavoring and to reduce the smell of the egg.

Banana bread is tastier the following day as all the flavoring settles!

Delicious

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Reems Sonson baked ground turkey recipe

Ground turkey is extremely easy and quick to prepare! It can be used as a chicken, fish or meat substitute.

Ground turkey can be prepared in various ways and used in various dish. It could be eaten with bread, pasta, ground provisions or simply solo. 

Prep: About 10 minutes     Cook: About 25 minutes         Total: About 35 minutes

Set up your ingredients!

3 pounds ground turkey you could use 1 pound depending on your family size and reduce measurements

15 oz sauce spaghetti, tomato or pizza

1 tablespoon ketchup additional ½ cup ketchup

1 tablespoon mustard

½ cup barbeque sauce

1 tablespoon butter or oil

½ teaspoon ground curry

½ teaspoon ground turmeric

¼ teaspoon black pepper

½ teaspoon adobo

½ teaspoon salt

½ teaspoon oregano

One large chopped onion

2 tablespoons finely chopped fresh herbs celery, chives, parsley

1 teaspoon crushed garlic

I used blended seasoning made the day before!

Vegetables

1 cup grated carrots

1 cup grated white cabbage

1 cup grated purple cabbage

Spinach

Optional

½ cup parmesan cheese

Instructions for ground turkey preparation

Step 1: Season

Add unfrozen ground turkey to a large bowl. Add curry, turmeric, oregano, black pepper, adobo, salt, onion, garlic and herbs to unfrozen ground turkey then mix.

Place ketchup, mustard and barbeque sauce to mixture. Use your fingers or a fork to mix evenly.

Step 2: Bake

Add seasoned ground turkey to tray and let bake for 20 minutes at 180 ﹾC. I used a toaster oven so no preheating was needed.

Unfrozen ground turkey
Seasoning mixture
Seasoned and mixed evenly
Baked to perfection! It is not burnt!

Vegetables preparation

Step 1

Add carrot and cabbage to a colander and let boil for two minutes. Then add spinach, boil for an additional minute.

Note

I love crunchy vegetables! You could let your vegetables boil for two more minutes or simply keep the colander covered after boiling. The moisture will soften the vegetables!

I add the spinach last because it gets soft quickly.

Steamed vegetables

Perfect match!

Optional! Seasoned vegetables

Add butter or oil to heated pan then add chopped onions, garlic and herbs. Let simmer for 30 seconds whilst stirring.

Add vegetables, stir and let sit for 30 seconds.

Add baked ground turkey to mixture and let boil for a minute.

Add spaghetti sauce and let boil for two minutes whilst stirring occasionally.

Cool and serve!

Add parmesan cheese on top!

Hope you enjoy this tender and juicy ground turkey recipe!

They work well together
Yummy
Finished product

Other ways to prepare ground turkey!

Sometimes I boil the ground turkey for 20 minutes then add the herbs and raw vegetables.

So many ways to try something! Do what works for you!

Stay tuned for more easy recipes with little prep time and even more creative ways to prepare ground turkey.

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Package

I visited Bay Gardens Marina Haven with my partner in December to celebrate his birthday. This was my second time visiting Bay Gardens Marina Haven but this was my first time spending the night.

We had called to make the reservation over the telephone and selected an all-inclusive package. We both love to eat so we wanted access to unlimited drinks and food.

The friendly receptionist informed us over the telephone that we were not allowed to visit the other Bay Gardens resorts due to the current coronavirus disease pandemic.

Ordinarily guests would have access to the Bay Gardens Family inclusive of Bay Gardens Inn, Bay Gardens Hotel and Bay Gardens Resort & Spa. Could you imagine that guests with an all-inclusive package have access to some of the services provided at all of the Bay Gardens Family!

What a great deal! We really missed out on that deal due to the pandemic! Guests could enjoy all the services provided at the Bay Gardens Family by simply charging services to their room.

Plus you get access to Splash Island Water Park. Book at the front desk and ask about hopping at the Bay Gardens Family!

Splash Island Water Park

Splash Island Water Park is a water sports park located on Reduit Beach. It is filled with water slides almost like an obstacle course. It is a fun experience! It reminded me of the American television show “WipeOut” the first time I tried it!

Welcome to Bay Gardens Marina Haven

Heartbeat

Bay Gardens Marina Haven is in a perfect location. It is located in the heart of the entertainment zone in Rodney Bay. Bay Gardens Marina Haven is directly opposite the Rodney Bay Marina!

Bay Gardens Marina Haven is about a 5 minute drive from the Reduit Beach and all the other popular amenities in the area. The hotel is located about 20 minutes from the City of Castries and 90 minutes from Vieux Fort.

We are here

We parked at the free parking area and headed to the hotel. We went through security as he checked our temperature and ensured we sanitized our hands.

We confirmed our reservations through the front desk and was then taken to our room by the security guard. He ensured that all the electronics were functional.

Checked in

We checked in at 4 p.m. on the Saturday and had to check out at 5 p.m. on the Sunday. Check out is usually at 11 a.m. but you could do a late checkout depending on the availability of the room. Check with the front desk!

Our room

The air conditioned room included a closet with a safe, ironing board and iron. There was a telephone, cable television, coffee marker, refrigerator, kitchen utensils and an assortment of tea.

The bathroom contained a hair dryer, towels and rags. The soap, shower gel, shampoo, conditioner and lotion were in a wall dispenser so you press and release to receive.

Ready to rest
Great presentation
Sitting area
Comfy
Drink some tea!
Press and release
A simple press

View from the room!

Our room had a balcony with a view of the pool and hotel, it was really unique. The sky, pool and the painting of the hotel seemed like one. My sight was pleased and I felt like I was in a baby blue world. The balcony had lots of cool breeze.

The room also had a garden view because it was towards the back of the hotel close to a garden.

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As we explored the three story hotel, I realized that the only area to relax was at the poolside or in the balcony. 

On first impression I wondered what we would do for fun and what activities were available. It made me feel a bit disappointed because I felt like the package was not worth the price.

We tried!

We decided to go for a swim in the pool about after 6 p.m. Who were we kidding!? The water was extremely cold so the attempt was unsuccessful. It was actually funny so we had a good laugh at ourselves.

Lovely
Unique pool design
Light up your world
Ready to jump in
Ever ready
Beautiful

Day light view

Let’s start the day
Pretty me!
Picture perfect
Nature
Oceanside rooms
There is a conference room too!
Dine out
More rooms

Anchor restaurant  

Anchor Restaurant is the only restaurant to dine in at Bay Gardens Marina Haven. It is small and cozy! Anchor Restaurant serves breakfast, lunch and dinner.

We were not provided with a food menu but the waiter clearly outlined the options available. There is a bar in the restaurant so you could have a drink at the bar and watch soccer.

The way to my heart!

After eating the food, I said I saw the reason the hotel is more on the pricy side. Words cannot describe the taste, smell and presentation of the food because it was so well done.

Arrival food

Chicken burger and fries were served with fruits. The tartar sauce on the fries was perfect! The fries were crunchy and well done. We asked for a burger to take to the room because it was that good! I was impressed with the food for the first attempt.

Meal one

Dinner

The area was decorated with birthday decorations and the staff sung happy birthday. It was a really lovely gesture on their part. My partner was really excited and surprised. I felt like it was my birthday during the singing because I was excited too.

Aww decorations

Shrimp cocktail

The shrimp cocktail included fried shrimp, honey dew, cantaloupe, bell peppers and lettuce served with a sweet sauce. The shrimps were jumbo and the mixture of the vegetables and sauce was too delicious. The sweetness of the bell peppers and honey dew gave the salad an extra special taste.

Shaken fruit punch
Shrimp cocktail

BBQ chicken

The dinner menu included chicken or fish with the available sides and of course we chose barbeque chicken! The barbeque chicken had a pinch of ginger that gave it extra flavouring along with the honey barbeque sauce.

The food made me dance! The mashed potato was creamy and thick! Yum Yum Yom yom! I told the waiter to give the compliments to the chef and inform him that the presentation was A+.

BBQ chicken, rice, mashed potato and salad

Rich chocolate cake

Dessert included chocolate cake served with vanilla ice cream. The chocolate cake was rich, chocolatey and not too sweet. It was tasty!

Banana bread was wrapped and given to us, how thoughtful. That was unexpected! The staff for the night were tremendously friendly and helpful.

Later during the night, I craved the chocolate cake. I should have asked for some to take to the room!

Chocolate cake and vanilla ice cream
Banana bread
So filled after dinner!

Breakfast

Breakfast started off with yoghurt and fruits. We then ordered croissant, pancakes, sausage, bacon, salad, eggs and chocolate cake.

I ordered my eggs filled with peppers, onions,  ham, mushrooms and cheese! I love food!

Peach yoghurt! Honey dew, cantaloupe and orange!
Pancake with syrup
His plate- eggs, sausage and salad
My plate- eggs, bacon and salad
I asked for extra, I know! Greedy much!
Chocolate cake and croissant

Lunch

We opted for the chicken stir fry, shrimp stir fry and salad for lunch.

I had the shrimp stir fry which I really enjoyed and my partner took the chicken stir fry. The texture of the spaghetti was prepared just how I love it. It was not too soft nor too firm.

Shrimp stir fry- you could see the deliciousness
Chicken stir fry
Salad!

Dessert

Pizza

We also ordered a pizza, chocolate cake and chocolate ice cream to seal lunch!

Ham and cheese pizza
Chocolate cake and chocolate ice cream

Blue paradise

If you are looking for a quiet, small and intimate hotel to relax then this is the spot. The poolside is heart melting.

You are barely able to differentiate the colour of the pool from the painting on the hotel and even from the sky. They really formed one uniform master piece.

Relaxing on a pool chair keeps you at ease as you enjoy the peaceful atmosphere and picture perfect scenery.

Blue and more blue

Interesting fact

Bay Gardens Inn, Bay Gardens Hotel and Bay Gardens Resort & Spa are all within close range. If you want a beach bath then Bay Gardens Marina Haven is a mere 20 minute walk from the beach. Even closer if you drive!

Bay Gardens Resorts offer many options so you could have a Bay Gardens experience by choosing to stay on the Reduit Beachfront, within the Rodney Bay Village or The Rodney Bay Marina!

Take your pick.

Taking a swim

Tropical island experience

I enjoyed watching the sun set over the yachts. The view of the marina was breath taking. It gives you a tropical island experience. You see the beautiful wavy mountains, the green trees and the sea.

Rodney Bay Marina

Enjoyable

I had an enjoyable stay. I loved the unique shape of the pool. I loved that the hotel was not too crowded as it was mostly quiet. I loved the food and drinks so my palate was fully satisfied from the moment I arrived.I loved it all!

Free Wi-Fi was available throughout the hotel with no interruptions in connection.

The hotel is wheelchair friendly for persons confined to a wheelchair and there is an elevator available although it was out of use during our stay.

Room service was available until 9 p.m.

Yes you can!

Book a night stay or a day pass to chill by the pool, enjoy the food and relax!

Relaxation

Editor- Samue

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This is not a paid or sponsored review but is an honest comprehensive look at my experience at Bay Gardens Marina Haven. I have no affiliations with Bay Gardens Marina Haven and this blog post is based on my personal experience and stay at Bay Gardens Marina Haven.

As for Bay Gardens Marina Haven, I hope this post helps you get more bookings and hotel stays. This blog post is to help build awareness of the stay at the hotel and to help locals see the cost effectiveness of an all-inclusive staycation.

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Soufriere

Here is the reason I had lunch at The Beacon!

I visited Soufriere on a beautiful Friday afternoon to spend the day with one of my close friends. I took a bus from Castries to Soufriere and I slept throughout the bus ride. I needed to catch up on some much needed sleep! After about an hour I had arrived at my destination!

Soufriere is beautiful in every single way! I got off the bus at the bus terminal and took a walk around the Soufriere market. A few vendors were selling their produce but the market was relatively quiet.

It was a cool and mostly cloudy day so I eagerly walked around. For more information on the Soufriere market visit https://ourtropicalliving.com/volcanic-exploration/

Love by first watch!

I saw the Piton staring at me and together we both fell in love with each other. I was mesmerized by her! Her untouched pure beauty, her height, her strength as she went against all odds and how she stood alone as she reached for the sky.

I felt at peace during the long gaze and was so thankful that I could witness such beauty. This was a magical experience! I really love nature and nature loves me back!

I introduce you to Gros Piton
I am in love
Standing as tall as she is

The Beacon

When I got to my friend’s house, to my surprise, I was told that we would be going to The Beacon for lunch.

I said “The Beacon!” out of my astonishment. I immediately remembered the two occasions when I visited The Beacon to celebrate the big “I do!” I could still remember how excited my friends were to celebrate their wedding at The Beacon!

It was only about a ten minute drive from the Soufriere town to The Beacon. My friend had made reservations so our arrival was anticipated. We arrived shortly after 2 p.m.

The Beacon
A colorful delight
Perfect color combination

Jaw drop!

If you take note of the little things like I do then you will become happier as soon as you lay eyes on the place. The building is colourful and attractive. At least to me it is.

The Beacon sits perfectly on a hill overlooking the Soufriere town. Since The Beacon is situated on a hill, imagine what you could see and how far you could see!

I simply cannot describe the view from this angle. You need to see for yourself! If you enjoy nature and appreciate nature like I do then the view will captivate your eyes.

The view is spectacular! Perfect view of the Twin Pitons, clear view of the Soufriere town and lush evergreen vegetation.

I could see the mountains, blue sea with the sun overlooking and even steams from the Sulphur Springs. Click on link to see what the Sulphur Springs look like https://ourtropicalliving.com/volcanic-exploration/

Open air restaurant

The Beacon is an open air restaurant so the view follows you wherever you go. You could relax, enjoy lunch, the view and the cool air.

We were taken to our table and served a glass of water then allowed to get our food. It is buffet style dining so you could choose whatever you like!

This is a plus! Taking whatever you like amounts to taking as much as you like. Right?

I am table ready
Set up
Wow

Lunch

Where do I begin!? The menu included curry chicken, fish strips, green banana in garlic sauce, fried rice, ripe plantain and even sweet potato pie. Also served were, fresh garden salad, steamed vegetables, baked potato and fig salad.

This was my first time having fish strips seasoned with ginger. The ginger added a rich taste to the fish strips. Could you imagine that tartar sauce was served as the dip, now that is genius.

There was really a party in my mouth and tummy. I could not get enough of the fish strips, I need that recipe! The chef excelled and outshined themselves. The food had a really good aroma too.

The food was well prepared and really really really really really delicious. Like oh my gosh delicious.

I enjoyed a glass of tamarind juice after! Yep, I was filled!

Opps I took the photo after everyone ate! That explains the empty trays!
Food looked so good made me forget to take pictures first
Buffet style
Round one
Seconds

Dessert

Vanilla ice cream with chocolate syrup was the dessert served. The missing piece was cake but we were informed that cake is only served on Sundays!

Even the spoon is in love with the ice cream and willingly gives the ice cream its heart

Feel good moment

Since it was a week day, the package inclusive of lunch and dessert was EC $35.00. You could even go for seconds without paying extra money! Such a great deal!

Imagine going for extra food and you only pay EC $35.00 that is a big “wow!”

The package is EC $40.00 on Sundays because extra dessert is provided.

Let your eyes tell the story

Note

The Beacon is located next to a busy highway so be careful along the road.

The Beacon could cater for large events, meetings, birthdays, anniversaries, wedding proposals and just a causal date.

You could visit the Maranatha Gardens next to the restaurant to relax, enjoy nature, watch the plants and enjoy taking even more pictures.

It would be best to call and make reservations instead of doing walk ins. The reservation would ensure that arrangements are made to receive you so you could get to sample all the food.

Walk ins would be subject to the food available at the time because The Beacon gets crowded at times.

I made it a dancefloor
Stunning

Thank you The Beacon

I had fun being my own model during my photoshoot and was able to take some great photos. The photos seemed like they were made for a magazine because of the perfect background.

I had a memorable experience at The Beacon. The place was well kept and the staff were really nice and friendly.

Cater for large events
Beautiful
Beauty every where
I love my country!

No need to second guess visiting

The place was not crowded during my visit!

Two groups came to celebrate a birthday and someone came in for a causal lunch date.

Protocols established by the government to safeguard the population from the coronavirus disease were followed.

Seating arrangements was well done so many persons could visit at the same time because social distancing was done.

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Ojas Spa and Wellness

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OJAS SPA AND WELLNESS

The story behind the visit

I took a friend to Ojas Spa and Wellness to celebrate his birthday because he had mentioned feeling tension in his neck the week before. I mean, what better way to release tension from your neck than to get a massage!

Location

Ojas Spa and Wellness is located in Rodney Bay, Gros Islet. It is close to the JQ Shopping Mall, Baywalk Shopping Mall and all the other hotspots in the Rodney Bay area.

Welcome!
Ojas Spa & Wellness
Always ready!

Romantic

We immediately went into a different environment as we entered the spa. We went from being in day light to instant night time mode with the dimmed lights. The dimmed lights and ambience made the spa really romantic!

The spa was clean, well decorated with candles and the smell of incense filled the room. After a few minutes of waiting we were taken to the massage room. Oohh la la!

The chilled air-conditioned room was homey and quiet. The two massage tables were decorated with a plate filled with scented dried artificial flowers and a candle.

The interior decorations in the room brought me lots of feelings of joy and excitement. The red curtains added to the elegance of the room as it filled the room with a sense of love.

I loved that there was a washroom available in the room.  

See what I mean!
The red dark room!
Love love love!

Full Body Massage

The massage therapists were really professional. They knocked before entering the room because prior we were asked to remove our clothes and lay on the massage table.

The masseuse asked whether we wanted the massage to be gender based since it was a male and female massage therapist available.

I was impressed that she asked because some persons are uncomfortable with being massaged by the same sex and vice versa.

Here goes a plus for you! When you do decide to visit Ojas Spa and Wellness you get to choose between a male or female massage therapist! You comfort is what matters!

I am ready!

The massage therapists started with pressing my arms and legs then moved to massaging my neck. I wondered if the pressing would help loosen my tense muscles but I was about to find out.

My insides tingled when I was being massaged because I am generally ticklish. I wanted to laugh loudly but I held the laughter. Eventually I chuckled and said “ouuu” as my right hand was placed on my back and my arm stretched towards my shoulder.

The “ouuu” was loud enough for the massage therapist to hear so he asked if I was okay. The position of my hand made it feel like my bones were being stretched and would get broken. It made me feel a slight discomfort in my shoulder. Boy did my body need that massage to put my bones back in place!

This really was a deep tissue full body massage. My neck, back, arms, hands, legs, and feet were massaged. Even my belly too. I felt a burning sensation in my back, waist and legs during the massage of these areas.

The burning sensation was short lived but very powerful. It felt like it was sweet pain, comforting yet slightly painful.

My toes and fingers cracked loudly when pulled! This was a great massage and I felt at ease after.

The massage lasted for about 40 minutes. The experience was a good way to relax, release tension and relieve my neck from the acute pain I had been feeling.

Couples massage

Going for a massage by yourself could be a bit intimidating since you have to undress plus have a complete stranger massage your body. Knowing that you have someone familiar next to you helps you feel more relaxed and comfortable during the massage.

Couples massage are romantic but it can be done with family members and friends to help increase bonding since it is a shared experience.

I enjoyed that I had the experience with someone and that the massage started and ended at the same time!

Try the couples massage and tell me about it! The thought of having someone you know next to you during the massage keeps you more at ease. You could talk to each other, have some good laughs or simply enjoy the massage in complete silence.

 Be aware

There is no need to feel uncomfortable or like your body will be seen because only the areas being massaged at the time are exposed!

Your private areas are covered properly!

The massage therapist will give you ample time to turn to your back! Your cover sheet is used as a barrier so that your naked body is not seen!

Wine for your taste buds!

Thank you!

Thank you Ojas Spa and Wellness for your knowledgeable and experienced team, for the free glass of wine and for allowing me to have this relaxing experience.

Soon to be visitors!

Different yet affordable treatments are provided at Ojas Spa and Wellness so call for treatment options and pricing.

Remember to drink plenty water after the massage to help rid the body of the waste from the massage oil.

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Dinner date

My significant other took me on a causal date night in October to celebrate my birthday. Although he did not mention where we were going I figured it out when he took a left turn towards the Vigie Marina.

We had been to Coal Pot Restaurant on multiple occasions but we make every visit seem like our first because we love to pamper our palate.

The waiter greeted us with a smile and warm welcome as we approached the restaurant. He had us choose our table and escorted us to our seat.

We decided to choose a seat near the waterfront so that we would easily see the shoal of fish as they came close by.

There were many chairs with balloons tied to the back, apparently many other people would be celebrating their birthday here too.

Our table was beautifully decorated with birthday decorations, a lantern and candle. I was really impressed!

Ready for dinner!
Dine next to the water

Coal Pot Restaurant

Coal Pot Restaurant is a waterside restaurant located in Vigie, Castries near the George F.L. Charles Airport. The location of the restaurant provides a view of the Vigie marina and the city.

The atmosphere is fresh and cool. The backdrop from the night lights of the city and the marina mixed with the ambience of the Coal Pot Restaurant is very romantic. It makes you dream the night away.

Free parking is available.

Patiently awaiting the arrival of the sea creatures

Dinner is served

The three course menu is written on a chalk board and placed near your table for easy view.

Menu
Shaken fruit punch
Drink of choice all the time

We were served crispy and buttery bread. My significant other enjoyed the bread so much that he asked for extra.

Starter

Pumpkin soup

The pumpkin soup was thick, creamy and well prepared.

Calamari creole

The shrimp cocktail was not available so I chose the calamari creole.

The calamari creole was a mixture of sea food so I enjoyed some parts but it needed extra flavouring and had too much sauce for me.

I did not enjoy the calamari creole as much as I would have liked but you could try it, you might just love it especially if you’re a sea food lover.  

Main course

Ribeye steak

Ribeye steak

The meat was served with vegetables, mashed potato pie, potatoes and ripe plantain. The ribeye steak was juicy, tender, well done and flavorful.

Lamb chop

The lamb chop was soft and richly flavored to the bone. I really enjoyed it and was able to clear my plate!

Dessert

I was filled by dessert time so I had to squeeze in the ice cream and cake.

Chocolate cake and vanilla ice cream

The chocolate cake was warm and seemed like it had just been baked. It was moist and appetizing.

Guava cheesecake and vanilla ice cream

I loved the guava cheesecake so much that I allowed it to melt in my mouth. Perfection!

Visit to celebrate

Coal Pot Restaurant is spacious enough for a business lunch, birthday celebrations or for any special event. You could decide to dine in for a quiet, relaxing and romantic or causal lunch or dinner.

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Alize Inn Hotel A day pass

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Day pass

Alize Inn Hotel is located in Mongiraud Gros Islet which is in the northern part of the island. Alize Inn Hotel is about five minutes from the Gros Islet town and about 15 minutes from the city Castries. If you are coming from Vieux Fort then the hotel is about 90 minutes away.

My co-workers decided to visit Alize Inn Hotel for a day pass to enjoy our off day. The day pass was from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. for EC $135 per person. This was my first time visiting Alize Inn Hotel so I was eager to see the place.

Bus ride

My co-workers and I took a Gros Islet bus from Castries to Mongiraud to get to the Alize Inn Hotel. We got off at the nearest bus stop and began walking to the hotel.

We did not know exactly where the hotel was but we had a slight idea. There is a sign with an arrow along the way to help provide directions so you will not get lost.

We were amazed at the steep hill in front us. I thought “wow!” Climbing the steep hill was very tasking. It was about a two minute walk from the bus stop to the hotel.

Note that getting to the hotel by foot would not be ideal for persons with mobility issues.

Checked in

There is a flight of stairs leading to the reception area. More stairs we exclaimed! There is no elevator so this could pose a further problem for persons with mobility issues.

We went through reception and got a tour of the place. Due to the amount of persons in the group for the day pass we were given two rooms.

Rooms are provided for a day pass depending on room availability at the time.

Double bedded room
Single bedded room with private balcony

Room

The clean air conditioned room was well organized. There was a television, closet, safe, iron, ironing board and refrigerator.

The bathroom contained a tub, shower, toilet, face basin and a hair dryer.  

There was also a private balcony to enjoy the magnificent view.

View from the balcony

Serve yourself

If you want to prepare a specialty then you could be your own chef and use the kitchenette. The common kitchen area is equipped with a microwave, stove top, sink and toaster over.

Exceptional

Maintenance was being done on the outside so the hotel was a bit noisy at first but it was exceptionally peaceful thereafter especially since the hotel was not crowded.

The hotel is small so there is not much to do other than eat, relax and enjoy the pool. That is exactly what we were seeking on that day.

You could also surf the internet and enjoy the free Wi-Fi available.

The grounds were well kept and the building looked newly painted.

Food time!

Menu

Delicious treats

The day pass included breakfast, lunch, afternoon snack, unlimited juice and soft drinks. Four alcoholic cocktail drinks per adult was also included in the package.

Four cards were given to each person to get their drink of choice.

Fruit bowl

Breakfast

Breakfast commenced with a fruit bowl which included five fingers, cantaloupe, pineapple, honey dew and grapes.

We were then served pancakes, sausage, bacon, eggs, cheese, ham and toasted sliced bread. The eggs were well made, the bacon was crispy, sausage juicy and pancakes moist.

Everything tasted yummy yum yum! We were super filled and satisfied with the way breakfast was prepared.

Toasted garlic bread
Accra

Lunch

We were given two options to indulge in before lunch, garlic bread or accra. I chose the garlic bread and oh boy was it delicious.

Lunch itself was so enjoyable. We were served seasoned rice, macaroni and cheese, potato pie, plantain sticks and salad with the meat of choice. I chose the jerk pork and it was mouth-watering!  

Dessert

Snacks

Red velvet cake and ice cream were the snacks of the evening!

Our drinks

Secrets in a glass!
Amaretto sour

Amaretto sour

The amaretto sour was sweet at first but as it settled and the mixture blended in it tasted sweet and sour. It was a job well done and it tasted well.

Piña colada

Piña colada

This sweet cocktail made me fall in love with the tropics all over again as I remembered the days when I sipped it whilst at the beach. The piña colada brought back fond memories.

Tequila

Tequila shot

We placed the salt on the back of our hand, drank the tequila then bit into the lime and sucked it. I said “ahhhhhhh” after the shot. The tequila shot made my mouth hot hot hot!

Fireball

Fireball

The fireball really did taste like a fireball, it was a candy in a glass! It reminded me of my childhood days when I sucked on the fireball candy.

Highlights

If you do not get a room and want to freshen up, it is okay! You could use the shower near the poor and use the washroom near the pool to change.

Alize Inn Hotel is located close to the S&S Plaza for your shopping needs and close to most of the “hot spots” in the northern part of the island.

You could visit Rodney Bay and go to the JQ Shopping Mall or Baywalk Shopping Mall to shop or simply window shop. Need a sea bath? Even better you could visit the Reduit beach.

The hotel is quiet and spacious enough to host meetings, special events, birthday parties and even wedding celebrations.

Feel free to call or email for bookings. Google Alize Inn Hotel for more information or visit their Facebook page.

Outdoor shower

Outdoor pool

Want to go for a swim? After you rinse yourself, you could go to the pool to enjoy the water. The pool is only four feet deep so no need to panic if you are unable to swim or float.

The pool side is filled with umbrellas, lounge chairs and coconut trees. You could relax, read a book, soak in the sun for a tan or enjoy nature and its surroundings.

I need a repeat!

Alize Inn Hotel is a family friendly beautiful establishment with a view overlooking the buildings nearby and some green nature isle.

The waiters were friendly and delivered our every request. Routine check-ups were done to ensure that we were okay

We did have many request from wanting more bread, wanting lots more juice and even water.

It was a good place to relax at the pool and enjoy a few non-alcoholic drinks for the day. Although I live in paradise, I felt like I was in paradise.

Perfect weather, perfect company and it felt like I had been in another country.

This was a good experience with good service, good food and drinks and an overall great atmosphere. I will visit again!

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Au Poye Park

How it all started!

My friend Ellery decided that we should have a Soufriere lime to celebrate our birthdays since I was born on October 12th and both she and our other friend Christiana shared October 16th

She said that she would make all the arrangements and that it was a place I could blog about. As with most outings, I was excited to try something new and spend some time with my friends.

She said that we would be visiting Au Poye Park, I had never heard of Au Poye Park nor did I research the place but I trusted her decision.

Girls trip on the West coast

I met with two of my friends- Janel and Christiana in the city and we were ready to head down to Soufriere to celebrate our birthdays.

The drive down for a Friday afternoon was rather quiet. I could have counted the amount of vehicles we passed along the way as we existed Anse La Raye.

It was a cool and cloudy day, what I call “perfect weather!” Then again living in the tropics is filled with “perfect weather” even when it rains most of the day.

The west coast is filled with many scenic views, green vegetation, steep hills, deep valleys and lush peaks reaching for the sky.

There are so many things to see that you do not know what exactly to focus on because the tropical view is breathtaking. All sites that you see are picture perfect.

Saint Lucia is simply beautiful, I love nature so much and I love living in paradise! I enjoy being a tourist in my own country.

Plas Kassav

Plas Kassav when translated in English means Cassava Place. It is customary that I stop at Plas Kassav when I am on the west coast because not stopping for cassava bread is simply unacceptable!

Although I have not sampled all the flavours, I love, love, love, love the cherry raisin cassava bread. It is extremely tasty, soft, chewy, cherry and raisin filled and easy on the palate. This mouth-watering treat is that good and leaves me wanting more!

There are a variety of flavours ranging from chocolate, saltfish, banana, apple raisin, coconut and cinnamon.

The staff were extremely friendly and even offered to pose for a picture.

Hard at work mixing the cassava bread dough

Viewpoints of the Twin Pitons along the way!

The peak of the Piton can be seen from miles away
Saint Lucia’s iconic Twin Pitons
Claiming my freedom, inhaling more positivity and embracing nature

Soufriere town

As we approached the Soufriere market, the town came alive. We could hear the loud conversations near the market from the vendors, the drivers on the bus stand and from passers-by. We stopped at Ellery’s home for a quick break and then headed to Au Poye Park.

We drove and drove and drove. We drove and drove some more. I felt like we were lost even though I did not know the place. We sort directions from people we saw along the way and continued with the journey.

The view along the way is splendid. It first appeared like we were headed towards the sea then it seemed like Gros Piton was caving in on us as we got closer. The views made the long drive worth it. If you like sweet potato, there is a lot of it to see along the way.

As we got closer to the small community, the place looked familiar. Of course I had been here! My family and I had been there for my mom’s last round-de-island trip almost a year before she passed away.

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Fond Gens Libre

Fond Gens Libre is a small community located at the bottom of Gros Piton. As we passed through the quiet community, I saw many different fruit trees filled with fruits along the way.

During my last trip here, the community members were playing cricket, playing music, barbequing and having fun. One of the grown men even gave my family and me a tour of the community and shared some of the place’s history.

Getting to Au Poye Park

Are you up for the adventure?A lady from the community sensed that we were lost and gave us directions to Au Poye Park. Put on your hiking boots and let’s go on the adventure together!

Follow the rocks that lead to the forest and keep along the trail to uncover biodiversity and the reward that awaits.

Although we had gotten directions, we remained in denial and maintained that this had not been the right place because of the rocky pathway. The helpful lady insisted that we followed the trail.

As I stared at the rocks, I wondered how I would climb but I was filled with joy to go on the adventure.  

A powerful and loud sound of what seemed like a waterfall was heard but could not be seen. This raised my level of curiosity because I really wanted to see the waterfall.

We had a good laugh as we watched each other try to relive the “girl days” to climb the rocks.

The view along the trail was evergreen, the place was quiet and the pathway was rocky. At last, we saw a glimpse of the waterfall.

It must have been a 5 minute walk before we saw a sign saying “Welcome to Au Poye Park.” I grew a bit breathless during the journey but was happy for the exercise. 

Trying to decide my next move to get to the top
A distant glimpse of the waterfall
We are almost there
What insect is this?
We made it!

Au Poye Park

Wow, what a beautiful garden this is I said. You could hear the waterfall, the sound of birds chirping and see the top of Gros Piton from every angle! This was really a unique way to have lunch and experience nature.

We were greeted by the staff and saw that the place had been designed for a birthday celebration. How thoughtful! We took a few pictures and went on to seat at the table.

How thoughtful…
The birthday girls- October babies
We are ready!

Starter

We had some wine and enjoyed each other’s company. I could not believe that we were still hearing the waterfall “sing” whilst at the table, it was splendid.

Lunch started off with accra commonly called fish fritters served with a spicy sauce, it made my insides tingle and I loved that feeling.

Sparkle in my glass
Lovely presentation with the accra

Main course

The main meal was then served, I ordered barbeque ribs. The ribs were well prepared, well-seasoned and the sauce gave it extra flavour.

The meal included rice, breadfruit fingers, flavoured ripe plantain, fresh garden salad, beans, macaroni and and cheese and green fig salad.

The food was extremely delicious and I was able to clear my plate despite being ridiculously filled.

Local juice was also available but I opted to drink my water.

Ribs, oh yeaa…

Dessert

Homemade local ice cream

The local homemade ice cream is made from seasonal fruits. Many creamy flavours to choose from including breadfruit, lime, mango, banana, soursop and peanut. They also featured a piton beer flavour.

I enjoyed all the ice cream flavours but loved the peanut and mango the most.

Thank you Jerma for serving us and ensuring that we were okay!

History of Au Poye Park

Au Poye Park got its name because of the poye trees that took over the place. The creole word poye translates to white cedar in English.

Au Poye Park is a landmark and historical place. It was originally inhabited by Marie Charles also known as Ma Sheil and her husband until hurricane Allen in 1980.

The hurricane forced them to move to the nearby community of Fond Gens Libre and the husband sadly died the following day after sustaining injuries during the hurricane.

Mrs. Marie Charles AKA Ma Sheil original owner of Au Poye Park. Continue to rest in peace
Charmaine Charles, owner of Au Poye Park
Trying to touch the top of Gros Piton
First sign of civilization on the way back from climbing Gros Piton

Wosh nene

Wosh nene translated into English mean God mother of all rocks. It is one of the largest rocks along the Gros Piton trail.

Wosh nene is an ideal rock for rock climbers I would suppose because I was tempted to try the climb.

Snuggly fitted beneath the rock is a cave. Visiting Wosh nene was one of the highlights of my trip because this was the first time that I saw a rock this size in Saint Lucia.

Lots to do at Au Poye Park

Tour the park and learn about the history. The owner Charmaine Charles does a fantastic job with teaching the history

Have lunch and try the homemade tropical ice cream

Purchase some souvenirs

Visit wosh nene

Stop for refreshments before or after you climb Gros Piton

Or, you could relax

Special note

Washrooms and showers are available.

Rooms are unavailable to overnight but arrangements can be made for persons interested in camping for the night.

Au Poye Park is open for wedding celebrations, birthday celebrations, special events and meetings.

Set a date and call to make reservations for a unique and memorable experience.

I had a spectacular time at Au Poye Park and I hope to visit again. The atmosphere was cool and peaceful. The walk was worth the food and experience. Au Poye Park serves as a sweet escape for nature lovers.

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Latille Falls

Out of the blue

It was a Friday morning when my cousin decided to take me to Latille Falls. I had visited Latille Falls years ago but did not have a tour of the place nor did I go to the waterfall. With excitement I agreed to go on the adventure. It was a really hot day so the idea was ideal. I packed my swim wear, a change of clothing, applied my sunscreen and was ready for the journey.

East coast

Since this had not been a planned outing, we had to purchase our meals along the way. We decided to stop at Plante’s Place in Dennery to grab a bite. I purchased some fried chicken and a baked chicken meal served with rice, fig salad, ground provisions, peas and fresh garden salad. Party in my tummy!

Although I am a little rusty with the driving, my cousin allowed me to drive from Dennery to Latille Falls. The traffic was bearable and the drive was fun as we listened to music and sang along.

The east coast is filled with rich vegetation so many fruit and vegetable vendors were seen along the roadside selling their produce. Of course, I stopped to get watermelon! This is one of the many reasons I love island living. Fresh fruits and vegetables are readily available and accessible!

Latille Falls

Latille Falls is located in Micoud and is about 30 minutes from Dennery and almost an hour from the city. The gap leading to Latille Falls cannot be missed as there is a sign at the entrance along the Micoud Highway. The drive from the Micoud Highway to Latille Falls was cool and quiet since it is a mostly forested area.

As we got closer to the entrance and headed into the garden, I heard the loud and forceful sound of the waterfall. I looked around and it was a green oasis with birds chirping. So relaxing, I felt at ease.

We were greeted by one of the workers who asked if this had been our first time visiting and whether we wanted a tour of the place. We paid a small fee to tour the grounds and got a spot to have lunch.

The friendly dogs sat and watched with anticipation as we enjoyed our meal. The dogs eyeballed us for the entire meal as they patiently awaited the leftovers.

Even the dog wanted to take a quick picture before lunch

Peaceful

Being at Latille Falls was a peaceful way to experience nature and be away from the outside world. This was really a tropical experience, you see a variety of birds, herbs, flowers and fruit trees.

Except for the sound of the waterfall, birds chirping and swaying trees it is a perfect peaceful spot. You can mediate, destress and be off the grid. This peace enables peace of mind.

Fish pedicure

We passed through the wooden cabins to explore the gardens and saw the fish pond. The worker excitedly told us to put our heels in.

This was my first experience having fish nibble on my feet in a pond. I sat on the bench, placed my heels in the pond and saw the shoal of tilapia fish approaching. The small electric shocks from the nibbles were ticklish so I laughed and screamed. Every part of my body felt the tickles.

I had to remove my feet from the pond after a few seconds to help ease my laughter, I could not believe that I was getting a fish massage! My feet felt more relaxed after the fish pedicure.

Fish pedicure

Heading to the falls

The walk to the falls was about a minute and the pathway was well maintained throughout. I used the wooden siderails for support along the way because of the steep slope.

The distance and topography could be tasking for individuals with mobility issues so I recommend taking constant breaks. Stop to enjoy the scenery, have fun and capture the moment.

As we got closer to the falls, the loud rushing sound of the water was heard and it was even more powerful. I said “wow” when I saw the falls because it was spectacular. It had rained during the night so the pool appeared brown and muddy.

We placed our items on the bench chair and marveled at the beautiful scenery. The place was shady, fresh and cool. 

View from the trail
Meet the falls

Impact

I sat on the rocks beneath the drop point and enjoyed the water as it landed on my back. It was relaxing although I said “ouch” at times.

This really felt like a medium to deep pressure massage. The water was cold on first contact but I got used to it as my body adjusted. I could sit here for hours!

Deep into the woods

The worker informed us that there was a downstream bath point in the woods. The trail was down a steep hill and the walk was shady and about 20 minutes but the trip was worth it.

I felt like I was in the jungle. You get to experience being in the woods, many tall trees and extreme quietness. You could lose track of time in the woods as you look beyond the woods and try to see the many tree tops. Simple but beautiful pleasures.

As you get closer, you could hear the falls. Calming is the sound of the water! There were various pools to enjoy. No matter which pool you choose, upstream or downstream…you are in for an adventure!

Nature
Deep in the woods
Lower bath point

I will visit again!

My time at Latille Falls was quiet and relaxing. The place was not too crowded with visitors.

I got to climb the mango tree to pick some mangoes and the worker insisted that I return another day for more mangoes.

The owner of the establishment said that his son makes mango cakes. I have not tried mango cakes so I would love to try those on my next visit.

A country girl
Feeling like queen of the jungle

Things to do at Latille Falls

Have a picnic

Go on a hike

Explore the garden

Pick the seasonal fruits

Visit the fish pond

I will say no more, visit for yourself and tell me about your experience!

Have you visited Latille Falls? What did you do during your visit? What would you do on your next visit?

Reems

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Thank you!

Grief or dealing with grief is something we all will go through in life. It has not happened to most of us, happened early for some of us and has happened multiple times for others.

Going through this life changing event https://ourtropicalliving.com/how-should-i-cope-how-can-i-move-on/  has taught me the importance of good relations. My family and friends have shown such interest in my well-being that I am surprised by the level of love received. 

Good and bad things will happen in life but how we react and respond determine how we adjust to the situation at hand. I would like to say a special thank you to the individuals who have made dealing with the death of my mom “almost less challenging.”

Thank you Luvis

I did not know that funeral preparations could be so stressful. The thought of having to bury my mom got me anxious so the funeral preparations were horrifying.

My mom had a joy for living and being surrounded by family so I wanted her funeral to be family oriented and a celebration of her life. Sorting through my mom’s personal items for burial was not easy and handing her clothes to the secretary at the funeral parlour made my heart drop and splatter into pieces. Registering her death was even more painful.

Throughout my challenging journey, I had the help and support of my cousin Luvis. Luvis was with me during my mom’s hospital stay and throughout the funeral arrangements.

She made the burial process a lot easy as I constantly had someone to speak to and assist where necessary. I appreciate the few taps she gave me on my shoulder in an attempt to bring me back to reality as I drifted in my thoughts and lost a sense of connection with the world.

Thank you cousin for the extra special treatment during this time. I appreciated the early morning visits, the late nights, the good food, your company and most of all your time. Throughout the up and down you were there despite having your own medical issue. I really appreciate you Luvis.

Luvis!

Thank you family

I have a close knit family so the togetherness felt during the funeral arrangements was nothing new. Although we had varying ideas on how the funeral should be, in the end, all plans were executed desirably.

My mom’s death hurt us all so much and came as a surprise. My family members did not know how to react or respond to the situation at first. However, overtime we were better able to discuss what had to be done and how we would proceed with the funeral arrangements.

I say a special thank you to my family for the support shown as I cried my insides out. Thank you for crying with me and most of all thank you for assisting with the funeral ceremony.

Families can either come together or grow a part during crisis and I must say, this made us stronger and grow even closer. Thank you for providing for my mom even when she parted earth. I will forever be grateful for you all.

Thank you friends

I had so many surprised visits from close friends that I felt overwhelmed. Thank you for checking on me, coming to pay your respect and for your presence. Thank you to those who came over to cook and make me laugh. I did have a good time even during my sadness.

A special thank you to Janel, words cannot explain how much you taught me during this time. You really were my shoulder to cry on despite being miles away. You empathized with me every single day, thank you!

Janel!

Classmates turned into co-workers who then turned into long time relationship

Jlo!
Unexpected visit from Christianna

Thank you co-workers

I express gratitude to my co-workers for crying for me, crying with me, messaging and for the kind notes. Thank you for the visits and attending the funeral. I appreciate you for everything for words cannot express what your kind action meant to me.

As health care workers we sometimes get used to death from dealing with it regularly. To experience death of a loved one is beyond imagination, nothing prepares you for it and nothing can explain how you feel.

As I watched my mom’s lifeless body, laid next to her, held her and cried, I saw some of you crying too so I express thanks.

Thank you everyone

I was surprised that persons I had not spoken to in years reached out and sent their condolences. My Facebook friends were concerned and gave support.

To everyone made this difficult time a little easier to deal with thank you. Thank you to my mom’s friends for their words of encouragement. Thank you to those who actually told me that they did not know what to say, I appreciate the honesty.

Thank you to everyone who offered assistance, gave advice, brought cards, wreaths and for giving my mom such a beautiful farewell.

Thank you for speaking highly of my mom and shedding tears when you mentioned her. It showed how much she touched your life and made an impact on you.

Thank you to the chefs for providing such delicious food on the final day, the servers, those who fixed the tomb and those who decorated the house and church. Thank you for the helping hand.

Thank you to everyone involved in the wake and burial and for everyone who said that they are a call away. I will forever be grateful for your time and presence.

Thank you Rambally’s Funeral Parlour

It was challenging for me to visit the funeral home knowing that my mom’s body was laying somewhere in the building. The secretary Tayan was so pleasant and patient with me.

She was very professional, seemed like she knew my mom and felt my lost with her expressions. I had lots of questions which she politely answered.

The funeral parlour did an exceptional job with the preparation and presentation of the body. I had to look twice before I recognized that it was my mom laying in the casket. She looked beautiful in her deep sleep.

Thank you Rambally’s Funeral Parlour for caring for my mom on her final days on earth.  

This has been my hardest good bye but I know that I will see you again mom

Have you experienced death of a loved one? If so, join Hardest goodbye by Sophia Sonson on Facebook and tell me about your loved one.

Reems

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Through this all, I finally realize that life will always go on whether it is with or without us for time does not stop whether we are died or alive. Live a happy life with no regrets and be thankful for life.

The world’s only drive in volcano

Memories of you constantly cloud my mind mommy. Sometimes they make me smile and other times make me cry. Before I could not believe that you died but now I am just surprised that you died and even more surprised that you died so quickly.

I keep asking “why did this have to happen to me?” but then again death, loss and hurt are for everyone.

Approximately one week after your burial our relatives decided to go to the Sulphur Springs for a mud bath. These were all things mommy loved “family time.” Thinking of her can be horrific yet it can be the sweetest thing…

A challenging road

When my relatives decided to visit the Sulphur Springs for a mud bath I immediately thought “the first trip without mommy.” Planning a trip without her was not easy at all.

The day before the trip I was heartbroken. As I wrote the food list, it was challenging for me because I knew that I no longer had her to help prepare a dish so I chose to prepare the item with the least amount of work.

We were a team so we would split the task for any outing, now that she is gone everything is left up to me.

Road trip

As a relative woke me for the trip, with my puffy eyes and heavy head, I lazily got myself ready to prepare breakfast and get ready. Ordinarily my mom would wake me before hand with excitement and ensured that I got myself ready. As I packed my bag I heard her voice telling me what I should ensure to carry.

Twin Pitons
Trying to touch the top of the Piton is a must

Bus ride

By 5:30 a.m. we stacked the bus with food and left for our journey to Soufriere. The bus ride was a bitter sweet moment because I did not hear my mom speaking the entire way.

Listening to my relatives, the cool air and the evergreen trees along the way made the journey bearable. The highway was merely empty so I watched the trees as they seem to run with the wind.

Due to the topography of the west coast, the drive to Soufriere shifts you from left to right and makes it difficult to stay still on the seat. Some sections of the road are steep and have lots of corners but your final destination is worth the ride!

I felt a sense of relaxation from the splendid views: green mountain, many banana plantation, a variety of crops in people’s backyards and glimpses of the sea from so many places. Saint Lucia is really breath taking!

Please tell me what fruit this is…
Enjoying the hot bakes and cocoa tea at the Soufriere market

Soufriere market

This was my first time visiting the Soufriere market at 8 a.m. The first thing I saw were lots of bright colours as vendors and shoppers crowded the place. I went from booth to booth with curiosity.

My relatives were able to buy hot bakes and cocoa tea, some fresh jelly coconuts and affordable clothing items at the flea market. I enjoyed the music, the friendly conversations with the vendors and the smell of the fresh fruits and vegetables.

I still got cassava

I was able to purchase farine and cherry cassava in Soufriere since Plas Kassav was closed. Plas Kassav located in Canaries has a variety of locally made cassava bread so ensure you pay them a visit on your next west coast trip. I really love the cherry and chocolate cassava bread from Plas Kassav.

Mud bath

The Sulphur Springs

You know you are approaching the Sulphur Springs from miles away because of the unique scent. The place really smells of a rotten egg. My god son just two years old said “nasty” when he took the smell of the Sulphur Springs thinking that someone had spoiled the air with a fart.

The Sulphur springs are a tourist destination so it is usually packed with tourist. As we got to the mud pools I was happy that the place only had a hand full of people. I was about to go into the water and it got me as excited as a child who just received a new toy.

I was filled with anticipation, would the water be too hot and would I scream. Before submerging myself in the black water, I tested it with my toes then placed my foot in and gradually my entire body. This helped my body get used to the water‘s temperature.

Soak yourself in one of the four mud baths of different depths and different temperatures. It is rejuvenating and your skin will feel smooth. Your body will feel like it has gotten a massage and you will be detoxified.

Applying the mineral packed mud on your face is like getting a free facial cleanse. You could paint yourself a cool design with the mud and use the steam vents for a back massage.

Note: It is best to visit the Sulphur Springs in the wee hours of the morning. You will get to enjoy the mud bath when the water is much cooler as opposed to afternoon  when it is hotter due to the sun.

Do not wear any white swim wear because the mud bath will get your whites black.

A walk to the volcano

Drive in Volcano

You can get a tour guide to learn about the volcano and the mud bath. The volcano is dormant and last erupted over 200 years ago. The volcano is said to be the “world’s only drive in volcano.” Imagine walking to the top of the volcanic mountain and seeing the black steaming hot water pools boiling with a raging sound.

As you walk along the pathway of the volcano to the left, you can hear a wide range of birds chirping loudly. The soil looks orange and the trees are extremely tall.

There is even a natural hot water pool that you could enjoy. I screamed ouch and held my foot as I dipped into the soil because it felt like I had gotten a first degree burn on my toes due to the water’s temperature. I felt at ease as my body got used to the natural hot water pool and enjoyed the clear water.

Rudy John Beach in Laborie

Beach stop

When coming from Soufriere travelling southwards, stopping at the Rudy John beach in Laborie is a must! We were greeted to a crowded beach as families barbequed and made it a fun family Saturday.

It was very sunny when we arrived and the sea was calm and inviting. We got some ice cream from the local shop and enjoyed it in the hot weather.

Living in a tropical island is pure paradise and it is easy to plan a fun day but there is obvious sunburns most times especially with water activities. Apply sunscreen and be mindful of the time you engage in outdoor activities.

This blog post is dedicated to my loving mom, Sophia Sonson 1961- 2020.

Continue to rest well mommy, it is sad but it is true…here creating memories without you but my memories of you will never go away. Most times I feel like I am drowning and my world has ended but I find peace with thoughts of you.

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How should I cope, how can I move on…

That special weekend in May

Friday

Getting that call on Friday May 15th, 2020 from my cousin saying that my mom had difficulty breathing gave me palpitations and I got an instant tummy ache. After calling my mom twice on her cell, she answered and I heard the calmness in her voice, she said she was feeling short of breath.

I told her I would call the ambulance service and she said to call them now. I was so afraid that I felt weak and the need to use the washroom because I did not want anything to happen to my mom. I forced myself to complete my tasks at work and left for the hospital near my community.

My mom was groaning and moaning when I arrived and was receiving oxygen. She had looked completely different from how I had left her that morning. She looked even more yellow, face had sunken further, her abdomen was more distended and her lower limbs more swollen.

Although in a high fowler’s position, she only felt comfortable with aid from her six pillows. After being assessed and receiving IV fluids she was sent to the main hospital. The ambulance ride was far but okay for my mom as she kept saying she felt better.

I was really worried about my mom that my insides were turning, I felt nauseated, was perspiring and thought I would have a bowel motion on myself. I tried to hide my discomfort from my mom and the emergency personnel by sniffing my shiling oil and wishing that we were already at the hospital.

Saturday

My body felt stressed as I had just worked 12 hours and had to stay at the hospital with my mom. A CT scan of the chest showed that she had bilateral pulmonary embolism (blood clot in the lungs).

By Saturday afternoon my mom was jovial and almost seemed herself. The doctor told her that she might be discharged during the week and she was so excited that she informed almost all the relatives.

She loved her grand kids so much

Sunday into Monday

My mom grew restless on Sunday afternoon but I left her in good spirits and with her saying that she was okay and feeling better. About 5: 20 a.m. on Monday, my mom called and said she had not slept and was not feeling well. I told her to hang in there and I would be with her shortly. I was hopeful so I packed our passports and traveling essentials in case we had to leave the island urgently to seek medical assistance.

My heart felt heavy when I saw my mom. I fed her breakfast, cleaned her and tried making her feel comfortable. After my mom saw my brother at midday, it seemed like she was ready to face death. Her breathing pattern changed, she became sleepier although still restless.

During my brother’s visit, she mentioned that today was not her day and today is the day. I felt so overwhelmed, all I could have done was held her and cry. Deep inside, I knew my mom was dying. As her breathing pattern got worse, my loved ones did breathing exercises with her. I encouraged her to call on God for healing.

After 6 p.m. on Monday, I heard my mom call her deceased grandmother then saw her eyes roll back. As her body gave way, I saw her slowly release her strength. Deep inside I knew then that was it. Even as the medical team tried to resuscitate her, I prayed and believed in God for healing.

I went into a room by myself and started praying, I pleaded with God but nothing I tried brought her back. My mom tried her best to stay alive, she fought death and remained strong throughout and although she did not want to leave us, it was her time to go.

A decent mommy

Months before

My mom developed a chronic persistent non-productive cough from January 2020 and said that she had caught the flu that was going around. My mom did a chest x-ray and everything was unremarkable. As the months went by her right lower limb became even more swollen, x-ray of the foot showed rheumatoid arthritis.

Her abdomen became distended so an abdominal ultrasound was done and showed that she had an abdominal mass. A CT scan of the abdomen and pelvis confirmed the mass. A biopsy of the abdomen was done and the result was inconclusive (the doctors were not sure of the origin of the mass).

It just seemed like whatever we tried was not working in our favor. My mom did not want any treatment in Saint Lucia so arrangements were being made for treatment overseas. The corona virus disease did not make the travel arrangements easy and she sadly passed away on the day that everything would pull through.

Constant memories

My life has changed drastically overnight and although the world keeps on going, it seems like I am stuck in the past. I still feel like my mom will walk through the door and mention my name.

When I get home I still knock on her door and sometimes enter abruptly and shout mommy. Basic things remind me of her and I want to continue making her proud. My mom gave me everything and I feel like I did not give her enough in return.

Sometimes I experience anxiety attacks where I tremble excessively, get palpitations, instant headaches, tummy ache then diarrhea. Most days I have loss of appetite, inability to sleep, go into a gaze, become spaced out and forgetful. Other days I want to destroy everything in my path and scream in my pillow.  

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Unique emotions

I cry everyday not because I am worried about where you are but because I miss you and I still need you. I need your strength, I need your encouragement and I need your support. I feel like there is no one that I can speak to like I would speak to you.

I will try my best to celebrate your life because I know that your presence is with me every single moment. Some days I feel like I am doing well and say I will be strong because my mom was strong. Then seconds after I find myself crying because I know that my mom is not with me physically.

It is like who will help me separate my hair, who will be my outfit judge, who will I rush home to tell about my day and experiences. I feel numb to everything and no words can describe the pain I feel.

I cry sometimes when I hear someone call their mom because I no longer have mine. I will never truly be happy because something is always missing and that is my mom’s presence or simply hearing her voice. It is extremely painful when I think that she will not be there for the birth of my kids if I ever have, seeing me get married, own my own home and just doing things to make a parent proud.

I have cried so much that at times it is like I have no more tears. I just feel a sense of emptiness always lingering and a dark gloomy cloud overshadowing me. When I laugh I am even surprised, it is like wow I can laugh through all the hurt. My heart is so sore. Nobody can prepare you for sudden death of a loved one and words of encouragement do not make you feel better.

She loved shopping in Martinique

My everything

Mommy was my everything. My mom was super supportive and gave me encouragement in every business idea that I had. Growing up I was loved, we did not have much material assets but my mom ensured she made herself available and pushed us to succeed in everything.

She loved saying “is me that teaching you all tricks” and “if you all do not learn under me.” I thank God for giving me these 7 extra years because 7 years ago around this same time she was ill. Thank God that she did not die instantly from the blood clot so I got three days to take care of her and give her extra love. 

Following the death

My phone was a hotline. I received many calls, messages and visits. I lived in disbelief that my mom had died and went through all the stages of grief. I got agitated quickly and could not tolerate constantly having people over because my mom was a private person.

A traumatic experience

I have been living in the past, playing the image in my mind of how I saw my mom’s eyes roll back. I have seen these images from previous death of patients and in movies but to experience it first hand and when it hits home, hmm it seems unreal and unimaginable. I was really traumatized and I am still traumatized. I would do whatever it takes to bring her back, I would trade my life just to keep her alive but sadly none of these things will bring her back.

Unanswered questions

I just wish to see her where ever she is, to speak to her, know that she is doing well and that she is happy. I got to the point of “who will” who will wash my clothes, who will cook for me, who will clean the house, who will wake me during my naps even though I get irritated, who will say Reems when they have something nice to tell me, who will I call after work to ask if there’s food, who will I call to make a request for what I feel like eating, who will help me in the so many things I need help in, who will advise me and who will teach me tricks like she used to say.

I relied on my mom and I needed her when she was alive, I still need her as she is gone. No idea was ever dumb, she would caution me and supported me in everything good. She has helped me so much and taught me a lot but I was not ready to let her go and I am not ready to say good bye.

Unbelievable

When I was a child I used to cry when I envisioned you dying but for it to happen like that. Hmm I can only shake my head. Letting go is so difficult. I live every day in disbelief that my mom died, died so soon, so young and without any warning signs. It was a quick and surprising death that I will never understand.

I keep saying what if, what if I forced her to go to the hospital earlier for treatment what if I tried harder to get her to do more tests although she did all necessary tests, what if I gave her blood thinner medications daily and what if I made her do yearly checks. Then again she did not want any treatment here, was always saying she feels fine and she had no pain.

I feel a sense of regret, like I should have seen the death and like her death was my fault. In all these what ifs, I am like, I feel like and casting of blame, I realized that I would only go crazy and have a mental breakdown.

My mom’s children were her greatest joy and she loved being a mom. I believe that life continues after death and that my mom is in another stage of development. It is just challenging not knowing what exactly that stage is unless I experience it for myself- “life after death.” I worry whether my mom is okay, whether she has eaten, is she happy, is she with familiar faces, so many questions I need answers for.

Remember we must die whenever we are born and we should really be celebrating death and not birth. We do not want to fight for our space in the cemetery or the vase which will house our ashes but we are quick to fight for assets and things we claim are rightfully ours. Be humble, be kind.

Her final days

Rest well mommy as you enjoy your sleep 10th September, 1961- 18th May, 2020. We will meet again.

Reems

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This blog post is based on my feelings and personal experience.